It was bound to happen (loss ment)

StaceygirlPa · #1 April 11th, 2011, 06:40 AM

With my job I see a lot of people during the day. With my 3 losses I have been very lucky until now that no one was pregnant or due right around any of my due dates. There is a lady who comes in everyday that is due in October. Pumpkin was due October 30th. This baby will be their baby 4th baby. Their third baby was a surprise and she wasn't happy about it. She doesn't like being pregnant. Now they are expecting their 4th baby which is another surprise baby. If you don't like being pregnant and really don't want any more children you would think you would do something to stop from getting pregnant.

Since she comes in everyday I will see her everyday. I am not looking forward to seeing her everyday and watching her pregnancy progress. Every time I see her I am going to think how far along I should be.

.:Shortcake:. · #2 April 11th, 2011, 06:49 AM

Hugs! I am sorry Stacey. I've had this happen with almost all of my losses and it sucks it really does.

SeaShell_Mom4 · #3 April 11th, 2011, 06:50 AM

I feel for you, my good friend and sister are pregnant due in June and September and I am struggling to feel happy when I am around them.

Nikki515 · #4 April 11th, 2011, 07:17 AM

I am so sorry! I'm sure that must be so hard. HUGS!!!

swild19 · #5 April 11th, 2011, 07:20 AM

That is totally understandable. I think that would bother anyone who has had a loss. So sorry you have to deal with that! Hugs!

Cait&AngelAbove · #6 April 11th, 2011, 07:43 AM

I am sorry Stacey! I completely know how you feel. My SIL is due in July. Two weeks ahead of my EDD. Seeing her is incredibly hard and all I think about is how far along I should be.

missy123 · #7 April 11th, 2011, 07:55 AM

I am really sorry, it must be hard

kaylakay · #8 April 11th, 2011, 08:24 AM

I totally know how you feel I work in a hospital and I see 10-20 newborn babies and new mommies everyday! I'm currently trying to find a new job but I can't and DH and I can't pay bills without me working. It's rough. Really rough. Sometimes I go cry by myself on my lunch break or down the elevator or something. Sometimes they will even say "he's so cute huh?" or "im so lucky" I wanna scream and say "I'd give my right arm to have a kid!" but I just smile and nod. People secretly never know what your going through. So always remember that, and honestly they dont know... It's just another thing we have to deal with when TTACL. I'm sorry sweetheart

*SamF* · #9 April 11th, 2011, 08:28 AM

I'm sorry sweetie!!

j&jmom · #10 April 11th, 2011, 10:08 AM

Hugs! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this and I hope the lady realizes what a true blessing she has.

ohnicole · #11 April 11th, 2011, 10:12 AM

I'm so sorry, Stacey

Loss is hard enough without being slapped in the face with people who don't appreciate all that they've been given

JessP · #12 April 11th, 2011, 10:28 AM

StaceygirlPa · #13 April 11th, 2011, 10:29 AM

Thank you ladies. Its nice to be able to talk to someone who understands how I am feeling. I have to pretend to be happy for her when I see her.

pepper73 · #14 April 11th, 2011, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by ohnicole

I'm so sorry, Stacey

Loss is hard enough without being slapped in the face with people who don't appreciate all that they've been given

That is so true! It's so frustrating and makes everything seem that much more unfair. And Stacey, I totally agree...why is she not using some sort of BC if she doesn't want anymore children? It makes me so angry! I understand why it is so hard for you to be faced with that every day.

KeepingFaith · #15 April 11th, 2011, 11:29 AM

I'm sorry you have to deal with that Stacey, my good friend is due 3 weeks after my EDD. Every time she updates me or I see her I am secretly resenting her. It's an awful feeling. ((HUGS))

luvmykids623 · #16 April 11th, 2011, 02:18 PM

I'm so sorry Stacey! I was lucky with my first 2 losses, but with the third, I've lived that hell since September, and it sucks! I was due April 12th, and I had one coworker due April 10th, one due April 14th, and one due the first week in May. The director at DS's school is due April 11th (today). The three coworkers are all located in my hallway, and it has felt like a hellish version of a maternity ward since I lost bean in September. It's been terrible! Coworker #1 and #2 both gave birth last Monday, which was the same day that I went to see the RE for the first time. So not only did they get to keep their babies, they got to have them the same day that I had to see a fertility specialist. It's been like a cruel joke. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy, and I'm sorry it's something you now have to deal with.

TnPhotoMama81 · #17 April 11th, 2011, 02:39 PM

That is very hard to deal and feels like a slap in the face!

*HUGS*

StaceygirlPa · #18 April 12th, 2011, 03:29 AM

Thank you ladies. I am hoping I can avoide her some when she comes in.

.:Shortcake:. · #19 April 12th, 2011, 03:44 AM

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Originally Posted by StaceygirlPa

Thank you ladies. I am hoping I can avoide her some when she comes in.

I hope that works for you

EJsMommy · #20 April 12th, 2011, 06:10 AM

Hugs Stacey, this is hard to go thru. I still have moments I am unable to deal with those types of situations. Most of the time the other person does not know what you have been or currently going thru. It also makes me sad and frustrated to know that there are females out there that get the "surprise" pregnancy and are not happy about it. For goodness sake do something to prevent it from happen then.