How long...

.:Shortcake:. · #1 March 30th, 2011, 11:29 AM

When you get pregnant (which you all will

) How long will you wait before you tell people this time?

Shadeauxe · #2 March 30th, 2011, 11:33 AM

I will probably tell everyone immediately so it's not hanging over my head. Except my son, I will wait a while to tell him because it was difficult trying to find words that he would understand to explain why we were no longer having a baby.

I will probably include a caveat for people to not to get too excited since I've had a loss.

I really have no idea.

Twoboysmaybemore · #3 March 30th, 2011, 11:37 AM

I think that I will tell a few close friends and family right away (the ones I will want as support if things don't go well) and then wait to tell the rest of the family (huge Italian family) at 12 or 13 weeks. Oh... and my grandmother will be one of the first to know. She is 98 years old and I have told her every time I am pregnant just because I don't want her to pass away and feel like I *should* have told her. She has been one of the most supportive and understanding in my whole family through all of my previous losses.

TnPhotoMama81 · #4 March 30th, 2011, 12:29 PM

I think I am just going to tell everyone right off again and pray it doesn't bite me in the butt.

.:Shortcake:. · #5 March 30th, 2011, 12:31 PM

DH and I plan to tell immediate family right away and then everyone else when we reach 20 weeks. I just don't feel comfortable telling anyone any sooner than that with all our losses and even one later loss.

Cait&AngelAbove · #6 March 30th, 2011, 01:15 PM

We will tell immediate family right away then everyone else once we hit 12 weeks.

StaceygirlPa · #7 March 30th, 2011, 02:32 PM

We plan on telling no one until around 13 weeks. We told some close family and friends about pumpkin then we lost pumpkin. I am happy we told them but sad at the same time when they come to us and say congrats.

emsketch · #8 March 30th, 2011, 02:47 PM

We will tell our 2 close friends who know that we are TTC right away, well, at least one of them, but probably both of them. We will tell everyone else around 12-13 weeks. This is what we did last time, and when I was pregnant with Stella.

pepper73 · #9 March 30th, 2011, 03:39 PM

I will tell my best friend and her brother in law (he's like a brother to me) and another close friend in the immediate area. I will also tell 2 of my close college friends and my sister who know what's been going on and who live far away. Those are the same people who knew about my m/c and that we are TTC. I will wait to tell my parents and brother (who lives far away) until at least 12 weeks just in case. Although, I would really love to be able to tell my mother on Mother's Day if I get that lucky. It would be such a great gift for her. I guess I just need to wait and see what happens and how I feel if I do get pg this cycle.

Erin84 · #10 March 30th, 2011, 03:54 PM

We're early revealers, we tell everyone right away

If I get a super-faint BFP I'll wait a couple days to retest, then tell hubby, just so he can see it and know it's positive. So we'll probably tell immediate family and close friends first via phone calls, then make it "Facebook Official" shortly thereafter. The longest we waited to tell anybody last time was 2 weeks, and that was the people at my job, just because I wasn't sure how the news was going to go over. (It went over fanTASTICally, btw

)

Of course even if I DO feel like I have to wait to tell hubby, I'll spill the beans here first probably. I can't keep a secret like that to myself! And I think everyone here understands "squinter" BFPs

luvmykids623 · #11 March 30th, 2011, 04:35 PM

I honestly don't know. I've done it a few different ways. With my very first pregnancy I told everyone right away. Then I had my first loss and it was really hard having to go back and tell everyone I wasn't pregnant anymore. Then there were the people who hadn't heard about the loss who would ask how the baby was weeks or months later. Not fun! After that I decided not to tell until the second trimester. With DS and DD that worked out, but with my second and third losses it was hard to have to go back and explain why I was so upset and all that had happened. With my third loss we had only told 3 good friends and no family. It was tough explaining why I was going in for "surgery" and why I was so devastated about it. For the next time (if there is a next time) part of me really wants to tell right away, but I'm so hesitant. So, I honestly don't know.

EJsMommy · #12 March 30th, 2011, 06:01 PM

We will try to wait until 20 weeks before we tell anyone when we get PG.

j&jmom · #13 March 30th, 2011, 06:19 PM

With my m/c I hadn't told anyone except dh I was pg, but since I missed so much work and needed the help at home I had to tell when I had the m/c. I felt horrible telling my Mom I was pg, but I didn't tell you, and now I'm having a m/c. I don't know why I waited this time. Every other time I told everyone and everything turned out fine. Maybe I'm just superstitious, but I'll probably tell everyone right away if I ever get pg again!

*SamF* · #14 March 31st, 2011, 06:55 AM

IRL we are not telling anyone till minimum 12 weeks, maybe longer. We didn't get the best support from family with Spud- a lot of -'it's for the best' so we are NOT sharing the news until I can't hide it anymore.

Shadeauxe · #15 March 31st, 2011, 07:24 AM

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Originally Posted by *SamF*

IRL we are not telling anyone till minimum 12 weeks, maybe longer. We didn't get the best support from family with Spud- a lot of -'it's for the best' so we are NOT sharing the news until I can't hide it anymore.

I have good vibes for you. I suddenly just thought you were already pregnant. I had to go to your profile to find out that you don't yet know. Good luck!

AddysMom24 · #16 March 31st, 2011, 09:13 AM

Hmm this is a hard one for me. With DD I told everyone right away and things went fine. with this loss we told a few weeks later and things went south. Now that I look back it would have been weird if they didnt know and I was having to leave work all the time for dr appts.

Next time I think I might tell a few close family, then wait till we have a confirmed hb at 8 weeks. So still early but not in the clear. My biggest mistake was FBing it with my 2nd then to have to post we lost our baby was hard!!

*SamF* · #17 March 31st, 2011, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

I have good vibes for you. I suddenly just thought you were already pregnant. I had to go to your profile to find out that you don't yet know. Good luck!

Courtney I so hoping your vibes are right!!