Shock to say the least (x-posted) (SIL's pg mentioned)

Cait&AngelAbove · #1 February 26th, 2011, 06:20 PM

I went to my in-laws today to see my SIL (DH's sister, the one I am close to, the one that had the baby last April). Well she and my MIL sat me down to tell me that she is pregnant!!! My SIL not my MIL.

Shock is the only word I can use to describe how I feel. I cried when they told. I could not hold back the tears.

My SIL was terrified to tell me because she was no scared that it was going to ruin our relationship. I think she handled it beautifully. It means a lot to me that she sat me down and told. I am one of the first people she has told. She and I are so so so close and I am not going to let this ruin that. I told her that I will basically live through her for the next nine months. Well plus the

Her husband is deploying in October.

He will be gone for a year. He missed their first child's birth as well. I am going to stay with her some while he is gone for training next month and I will staying with her off and on while he is gone. She is due in May so my MIL and I will be going to stay with her when she has the baby. She will be having a scheduled c-section. My MIL will be in the room with her and I will be with the kids and then will go up to the hospital.

I am happy for her. I am. I am also devastated that it is not me. I am trying to be okay. I will be there every step of the way for my SIL. She needs me and I will be there for her... even if it kills me.

JessP · #2 February 26th, 2011, 07:16 PM

Your SIL is so lucky to have such a wonderful SIL

. I am sure that was super hard to hear. It sounds like you have a great attitude about it. I hope she has a great pregnancy.

SillyKitty · #3 February 26th, 2011, 07:32 PM

That was very sweet of her to sit you down and tell you. Is she really due in May and just telling people?

Servilia · #4 February 26th, 2011, 07:50 PM

I can imagine that was a shock. But I'm glad you guys are close and that she handled it with grace and with consideration for your feelings.

TnPhotoMama81 · #5 February 26th, 2011, 10:07 PM

It is a tough situation but I am glad things were handled well when she told you the news. She is very lucky to have you as a SIL.

.:Shortcake:. · #6 February 27th, 2011, 05:53 AM

I'm glad she told you how she did and it sounds like it was best for all involved. You are an awesome SIL.

luvmykids623 · #7 February 27th, 2011, 06:01 AM

I'm so glad she thought of you and was nice enough to sit you down and tell you herself. You're an amazing friend to her!

Cait&AngelAbove · #8 February 27th, 2011, 07:11 AM

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Originally Posted by SillyKitty

That was very sweet of her to sit you down and tell you. Is she really due in May and just telling people?

Sorry I mistyped. She is due in October. With Liam she was due in May. I do not know how I got that confused.

Thanks ladies. I am really trying to be there for her. It means a lot to me that she sat me down privately to tell me. I am doing the Lupron Depot shot right now. So we cannot start trying again til August or whenever my cycles come back. It is hard to know that there is a small chance I will be pregnant by the time she has this baby. I love her to death though and I am excited for her. I am glad that I am in a position to be able to help her. Thank you for your support!

ohnicole · #9 February 27th, 2011, 04:29 PM

I'm so sorry that you have to go through these emotions, but it sounds like you have an amazing relationship with your SIL! We are here when you need us

Cait&AngelAbove · #10 February 27th, 2011, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ohnicole

I'm so sorry that you have to go through these emotions, but it sounds like you have an amazing relationship with your SIL! We are here when you need us

Thank you! I struggled some today but tried to snap myself out of it. I am very lucky and she and I have a great relationship! Many SILs don't. I told her that I refused to allow her being pregnant to ruin our relationship. I already picked out a cross stitch I am going to make for her. I am definately going to need you ladies through all of this. Thank you for being there!

missy123 · #11 February 27th, 2011, 07:35 PM

You may want to tell her that at times her pregnancy may hurt you and you may need to take a couple days break. Not that you love her or her family any less, just that you may need a little space.

You are a very good friend!

Cait&AngelAbove · #12 February 27th, 2011, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by missy123

You may want to tell her that at times her pregnancy may hurt you and you may need to take a couple days break. Not that you love her or her family any less, just that you may need a little space.

You are a very good friend!

Thank you! She told me that she knew that i was going to have tough times during her pregnancy so she told me to be open with her and tell her how I feel. It took her two years to have her oldest so she understands for the most part how I feel right now. I know there are going to be times when I will not be able to handle anymore baby talk. Today I was very angry. Angry about our loss, angry that I have endo, angry that I cannot ttc right now, and angry that both my SIL's are pregnant and I am not. I just wanted to kick a dog but I did some thing for me and was able to snap out of it.