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March 14th, 2011, 11:57 PM
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The public affairs shop out there doesn't have enough bodies to send to meet the public affairs needs in Japan. They're looking for about 10 West coast public affairs Marines to deploy, with four from his shop likely going. We'll find out in the next couple days for sure, then he'd leave a couple days after that.
He told his shop today that he really wants to go, but has to make sure I'll be okay with him leaving before he can say for sure. I don't want him to go, and a lot of people want to... But it's important to him. He's never gone to Iraq or Afghanistan, and any of the short deployments he did while we were in Japan were just training exercises. He's never gotten to deploy for a humanitarian aid mission. I know he needs this... So when he asked if I would be okay, and told me that it's perfectly fine for me to tell him to stay, I told him to go.
   
So now we wait for word.
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
Last edited by Erin84; March 16th, 2011 at 07:39 PM.
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March 15th, 2011, 12:14 AM
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*hugs* what a tough spot to be in Erin  Knowing that he needs it but not wanting him to go....argh.....
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March 15th, 2011, 12:25 AM
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I know exactly how you feel honey .. for us.. we did not even have a choice..he is to highly qualified and has to go to the mainland... he has done humanitarian missions before and has gone to iraq and afganistan.. but he is all excited about getting another little star thingie on his uniform and he really does like helping people... but it still stinks.. you want them to be happy.. but really half of you is saying yes go and half of you is saying please stay .. On top of that.. they like to cut your pay while he is gone...then give you some of it back but only if you reach 31 days... it's a huge pain... Darn army wives show makes it look sooo easy :-) I wish it was like that
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March 15th, 2011, 02:43 AM
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Erin, I am sorry. That is a hard position to be in.
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March 15th, 2011, 03:11 AM
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Erin, I can't imagine having to make such a hard decision but I am so proud of you for being so selfless and knowing that DH is doing this for others. You are such a strong woman and we will be here for you through it all. Please KUP on what the decision they make is.
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March 15th, 2011, 07:08 AM
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I am so sorry Erin! I know that was a tough decision!
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March 15th, 2011, 07:13 AM
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That's a tough position to be in. I do not envy the decision you had to make.
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March 15th, 2011, 07:31 AM
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I know how you feel - I had my daughter on 8/28/05 right around when New Orleans was hit with Katrina. My husband wanted to go with the volunteers from his command to help but with no family around and a 1 day old baby he wouldn't go. I had never been so relieved. He keeps talking about Japan right now and how he wants to go and I freak out! If he wasn't a firefighter I think he would go back active-duty right now and it terrifies me. I'll say prayers for you and for your DH. You're stronger than I am, I don't think I could be as calm as you are!
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March 15th, 2011, 07:43 AM
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Erin - I understand it is important to stand by your man and support his decision but have you looked into the levels of radiation that is emitting from that plant? I am not anti-military. In fact, my dad was a lifer in the air-force - 25 years of active duty and another 15+ working on base/pentagon as a civilian so I am quite the opposite. But my father in law passed away 1 year 2 weeks ago from a brain tumor brought on by agent orange when he was in Vietnam. I am not trying to scare you - but I think your husband needs to look a little closer before he makes a decision. ((Hugs)) Love you honey and this must be very hard on you. Stand by your man but try to be as informed as you can be.
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March 15th, 2011, 03:26 PM
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I totally understand his want to help out- that is the kind of military mission that also feels good, but I hope for your sake he doesn't go. 
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March 15th, 2011, 04:05 PM
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Awww, Erin, what a sucky position to be in We are here for you no matter what you and your hubby decide
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March 15th, 2011, 06:34 PM
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Aw Erin I am so sorry. I would feel so conflicted. You are being very strong/brave about him going.
If it were Jeremy, I would not want him to go but I know it is "part of the job".
*huge hugs* I am here for you.
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March 16th, 2011, 02:58 AM
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Checking in to see how you are doing Erin? Thinking about you.
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March 16th, 2011, 09:01 AM
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Thinking about you too.
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March 16th, 2011, 09:05 AM
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I am thinking about you too Erin. I hope my post did not upset you, it wasn't meant to be like that. ((Hugs))
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March 16th, 2011, 09:22 AM
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Hard decision! I can understand his need to go, and your fear. Big Hugs!!!
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March 16th, 2011, 10:11 AM
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Thinking of you Erin!
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March 16th, 2011, 07:10 PM
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((hugs))
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March 16th, 2011, 07:20 PM
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Sorry, eep, kind of been away dealing with what life is doing to my head right now. Good news: HE ISN'T GOING!!!
Missy, your post didn't upset me at all  It's the same kind of stuff I was dealing with in my head, so basically you just mimicked what I was already thinking 
THANK GOD. Or... Thank whoever...
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
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Hubby might be deploying to Japan. (Update in post 19)
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