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March 8th, 2011, 02:25 PM
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Hi ladies. I'm a bit of a newbie. My name is Justine. A little about me....been married to DH (Casey) since November 2005. He's a submariner in the Navy. While we were stationed in Guam, we were lucky enough to conceive our son Aidan the minute I got off the pill He was born March 28, 2008 just three months before we moved back stateside.

We decided to TTC again in October of 2009, but had trouble because AF only showed up once. Finally in March of 2010, I was diagnosed with PCOS. We started on metformin, and kept TTC.

Although my cycles were more frequent, they were still irregular, so in September 2010, I got a referral to an OBGYN, and they gave me a scrip for a round of clomid. I felt like AF was coming, so I skipped the provera and just waited it out. Two weeks later, AF was still missing. I thought if I POAS, AF would show up the next day and I could start the clomid. To my total and utter surprise, I had a BFP on September 26, 2010. We were ecstatic. According to my cycle information, I was almost 6 weeks along. My doctor scheduled an appointment at 8 weeks.

At the 8 week appointment, there was only a sac. Because of my irregular cycles, the doctor was convinced I ovulated much later than I thought, and I was only 5 weeks along. They took my blood to test my hcg and progesterone levels. Everything came back normal for a 5 week pregnancy. They scheduled an appointment for two weeks later to make sure the baby was growing.

On the night of October 26, 2010 (two days before my scheduled follow up visit) I started a weird spotting episode. I had spotted with my previous pregnancy, but this just didn't look right. I tried to keep calm and waited it out til morning. Woke up, nothing there. Mid morning, it came back, and I called the doctor. They asked me to come in right away just to check things out. I wasn't actively bleeding, but when they did the sonogram, there was a sac with a tiny speck, but the baby was not developed as far along as it should have been and there was no heart beat. I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage. Completely devastated and not able to handle waiting around to see if my body would eventually realize what happened, I opted for a D&C. I had the procedure done on October 29th.

My cycles did not return after the D&C and in January of this year we started a round of just Clomid (I'm avoiding metformin because the side effects I had were awful). However, I failed to ovulate in January (50mg dose) and in February (100mg dose). I'm now getting ready to start Provera and my third round (150mg dose) this month.

I'm finding this process to be extremely stressful and frustrating. I never thought having another baby would be this difficult. And I definitely didn't expect to miscarry after having a healthy baby. I'm trying hard to stay positive, but with each failed round of Clomid, I find myself getting more and more depressed and discouraged. DH isn't really understanding my feelings, so I thought I'd pop in here and get to know some of you ladies who have been in my shoes
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March 8th, 2011, 02:47 PM
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Welcome! I'm very sorry for your loss and for your struggles. It is a very heartbreaking situation. I hope you get your BFP soon!!!
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March 8th, 2011, 03:02 PM
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Hi there Justine! I am so sorry for your loss and for everything you are going through on top of all of that! I can imagine how frustrating and devastating the whole ordeal is for you. I hope you ovulate this month and can give your DS a baby brother or sister soon! Keep us posted!
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March 8th, 2011, 03:51 PM
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Welcome, I am so sorry for your loss! Hope you get a BFP soon
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March 8th, 2011, 04:29 PM
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March 8th, 2011, 05:26 PM
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Welcome! I am so sorry for your loss!
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March 8th, 2011, 06:32 PM
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I know what you mean about having a healthy baby then a loss. It just never occurred to me that I would have a loss after a baby. So, I know where you are. I hope that your cycles get more predictable and that the clomid does the trick. I am pretty new myself and have found all of the ladies here to be very sweet and helpful.
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March 9th, 2011, 02:58 AM
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Welcome to board. I am sorry about your loss.
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March 9th, 2011, 06:08 AM
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Hi and welcome, sorry about your trouble; i hope you get a bfp soon
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March 9th, 2011, 06:46 AM
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Welcome! I'm sorry about your loss- I had a D&C about the same time you did. Hope you get your BFP soon!
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March 9th, 2011, 08:25 AM
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March 9th, 2011, 10:11 AM
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I know what you mean about having a healthy baby then a loss. It just never occurred to me that I would have a loss after a baby. So, I know where you are. I hope that your cycles get more predictable and that the clomid does the trick. I am pretty new myself and have found all of the ladies here to be very sweet and helpful.


Hello and welcome!
I had a healthy pregnancy and then a recent loss. It was something that never ever crossed my mind would happen. I hope that you get your bfp soon!
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March 9th, 2011, 10:57 AM
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Welcome to the board. I am very sorry for your loss. I also have PCOS so if you have any questions please don't hesitate to PM me. I hope you get your sticky BFP quickly.
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