Forum: Trying to Conceive after Loss
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February 24th, 2011, 12:13 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Need a question thread so-
I know this one has been asked many times, but what the heck....
When you get/ or got your BFP how long are you going to wait to tell people IRL?
My current plan is to wait till either after the gender scan (yep 18 weeksish) or until I just can't hide the bump. Including my parents who just don't understand pregnancy loss. Should be funny to see their faces when I tell them- hey we are pregnant and it's a ....!
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February 24th, 2011, 12:52 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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My parents/brother & sister right away the rest of the family I plan on waiting until I'm 20 weeks at least. I'll never feel comfortable with a pregnancy until the baby is in my arms.
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February 24th, 2011, 01:10 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I will tell our close family right away and then everyone else 12 weekish if I can keep quiet that long.
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February 24th, 2011, 01:23 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I'm thinking we will start telling after we see a heartbeat on early u/s. If I had another m/c I would probably tell them anyway, so why waste the excitment? 
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February 24th, 2011, 01:25 PM
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It's me
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I will tell everyone right away because I don't want to have a fear hanging over me.
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February 24th, 2011, 05:32 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Southern PA
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We will probably tell people after we see a heartbeat... Pretty much all our friends/close family know we have been trying and about our losses.
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February 24th, 2011, 07:24 PM
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Wife/Mommy/Photographer
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Shadeauxe
I will tell everyone right away because I don't want to have a fear hanging over me.
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Ditto.
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February 24th, 2011, 07:57 PM
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POAS Queen
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We're "early revealers." People know we want another baby, and a select handful know we're actively trying -- others are under the impression we're just waiting for life to happen... But with the sadness people shared with me with my loss, I don't want to keep anyone waiting for good news. Since I've never had a miscarriage/stillbirth, I don't know what it's like to have told everyone and then have to come back and deliver bad news... I haven't talked to DH about it, but I assume we'll be telling everyone ASAP just like last time. We literally started making phone calls minutes after my BFP, DH hadn't even made it out of bed yet 
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(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
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February 24th, 2011, 08:03 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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We are planning on telling my parents when we go visit them in a couple of weeks (9 weeks). My 18 year old already knows, and we are debating when to tell our 7 year old because she probably would spill the beans to everyone else. A couple close friends know. I won't tell work until after the first trimester, hopefully, and we won't announce to the rest of the world until I start to show.
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February 24th, 2011, 08:03 PM
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Lovin life and family
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We have told a few close friends. But since I can't hide it at work much longer I will have to tell others. I was trying to wait until our gender scan but stuff keeps coming up that I can't not tell people. We still haven't told the parents though.
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February 24th, 2011, 08:33 PM
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Super Mommy
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probably will spill the beans the moment the test comes back positive.
atleast to my friends.... might wait til an U/S to tell SO's mom and grandparents, they have been heartbroken with each loss.... but i might not tell my parents and family til I pop or have the kid!
my mom isnt the most supportive and doesnt want us to have any more kids...even though she only has one bio. from me and doesnt consider the boys family(stupid) and she tells me i should keep my legs closed or get fixed.( when i ask her to take my daughter so i can have a couple hours me time, she tells me if i would have kept my legs closed i would have all the me time in the world..)
She would kill me if she found out we were trying and if she even knew we were planning on being foster parents whatever happens!
She doesnt need to know, i dont care if shes around. My friends and SOs family will be thrilled
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February 25th, 2011, 03:53 AM
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Waiting for our Miracle.
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We were going to wait until the 2nd triemester. After having 2 losses I think we will start telling people after our 1st u/s where we see the heartbeat. I plan on letting work know after that so I can get my hours changed at work.
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