[~Tanya~]

I posted this in the TTC after recurrent loss subforum, but thought this board is probably a good place for input because there is more traffic... I'm still not 100% about this & I hope none of you ladies will think less of me or be offended by this...

I have this almost desperate desire to have another baby, but am not getting any younger and many men my age either don't want to have or don't want anymore children & I'm not sure I'm willing to increase the risks as I get older for all of the things I have to do to maintain a pregnancy - so I talked to my daughter's father & asked if he would just get me preggo. I know it's a little out of the ordinary, but I am so scared to wait & never have the opportunity

We actually haven't started trying yet, but I will this weekend. WDYT?

[Shadeauxe]

If you're asking for validation, I think you know in your gut whatever it is that you want to do and that what we think isn't relevant in any way shape or form.

If you're asking just at a general level, I don't have any problem with it, but again, who cares what I think? It's not my life.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Okay so my personal opinion is if it works for you guys then great I think that as long as your both comfortable with the situation and know what you both want out of it (even after the fact) then go for it.

[RinkMom]

Is this the one who just came back in your life? How involved has he been with your DD? What are your expectations of him? I would think that if it works for you, then go for it. Good luck!

[Jessica121706]

I think that you need to talk to him about the things that Karen and Katie touched on. Know going it to it exactly what he wants out of it and what you expect from him...Will he be signing over all parental rights? Does he want visitation? Will there be any child support or will he need to help cover costs of pregnancy. Make a list of everything and anything and he should do the same.

If you can agree on everything then I say go for it!!! Good Luck Babe, and keep me posted.

[missy123]

If you are completely devoted to possibly raise this child by yourself then I say go ahead and do it. Now a days many single women are getting pregnant with IUI and donor sperm. Just make sure that in the back of your mind you do not have any expectations from this guy - He is an EX for a reason.

[*SamF*]

I agree with he others, make sure you know what his expectations are, your expectations are and then if necessary get it in writing.
If he plans to have nothing to do with the new baby but plans to have a relationship with your daughter, you need to also think about how the new child will feel about his/her father not wanting anything to do with them, but does see their siblings.

AS far as not being 'together', if it works for you then great! It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about it.

[Cait&AngelAbove]

I think it is completely up to you.