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February 23rd, 2011, 03:16 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Over the last week I lost my pregnancy symptoms and just had a gut feeling baby was gone.
I tried to move my appointment up to earlier last week but the receptionist said I was to not been seen until 10 weeks. I know now I am going over there head next time I need anything.
So I go to my appointment and as I thought they were not even going to doppler or Ultrasound. I said something to the nurse and she said she thought it was weird given my history. I told her I just have this feeling something is wrong so she got the midive before we started the long pregnancy paperwork. The midwive tried the doppler for about 5 minutes then got the DR to give me a ultrasound. He tried an abdonimal one first and said he can not get a good look so then he did a vagial one. Still could not get a good look but after a couple mins rooting around he said baby has lost its heart beat and I am so sorry then explained that it looks this way because it already started breaking down. He measured what was there and said it stopped growing around 8w 5d. He also said I am already dilating.
I said what ever we do I DO NOT want another D&C because it cost $3100 out of pocket and I am still trying to pay off the first one. So he said because I am dilating and the baby is starting to break down I should be ok to go natural. He offered me the pills if I wanted to speed it up but I am just going to play the waiting game. For some reason after my last D&C I felt like I was wrong having it removed from my body like that and should have let it leave me on its own time (weird and crazy yes I know).
So now we just play the waiting game on when the pain and bleeding starts (he said may be tonight may be 7 weeks from now whos knows)
I think we might be done... hubby said no more after the last one so I do not see him agreeing to it again.
If I want to try again the DR said once I have passed everything he will do blood work to see if there is anything he can find. Then if I get pregnant again he will test me while pregnant and wants me to take a baby asprin. DR said if I decide to TTC again and get pregnant he will give me ultrasounds once a week for peace of mind.
So this now makes 3 losses for me 2 of them in the last 4 months.
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:22 PM
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Kristin...TTC #1!
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Michigan
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Oh sweetie, i'm so sorry. ***Extra hugs** and my thoughts are with you and your family.
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:24 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Pennsylvania
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Lindsey I am so so sorry your going through this again. Please if you need to talk, know that I am here for you.
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:24 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Michigan
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I am so very sorry!  I hope everything passes soon for you, so you can try to start healing! I hope your DH gives you another chance to TTC if that's what you want. I just want to cry for you!
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:28 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Oh no I hate seeing ladies come back here with bad news/ My hugs and prayers go out to you 
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:29 PM
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Wife/Mommy/Photographer
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I am so sorry Lindsey I hope that everything goes okay and that you can pass everything on your own and soon. I don't blame you on the D&C thing.
I wish things would have been different...isn't it weird how you JUST KNOW something is wrong? With this one, I felt the same way too when I hit the amount of weeks/days we lost the last one. Then only a few days later I found out I was right.
BTW if you do need to do the pills, it isn't so bad (given the circumstances of course). I always opt for the cytotec but my body did really well with it the first time, and it did the second time too. Both times I already started to bleed though which I am sure helped. However this past time I had not dilated at all yet and it still worked like it should.
Anyway, we are all here for you. I hate this for you so much.... 
Love ya.
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:29 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I am so sorry to hear this.... It saddens me to see another loss... Life is really unfair.. I think it is great that your Dr is going to help next time if you decide to give it another go.. You will be in my thoughts and prayers through this difficult time.. Many many HUGS!!!
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:36 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I am so sorry Lindsey... Cried for you today. ((Hugs))
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:42 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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So sorry for your loss.
Hopefully DH will change his mind. It seems he already has once in the past.
Take care.
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February 23rd, 2011, 03:44 PM
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Lovin life and family
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I am so sorry Lindsey.
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February 23rd, 2011, 04:09 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Im so sorry Lindsey for yet another loss. May god help you through this and you find some peace soon.
Our women's intuition is a strong tool.......I have been feeling the same way as well, and my gut is usually never wrong. I wish we could blissfully ignore these feelings, but its part of being a woman, and I pray your gut tells you something so very different in the future.
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February 23rd, 2011, 04:10 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I'm so sorry.
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February 23rd, 2011, 04:11 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I'm so sorry, Lindsey.
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February 23rd, 2011, 04:17 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm so sorry sweetie. 
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February 23rd, 2011, 04:51 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I am so sorry Huge, huge hugs 
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February 23rd, 2011, 04:51 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I am so sorry Lindsey. This is such horrible news. My thoughts are with your and your hubby tonight.
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February 23rd, 2011, 05:06 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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My heart breaks for you. Please know I'm here if you ever want to talk. hugs!
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February 23rd, 2011, 05:16 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I'm so sorry.
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February 24th, 2011, 03:25 AM
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Waiting for our Miracle.
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Lindsey, I am so sorry you and your family are going through this again. I wish there was something I could do. Please know I am thinking about you.
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February 24th, 2011, 05:27 AM
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POAS Queen
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God, Lindsey, I don't even have words Thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry about what your family has lost now, including the little one that is going to miss out on getting to know you. I hope that, when you're both ready, you're able to try again in the future -- I hope this isn't it, like you say it might be. We're all here for you, please let us know how things go
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Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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