have an interesting opportunity.. OT (pregnancy mentioned)

beccasmom7718 · #1 April 9th, 2011, 02:55 PM

I have been presented with an opportunity to be a guardian, to a 23yr old her almost 1yr old , she is also 27week pregnant.
She would move into our home, and i would help her raise her kids and learn "life"skills so her kids wouldnt be removed by social services.
I think its an awesome opportunity, but Im worried about teaching her the skills and all that. I mean, I am raising two kids that could have gotten taken away already, but i dunno.

Im on the fence on what to do. I prayed really hard that she would contact me today and she did. It feels like my heart is telling me to do it and my brain is saying hold on.

what would you do?

.:Shortcake:. · #2 April 9th, 2011, 03:09 PM

I think it sounds like a wonderful opportunity for you however, this is a decision that you and your DH would have to sit down and talk about. It's not only going to affect you two but also your children/future children. Good luck reaching your decision.

Cait&AngelAbove · #3 April 9th, 2011, 06:20 PM

I agree with Katie. I think it would be such a great thing to do but it is completely up to you and your DH.

j&jmom · #4 April 10th, 2011, 06:32 AM

If you think you are up to the challenge, I think it will be a very rewarding experience. However, you always need to consider your family first so I would have a long talk with dh and then a talk with the kids to make sure everyone is in agreement.

LindseyE117 · #5 April 10th, 2011, 12:38 PM

If there is a reason that her parenting skills are being questioned, then I would be afraid to have her in my house. Obviously she has issues and probably does need help, but she is a grown adult who can do horrible things to you and your family if you are not careful. Remember, there is a reason why they want to take her kids away.

With that being said, I have never heard of anything like this, and it may all work out. Me personally, I wouldn't do it, but listen to your heart and head together. Both can bring up good points.

Sorry if I sound harsh, but the whole situation just sounds scary to me!

JessP · #6 April 10th, 2011, 02:25 PM

I think it would depend on her situation and your situation. Can you handle haveing another family in your home? I have heard about people doing this. I have never heard how it worked out. I would for sure talk with your DH and make sure you are ok with her issues in your home.