Had my Doctor's Appointment This MorningUPDATED in Post 1

LindseyE117 · #1 May 2nd, 2011, 08:35 AM

And well, not really what I wanted to hear. I was hoping to avoid a RE for money reasons, but it looks like we have to go back.

My doctor did a complete exam, and she said everything looks fine from what she can see. My cervix looks great and healthy, and nothing seems out of the ordinary with me. She said my cycles are spot on, so she wouldn't recommend clomid or anything else for that matter. She also said that because I got pregnant with my last loss, she wouldn't recommend a HSG, but that I could have one if it would make me feel better. Everything is leaning towards the fact that my husband has low sperm count, but we have to go to a RE to make sure. She also said that we might have to have an IUI first to see if that helps. Then maybe go on to more expensive treatments like IVF.

I am crushed. We saved money for after the baby gets here, and now it will be spent on trying to have the baby--if it even happens. Not so happy right now. Especially because my husband is angry about it. He did not want to spend the money on one, and I think he is afraid of multiples. Plus I think it makes him feel like less of a man. I dunno, but he was not happy at all when I told him. He quickly hung up on me. Ugh....

**UPDATE**

I nearly died when I heard how much he RE will cost me, but I have my appointment on 5/10/11 at 10am. My husband has to come with me because he might have to do another SA when we get there. I guess I am getting a vaginal ultrasound to check the lining and ovaries and everything. She said my whole appointment should be 2 hours total.

.:Shortcake:. · #2 May 2nd, 2011, 08:47 AM

Hugs Lindsey! I am so sorry your having to go through this. And your DH probably feels like it's his fault and that has to hurt him.

LindseyE117 · #3 May 2nd, 2011, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.

Hugs Lindsey! I am so sorry your having to go through this. And your DH probably feels like it's his fault and that has to hurt him.

That's what I am thinking too. I hate that he is acting out like this though. I have a call into the RE here. I guess they have someone call me back for an appointment. I'll keeo everyone updated.

terajet · #4 May 2nd, 2011, 09:02 AM

Good luck girl!!! Your DH will come around. It's hard to deal with being the one that has "issues" especially for men...they are all about feeling "manly".

Keep us updated on your plans. In the meantime it doesn't hurt to keep trying on your own!!!

kaylakay · #5 May 2nd, 2011, 09:11 AM

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Originally Posted by terajet

Good luck girl!!! Your DH will come around. It's hard to deal with being the one that has "issues" especially for men...they are all about feeling "manly".

Keep us updated on your plans. In the meantime it doesn't hurt to keep trying on your own!!!

I agree. Just keep trying on your own on top of medical assistance and hopefully you'll get your little miracle

.:Shortcake:. · #6 May 2nd, 2011, 09:19 AM

It does suck that he is acting like that. Maybe you could sit him down and tell him that how he is acting is upsetting you or even write him a letter. He probably feels like he is letting you down because he is the one with the "issue" I see both sides here and it sucks for you both.

*SamF* · #7 May 2nd, 2011, 10:00 AM

Agree it sucks that he is acting like that. Hopefully he will get over it quickly. No one likes spending money on fertility treatments/tests, it SUCKS!
I hope the RE is able to get you some answers!

LindseyE117 · #8 May 2nd, 2011, 10:47 AM

Got my appointment scheduled. Updated in post 1.

.:Shortcake:. · #9 May 2nd, 2011, 10:49 AM

Sorry to hear it's going to cost so much but hoping they can help you get your rainbow baby and quickly. Hopefully DH comes around to everything too. He might just need time to process it

TnPhotoMama81 · #10 May 2nd, 2011, 10:55 AM

Can't wait to hear the results after your RE appt. Hopefully they won't have to do much intervening to get you your rainbow baby

lindsey2000k · #11 May 2nd, 2011, 11:07 AM

Good luck I hope they come up with a great plan for you.

missy123 · #12 May 2nd, 2011, 02:19 PM

Bring a notebook and pen with you to your first appointment. That 2 hour appointment is going to fly by and they are going to bombard you with tons of information and options.

Good Luck!

mmllhh · #13 May 2nd, 2011, 05:38 PM

lindsey, i'm sorry he is acting like a boob. Give him a break though, no man wants to hear that there is something wrong with his junk. Glad to hear that it is a fixable problem.
Good luck and I hope you get you bfp soon.

Cait&AngelAbove · #14 May 2nd, 2011, 06:38 PM

I am sorry Lindsey! I hope the RE helps you!

luvmykids623 · #15 May 3rd, 2011, 02:58 AM

I hope the RE is able to help, and you are holding your rainbow baby soon. I also hope that your DH comes around once the initial shock wears off. He sounds like such a great guy. He's probably just afraid of finding out the problem is on his end and is blaming himself for "making this difficult for you." Even though it's not his fault.

pepper73 · #16 May 3rd, 2011, 04:58 AM

I'm sorry you have more obstacles to hurdle. Hopefully you will get some quick and easy answers from the RE. I agree with the others that your DH is probably feeling like less of a man and that he is letting you down. Men express emotions and hurt much differently than we do. I hope he comes around and realizes that lashing out is hurting you. Good luck at your appointment and I hope you get your rainbow baby soon!