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March 29th, 2011, 05:35 PM
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How do you handle being around other peoples' children?

I spent a week with my SIL and she has a 3 year old lil girl and an 11 month lil boy. There are moments that it is tough because I want children more than anything. At the same time though the kids give me hope. My SIL had trouble getting pregnant with her first. Plus I love being an aunt and I love those kids so much. It is a lot harder to be around kids I do not really have a relationship with.
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March 29th, 2011, 05:41 PM
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I am definitely not the person to ask on this. I think it's easier for me because I already have a son. Plus, I don't hang around with other people much. AND I find most other people's children to be annoying, haha. I am just a basketful of unhelpfulness. Sorry.
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March 29th, 2011, 09:24 PM
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I am just a basketful of unhelpfulness.
Nice phrasing

It really depends on the day. Sometimes other people's kids depress me, no matter what age, because I think of Drew and how he'll never get to do what that little kid is doing. I've had trouble with kids even up to 8 years old. But then other days I'm fine and can coo at babies with the best of 'em.
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Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
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March 30th, 2011, 01:27 AM
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the only kids I have a tough time being around are the ones whos parents don't realize how lucky they are. Like the wife of one of my husband's coworkers who is 12wks pregnant, and smokes while holding her 15mo. and YELLS at her 15mo for being a typical curious toddler!!! and shes not doing anything unsafe! Is it really soooooo bad if your kid plays with one single diaper (clean), if it makes her happy and content for a while???

But I also have toddlers.

It was hard seeing a friend's newborn this past weekend, because my first loss would have been 3wks old right now



I know my husband has a hard time seeing girls born the summer of 2001, because his daughter (who passed away right after Christmas, 2001), would be turning 10 this year.
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March 30th, 2011, 03:44 AM
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I work at the Y and we have babies and kids in here all the time. Some days it really gets to me and some days it doesn't. Right now I try to stay in my office as much as possible so I don't see them. It's hard seeing new borns right now. With my first loss I was supposed to have that baby on March 11 so I think that should be me carring around a baby.
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March 30th, 2011, 04:41 AM
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Honestly it varies on the day for me. Some days I have really good days and it doesn't bother me... other days I want to bawl my eyes out just watching the tv.
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March 30th, 2011, 07:04 AM
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As you probably know, BIL's girlfriend is having a baby a month before I was due. I'm hoping I can steal a little alone time with her (the baby) when she's born so I can have a little cry fest. If I feel it catching me, I sneak away to the bathroom. I have a toddler though, so he gives me a lot of hope and keeps me grounded. However for some reason when I was around my best friend's 4 year old this weekend I kept getting worked up and I'm not even sure why...
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March 30th, 2011, 03:16 PM
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Kids never bothered me but Pregnant ladies and newborns bother me... same with before I had my own child.
But I ran a home day care before I even had kids.
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