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March 6th, 2011, 08:01 PM
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March 6th, 2011, 08:55 PM
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This is upsetting to me. Sure dealing with kids can be hard at times, but I think it is completely selfish to be a part-time mom only showing up for the good times. I know her kids are probably better off having not lived with a parent that doesn't want them . . . but do you think running away from them makes them feel any less rejected? I don't know. . . I just know that I could NEVER walk away.
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March 7th, 2011, 03:17 AM
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This article makes me very, very angry. I don't think it's fair for any parent to be a "part-time" parent. I would give ANYTHING to be a mother. I welcome every aspect of being a mom, the good and the bad.
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March 7th, 2011, 04:54 AM
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I saw this article a few days ago. It is infuriating. I agree with Katie! I would do anything to be a mom and I am happy to take on everything that comes with it.
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March 7th, 2011, 06:25 AM
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On this article I will have to agree with one of the comments- these are people who shouldn't have had kids in the first place. Parenting is NOT a part time job. As a working mother I feel like I have to defend sending my child to daycare, SAHM's (not all by any means) many time insinuate that I am a part time parent, which I vehemently disagree with.
The article is sad. I feel for the loss of closeness those children have to be experiencing. Let alone the physiological damage it can have on them and their future relationships.
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March 7th, 2011, 06:30 AM
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I read this and it didn't bother me. Some people aren't good full time parents. I can tell you I would have much rather preferred having my father part time if it would have meant he would have been engaged and actually talk to me once in a while without yelling at me and telling me how worthless I am.
You can read a million books beforehand but you never know what parenthood will be like until you've experienced it. The reality was obviously too much for her. I believe the mother did the best thing for her children in her situation and if it's not hurting them, then it's not my place to judge.
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March 7th, 2011, 01:31 PM
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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe
I read this and it didn't bother me. Some people aren't good full time parents. I can tell you I would have much rather preferred having my father part time if it would have meant he would have been engaged and actually talk to me once in a while without yelling at me and telling me how worthless I am.
You can read a million books beforehand but you never know what parenthood will be like until you've experienced it. The reality was obviously too much for her. I believe the mother did the best thing for her children in her situation and if it's not hurting them, then it's not my place to judge.
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Agreed. If she was unhappy being a full time mom, she would have been miserable and made her kids life miserable.
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March 7th, 2011, 02:25 PM
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Originally Posted by terajet
Agreed. If she was unhappy being a full time mom, she would have been miserable and made her kids life miserable.
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I agree as well. This would not even be news if she was a man.
I personally do not understand how she could leave her kids like that as I was an overly devoted mother when the boys were little. However I have witnessed some pretty crappy mothers out there.
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March 7th, 2011, 03:26 PM
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Originally Posted by terajet
Agreed. If she was unhappy being a full time mom, she would have been miserable and made her kids life miserable.
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I agree with this. I had a miserable life with my father, and I would have preferred if he was a part time father and spent quality time with me over the hell we went through with him full time. However, it makes me angry that she would be blessed with two beautiful children when she didn't want them in the first place.
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March 7th, 2011, 04:23 PM
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Originally Posted by luvmykids623
I agree with this. I had a miserable life with my father, and I would have preferred if he was a part time father and spent quality time with me over the hell we went through with him full time. However, it makes me angry that she would be blessed with two beautiful children when she didn't want them in the first place.
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The article I read never said that she never wanted them. She said she did the whole devoted mom/PTA thing for 8-10 years. It's not like she left them when they were infants.
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March 8th, 2011, 03:08 AM
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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe
The article I read never said that she never wanted them. She said she did the whole devoted mom/PTA thing for 8-10 years. It's not like she left them when they were infants.
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The one in the OP says that she never wanted to be a mother. 
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March 8th, 2011, 07:18 AM
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Originally Posted by luvmykids623
The one in the OP says that she never wanted to be a mother. |
I would like to read the article that you read....
Last edited by Im.Nayomi; March 8th, 2011 at 07:21 AM.
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March 8th, 2011, 07:23 AM
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Originally Posted by luvmykids623
The one in the OP says that she never wanted to be a mother. |
Guess I didn't read the first sentence. Whoops. 
It doesn't change my opinion though.
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Originally Posted by ~AngeLWings~
I would like to read the article that you read....
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The link is in the first post.
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she decided to leave her kids behind o/t this caught me off guard.
and 2-4-2012, chemical 
