feeling hurt

KaiyaRae'sMomma · #1 June 15th, 2011, 07:18 AM

Kaiya's birthday celabration is on Friday, her birthday. We are meeting at the cemetary to sing her happy birthday at 6pm, then going back to our house for cake and cocktails. It's going to be a very hard day, but I am excited a lot of close friends will be there to help u celabrate. I just got this message from a very close friend, who has been there for me by my side through all of this: "I'm so sorry we just realized we can't make it, Nick has Safety Town graduation that day."
1st of all you knew he was signed up for this Safety Town thing months ago...
2nd of all you know how much this means to me and how much I need you that day.
Am I wrong to feel hurt that she isn't coming?? I want to cry...

momof6lopez · #2 June 15th, 2011, 07:33 AM

Your celebration is not until the evening.....I never heard of any graduations going on in the evening.....why cant she just come later? I would flat out let her know you cant get through this day without her support. Im so sorry, I would be extremely hurt too.

outnumberedX3 · #3 June 15th, 2011, 07:43 AM

I'm sorry that she won't be there to support you

. Maybe she will get done earlier and will be able to show up. HUGS honey!!

.:Shortcake:. · #4 June 15th, 2011, 07:57 AM

I agree with Lori. I would tell her that you need her that day and that the graduation can't be all day so why can't she see you afterwards? ((HUGS)) I'm sorry hun.

StaceygirlPa · #5 June 15th, 2011, 08:12 AM

I agree with Lori and Katie. Explain to her how much you need her and ask her to come after graduation.

melissalaw · #6 June 15th, 2011, 08:44 AM

I agree with the above posters, I would tell her how much you need her that day. I'll be praying for you on Friday.

doremi · #7 June 15th, 2011, 08:59 AM

I don't think there is anything wrong with telling her that you would really love it if she could stop by at some point in the day, even if it is only for a little while. I wonder if her saying the thing about graduation was truly the reason she isn't coming, or if she is having a hard time emotionally and doesn't quite know how to handle it? Sometimes people think if they can't hold it together for you, they shouldn't come around on days like this... I hope you guys are able to talk. If it truly is a situation where she can't come, then you have to let it go, and be thankful for the support she HAS given you. Somebody else will come alongside you that day... God always makes sure there is SOMEBODY to comfort you on days like this, at least that has been my experience! Thinking of you.

KaiyaRae'sMomma · #8 June 15th, 2011, 10:36 AM

That's what I don't get. It is a graduation from a week long summer program for 5 year olds...it can't possibly be at the exact same time as our party, and clearly she doesn't get how much this means to me. Why wouldn't she say the graduation is at such and such time and we will try our best to make it over after, or something like that. I dunno.... it's a REALLY hard time for me and it just hurts.

.:Shortcake:. · #9 June 15th, 2011, 10:48 AM

((HUGS)) sometimes we have to tell others how much things hurt.

Leanne78 · #10 June 15th, 2011, 11:01 AM

I'm sorry Andrea.

I'd be upset too.

bassetmomma · #11 June 15th, 2011, 02:47 PM

I really hope your friend can make it. If you let her know how important it is to you, maybe she will try to be there for you.

fromustobaby · #12 June 15th, 2011, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.

((HUGS)) sometimes we have to tell others how much things hurt.

nala139 · #13 June 15th, 2011, 09:49 PM

This would hurt me a lot. I am so sorry you have to celebrate your little girl's birthday without her

. I will be thinking of you.

Jen71 · #14 June 17th, 2011, 04:11 AM

I would be very disappointed too. I agree that it would be ok to ask her to stop by at some point. I will be thinking of you today.

KaiyaRae'sMomma · #15 June 17th, 2011, 07:17 PM

Thanks for all your support ladies. Kaiya's party ended up small, simple an bittersweet. This particular friend stopped over at 9ish after everyone else was gone, but she came. My sweet angel Kaiya is now One.