Your first time DTD ?

SeaShell_Mom4 · #1 April 20th, 2011, 05:00 PM

Today was the first time we DTD since my loss 2 weeks ago. I felt a little nervous and of course the ONLY thing I could think of was conceiving.

I am not even sure that I am fertile or when I will be, not to mention we aren't officially TTC.... but again I was obsessing in my mind about getting pregnant.

UGH! I hope it's not going to be like that all the time, not very romantic. Did anyone else feel this way after their loss when you started TTC again? I didn't mention anything to my husband, but I knew I could come here and vent.

-Anna- · #2 April 20th, 2011, 06:30 PM

I'm sorry.

I know how you feel, but I am a little different. I don't want to get preggo this month because I am scared I will loose it again since I do not O good enough...so that is where my thoughts were.

I was on pelvic rest from the time I found out until I lost the baby because of a threatened miscarriage, so when we were about to DTD again, I was glad to be able to be with my husband again.

missy123 · #3 April 20th, 2011, 06:32 PM

I cried... so many emotions were going through me. Like I should have been pregnant and not worrying about TTC all over again. I cried because my husband used a condom because my midwife said to wait a month before we even tried to get pregnant. It was such a rush of so many different emotions.

((hugs))

Cait&AngelAbove · #4 April 20th, 2011, 06:43 PM

I am sorry. I cried and cried.

kaylakay · #5 April 20th, 2011, 08:52 PM

I actually just was like "let's go!" cause I really wanted to conceive again. Which we did but ended in miscarriage. I think it was too soon... So with my last loss we waited a good month than DTD... honestly DTD really makes me feel connected with DH. So I was almost relieved.

lindsey2000k · #6 April 21st, 2011, 05:01 AM

My mind was all over the place. I knew it ment freaking out over the 2ww, I knew if I would get pregnant it would mean freaking out for 9 months. Images from the ultrasounds would flash in my head, I could hear the DR sayin "Oh Lindsey I am so sorry".

After I had my daughter It took me a good 6 months to get into it again. I had a very tramatic birth and a 4th degree episi so that is ALL I thought about for about 6 months after her birth. Not to mention it was very painful for about 9 months until it healed all the way.

.:Shortcake:. · #7 April 21st, 2011, 06:23 AM

My mind was all over the place as well. I also felt so raw with my emotions and was not really into it IYKWIM.

SeaShell_Mom4 · #8 April 21st, 2011, 06:59 AM

Thanks for sharing. I am really not ready to be pregnant again either, but there was the nagging thought I couldn't shake (baby) Maybe in my confused mind I think it will help with the sadness I am feeling.

I think I am more terrified to get pregnant again than excited! My m/c was traumatic for me, no one warned me of what I would go through and I think that has been the hardest part for me.

We plan to wait 1 cycle before we consider TTC, maybe longer. I somehow convinced my husband to hold off on his vasectomy

pepper73 · #9 April 21st, 2011, 12:48 PM

For me, I was scared about infection. I followed doctor's orders and waited to DTD until after the bleeding stopped (I would've done that anyway) because she said there'd be a risk of infection if I didn't....she said the same thing about wearing tampons so I suffered with pads. Anyway, we were definitely not TTC right after the m/c so I didn't have that emotional fear/anxiety. My worries were based purely on physical issues. If we had been TTC right away, I am sure I would've had some major emotional conflicts. By the time we did start TTC, my emotions were more motivational and hopeful.