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rmarie9509 · #1 May 13th, 2011, 05:54 PM

Hi everyone,
My name is Becky and Im 24 (well in a week anyway) I posted here last week with a threatened M/C and this monday it became an active mc. My HCG on tuesday was already only 3. I was doing pretty well. I greived alot on sunday b/c I knew I was losing the baby and it was mothers day so by monday andtuesday I was doing okay. But then I got a speeding ticket. I was just zoning because I had so much on my mind and I didnt realize I had entered a 40 and I was still going 54. Its not that big of a deal really but it put me over the edge I just cried and cried and I started having all these irrational thoughts about how everyone else could die and what if DH died before we had a chance to try again and so forth. It was really nonsense but whatever. Im under control again I dont have anymore irrational thoughts although I still tyear up when i think about the speeding ticket (weird I know) We hadnt really told anyone only 1 friend so I would have someone to talk to so it was good not having to explain to everyone but at the same time it was really lonely to go through this "in secret" Im so glad I have JM.

Before this pregnancy DH and I had really accepted that we wouldnt be likely having kids on our own and had decided not to do IVF, so we are in the process of becoming foster parents and will hopefully be certified and taking kids by July or August. I was kind of apathetic about that while I was pregnant because I was worried about all the stress, and durring the mc I wanted to quit the whole process but then this week I got a lot of donations like a carseat and a packn play and Im starting to get excited again.

so I think everything is probably fine but IM concerned because I didnt really have a lot of bleeding, only 2 days really of flow and the last two days has been more of a brown thicker consistancy. Also my temps are still at a post O level. MY bbs are back to normal and my other symptoms are all gone. Do you think this is okay? I really dont want to see a doctor for no reason but I have no experience with this so I dont know what is "normal" or not.

missy123 · #2 May 13th, 2011, 06:11 PM

It all sounds like your body is getting back pretty fast. I am really sorry for your loss... You will have good moments and bad moments. Do not be afraid to cry and let it out. We are here for you! ((hugs))

nala139 · #3 May 13th, 2011, 06:14 PM

I had a very early miscarriage in feb and only had 3 days of bleeding, it wasn't much heavier than my regular period and now I just went through a miscarriage at 9 1/2 weeks but the baby died at 6 1/2 weeks. My bleeding was much much heavier this time around with clots and tissue (sorry TMI), it took over a week for my bbt to go down from day I started bleeding and even now I am still just a bit over my pre O temps. The thing that my midwife was following was my hcg levels, thy have been dropping appropriately but she said that they need to be followed until they are less than 3 and then they could be assured that there was no tissue left. I think that since your levels are low you should be ok. If your temps stay high you could ask your doctor about it. I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you are able to conceive a sticky bean soon. That is exciting about becoming a foster parent too! We have thought about that or adoption as well, I will be excited to hear how that goes!

lindsey2000k · #4 May 13th, 2011, 06:19 PM

I am so sorry for your loss... I remember you from the Jan DDC. I just found out today my pregnancy was tubal.

LindseyE117 · #5 May 13th, 2011, 07:12 PM

If it was extremely early, it could have been a chemical pregnancy. Still, I am sorry for your loss. I was barely 6 weeks when I miscarried and I bled for around 9 days with my natural miscarriage. It took around 10 days I think for my levels to go to non pregnancy levels. If IVF is not an option, are you candidates for IUI? A lot cheaper. That is what my husband and I are doing.

.:Shortcake:. · #6 May 14th, 2011, 03:19 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with the other ladies. It sounds like it was a really early loss and your body is going back to normal quickly. If you feel like something isn't right though you could always call in and talk to a nurse and have her let a message for the doctor. If he feels something might not be right he will have you come in. *Hugs*

pepper73 · #7 May 14th, 2011, 06:22 AM

I am so sorry for your loss! None of your emotions were/are irrational. You are going through a very rough thing that no woman should ever have to experience. It isn't fair. Allow yourself whatever grieving you need. If your levels were already down to 3, it sounds like your body is getting back to normal but I agree with Katie, if there's anything concerning you, call your doctor's office. It's better to be safe than sorry.