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March 24th, 2011, 07:24 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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*update* i ended up testing at 12dpo and got a neg and later started spotting. AF came full force today. It really hit me hard as this was our last chance for a 2011 baby. Somehow i thought that if i got pg this month then i would be ok. It didnt happen and now the pain from the m/c has come back and i cant stop crying. I think we will be taking a break now. cant take this anymore
Hi my name is Erin. I had my first (and hopefully only) m/c last cycle (feb). I was only 6wks along but it was very difficult on me. I had been waiting for this baby for 4 yrs.
This cycle we decided to not try and not prevent. Since I was so early on the doc didnt say to wait before trying. I wanted to be more relaxed and try to not put any more stress on myself. Well....mostly I was just terrified. I felt like if I tried and it happened again I would beat myself up over it because I "should" have waited or something. If I avoided I would have felt bad for not trying because we are kind of running out of time. So here I am *around* 9DPO and im having a lot of anxiety. I dont know for sure when I O'd because I wasnt charting or anything this month. I sort of kept track of CM just because its habit. I had some O pains on that day so i guessed that it was my O date.
Normally I would be excited and ready to test in a few days. Now Im scared. If the baby wasnt going to survive I would rather just not know about it. My doc told me that if i didnt know my body so well i probably wouldnt have even known about the last one. Im not so sure about that since it was 6wks along and i had several pg symptoms. Unfortunately, i have a medical condition that needs to be monitored as soon as possible after becoming pg. I need to test early so i know but i dont want to.
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DS 5yrs old
 2/11 6wks
DD born 1/3/12
Last edited by Erin.minus.thyroid; March 28th, 2011 at 10:35 PM.
Reason: update
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March 24th, 2011, 07:50 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Apr 2008
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I know how you feel. Having a loss takes away alot of the excitement of looking forward to a future pregnancy. It's really tough to stay positive and hopeful at times. 
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March 24th, 2011, 08:05 PM
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Veteran
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: West KY
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I don't blame you for being anxious. I am terrified with what will happen if I get pregnant again. I'm excited for you though. Try to relax and maybe you will get some exciting news! Keep us posted.
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March 25th, 2011, 06:00 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I am so sorry for your loss.
I understand how you feel I am TTC again after 3 losses now.
I just don't know how many more I can take.
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March 25th, 2011, 06:35 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm sorry for your loss!
Welcome to the board, it has really helped my anxiety levels TTC after so many losses. Hope you get your BFP soon!
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March 25th, 2011, 07:21 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Location: East TN
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T&P's... I'm trying to conceive after 3 losses and I also worry more about what happens if I do conceive than the TTC part. We're all in the same boat here and it really helps to know you're not alone. I wish you the best.
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March 25th, 2011, 09:46 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard to get too excited about a possible pregnancy after learning that, sadly, not all pregnancies end in a labor and delivery room with balloons, flowers and congratulations. I hope that your next pregnancy comes soon and has a very happy ending. (((hugs)))
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March 25th, 2011, 11:26 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Quote:
Originally Posted by CAMPMOMMYAMY
We're all in the same boat here and it really helps to know you're not alone. I wish you the best.
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Ditto! Welcome to TTCAL. I am so sorry for your loss. 
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March 25th, 2011, 04:24 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I agree with the other ladies. It is very hard to continue to try after having a loss. I hope that you find comfort here in knowing your not alone and we are here for you.
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March 25th, 2011, 09:26 PM
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POAS Queen
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Welcome to our little club  I'm very sorry about your loss, I can only imagine how hard it must be after wanting to be pregnant for so long. I encourage you to test once you're ready, just in case, for your health and for the baby's. I'm sure it's hard... But I just want to know that you and a possible bean would be safe from the very start  Would it be okay for you to at least wait until your period is due?
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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March 28th, 2011, 07:57 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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March 28th, 2011, 10:36 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Atlanta, GA
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an update
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Erin & Jeremy
DS 5yrs old
2/11 6wks
DD born 1/3/12
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March 29th, 2011, 07:23 PM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Apr 2010
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I'm sorry for your loss and I'm also sorry that AF came again !! I also had my fingers double crossed for a 2011 baby.. I really thought..... but.. it will happen.. for all of us !! you really just have to believe it otherwise... without hope there would be no dreams... .. Good luck !!
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