Forum: Trying to Conceive after Loss
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February 24th, 2011, 06:13 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
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What was something that someone said to in IRL or on JM that really helped you?
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February 24th, 2011, 06:53 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: South Carolina
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One of my mother's friends bought me a necklace with a angel on it so that my angel would always be close to my heart. I wear it all the time. It really helped me.
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February 24th, 2011, 06:57 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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After my first loss a lady at the hospital who was my one nurse when I came out of my D&C said to me "Your baby was perfect. That is why your angel went to heaven and didn't come here. God knew that you are strong and he needed your perfect angel in heaven with him." That has always stuck in my head.
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February 24th, 2011, 10:18 AM
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It's me
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Location: Massachusetts
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I don't think anyone said anything particularly helpful, but I don't think I struggled with it very much, so I didn't really need comforting. I am a very internal person when it comes to this kind of thing. i handle everything in my mind. That kind of makes me sound like I internalize and go into denial, but that wasn't the case at all.
The one thing that was said a lot later that I liked what something I posted about a while ago where my husband made a statement about the baby leaving because the body wasn't good enough and that it will come back again. So, I've never felt like I lost anything.
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February 24th, 2011, 11:44 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Virginia
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I believe it was Tobi who told me that something was wrong with our angel so God took it to fix it and will bring back to me later. I know I have the wording all wrong but that has always stuck with me. If she sees this maybe she can correct me!
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February 24th, 2011, 01:32 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Honestly, I don't really remember anyone saying something helpful that really stuck with me. I think the most helpful things were "I'm sorry" and "I'm here if you need me".
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February 24th, 2011, 04:07 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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It was really sweet when my boss bought me a cookie on our coffee run - it had chocolate chips on top in the shape of a smile and said I needed a smile  He knew about the m/c but didn't really bring it up directly after the fact, just got me the cookie.
What was not helpful was some moron on my DDC saying something about God's plan this and that. Sorry but I'm still mad about it. It might not have upset me if it was a friend IRL or even on JM but it was a stranger so I didn't like that..
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February 24th, 2011, 08:29 PM
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POAS Queen
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: San Diego, CA
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A good number of people told us, "When you're ready, try again. Future babies will never take the place of Drew, but you're going to be great parents, so don't rob the world of the people you will raise." It was REALLY nice to hear, all those different parts.
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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February 24th, 2011, 08:36 PM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jun 2009
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nobody really said anything, but with all my losses I know they are being watched over by my grandma, she passed 2months before my son was stillborn so I know he was and is well looked after, same with my other 9 losses, they have their great grandma
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