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June 15th, 2011, 08:26 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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When you always see newbies on here posting BFP's. 90% of the time they have NEVER posted in here exept to post about the BFP.
But I am SOOOOO happy to log in this morning and see a couple Oldbies (i guess you would call them that..lol) posting they FINALLY got their turns after long months of trying.
Congrats ladies I could not be happier for you.
As for me.....
I am hoping at the end of July beg of Aug I get to announce mine and that it will finally be sticky. I am starting to get nervous now that I know I am only weeks away from TTC again. I am more terrified of another ectopic than another misscarriage it was the worst loss of them yet physically and here I am 5 weeks out and still having to do blood tests. Hoping to go today for my last one, last week was 15 so I think its going to be finally negative today.
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June 15th, 2011, 08:42 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I hope it's finally negative today. I am praying that you get a BFP as soon as your start TTC again and hopefully this one will stick. I'm so sorry about your losses.
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June 15th, 2011, 08:44 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Lindsey I'm sorry that it really hurts when the newbies come in and only post BFP. We welcome everyone in here and love to share in the journey but it is nice to get to know them before those kind of posts. Maybe we should look at them as inspiration of where we want to be though. I hope your numbers are finally negative and that you get your sticky BFP quickly. ((HUGS))
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June 15th, 2011, 08:52 AM
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It's me
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I agree with you Lindsey.
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June 15th, 2011, 08:55 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I can understand how hard it would be for those of you who are the "oldbies" to see BFP's happen so quickly for some of the newest members. I was actually thinking the other day that I would feel kinda guilty about posting a BFP if I happen to get one this month. I am THRILLED for some of the most recent poster's who had been trying for so long and finally got a BFP! I hope your next pregnancy happens soon, and goes PERFECTLY. You definitely deserve it after all you've been through 
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June 15th, 2011, 08:57 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.
Lindsey I'm sorry that it really hurts when the newbies come in and only post BFP. We welcome everyone in here and love to share in the journey but it is nice to get to know them before those kind of posts. Maybe we should look at them as inspiration of where we want to be though. I hope your numbers are finally negative and that you get your sticky BFP quickly. ((HUGS))
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Maybe I wrote that wrong.
I am in a really good place right now. I was just saying its so nice to see a couple of the ladies who have been having a really hard time finally get thier turn instead of it always being ladies who have not gotten to know us first.
Sorry I must have come off wrong. I was just excited to see ladies who have been here for a while getting BFPs and a group of them at that!
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June 15th, 2011, 08:57 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Originally Posted by doremi
I can understand how hard it would be for those of you who are the "oldbies" to see BFP's happen so quickly for some of the newest members. I was actually thinking the other day that I would feel kinda guilty about posting a BFP if I happen to get one this month. I am THRILLED for some of the most recent poster's who had been trying for so long and finally got a BFP! I hope your next pregnancy happens soon, and goes PERFECTLY. You definitely deserve it after all you've been through |
It's not hard for me as long as the girls have posted here before but someone who has NEVER posted here and then stops and says on hey this is who I am and I just got my BFP it kind of hits you hard.
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Originally Posted by lindsey2000k
Maybe I wrote that wrong.
I am in a really good place right now. I was just saying its so nice to see a couple of the ladies who have been having a really hard time finally get thier turn instead of it always being ladies who have not gotten to know us first.
Sorry I must have come off wrong. I was just excited to see ladies who have been here for a while getting BFPs and a group of them at that!
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I agree  I just meant that I do understand how it feels to see people who never post get theirs. We are next trust me we are over due 
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June 15th, 2011, 09:01 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.
We are next trust me we are over due |
NO KIDDING!! I hope you guys get your sticky beans soon!!
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June 15th, 2011, 09:02 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Originally Posted by doremi
I can understand how hard it would be for those of you who are the "oldbies" to see BFP's happen so quickly for some of the newest members. I was actually thinking the other day that I would feel kinda guilty about posting a BFP if I happen to get one this month. I am THRILLED for some of the most recent poster's who had been trying for so long and finally got a BFP! I hope your next pregnancy happens soon, and goes PERFECTLY. You definitely deserve it after all you've been through |
To me you are not a newbie because you have been posting and shared your journey with us.
I am talking about the ladies who have never ever posted a single post in TTCAL and the first one is "OMG look at my BFP this morning" and then you never hear from them again. Just feels like they pop in to rub it in.
I love to see ladies join and right after a loss and get a BFP right away.... as long as the BFP post is not the only one they ever make in here.
I was not trying to have a pitty party...lol I really really am happy because if these ladies who have waited so so so long can do it then I know I can too.
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June 15th, 2011, 09:10 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Yes you are WAYYYY over due.
I feel guilty and I have been a every day poster since November. I have been pregnant 2 times this year and back again before any of these ladies have had a single bfp. I know that probably upsets some of the ladies because I seem to get pregnant so easy. But then again here I sit not pregnant.
I am thankful for the newbies that join because if they did not this room would be to quite.
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June 15th, 2011, 09:21 AM
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I agree with you, Lindsey. That's why I was kind of iffy about coming back to post, because I'd been so quiet the past month or so, maybe two. Those posts where "strangers" would come in and be like, "omg, I had a mc 2 months ago and now AF is late and I think I might be pg!" for their first post, and then their next post a day or two later they were announcing a BFP... Those hurt. That's actually a big part of the reason I quit coming around, I couldn't handle seeing that. Even newbies who established themselves and got pregnant quickly, I was okay with, but it was those who only posted once or twice that made it too hard for me. I know your time is going to come soon, you get pregnant so easily. I can't wait to see your "preg ment" post
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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June 15th, 2011, 10:19 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I hope that your hcg is negative and you can start TTC again soon. Sending you tons of sticky dust for when the time comes!!!
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June 15th, 2011, 10:28 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Originally Posted by lindsey2000k
Yes you are WAYYYY over due.
I feel guilty and I have been a every day poster since November. I have been pregnant 2 times this year and back again before any of these ladies have had a single bfp. I know that probably upsets some of the ladies because I seem to get pregnant so easy. But then again here I sit not pregnant.
I am thankful for the newbies that join because if they did not this room would be to quite.
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I feel this way too. I had my loss and the was pregnant twice after that in the last six months, but I sit here not pregnant either.
I agree that seeing an older member get a bfp is the best  congrats ladies, you give me hope that we will all get our rainbow babies
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June 15th, 2011, 11:04 AM
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I hope you get to TTC soon Lindsay!
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June 15th, 2011, 11:35 AM
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*~Mom to Faith Marie~*
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I know what you mean, and even though I have been here for a while, I still felt guilty posting a "bfp" post. I felt like I was leaving all you ladies behind. I can't wait to see all of your BFP posts! I still check in everyday and will continue too Love all of you ladies!
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June 15th, 2011, 12:01 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I hope I'm not one of the people with BFPs that made you upset. Even though I don't post every single day, I've been around for over a year and have provided support and info when I can. I only posted my BFP so I can also share the info about ureaplasma. I hope I didn't make you upset ((HUGS)) Good luck I hope you all have your sticky BFPs soon.
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June 15th, 2011, 12:12 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Originally Posted by Erin84
I agree with you, Lindsey. That's why I was kind of iffy about coming back to post, because I'd been so quiet the past month or so, maybe two. Those posts where "strangers" would come in and be like, "omg, I had a mc 2 months ago and now AF is late and I think I might be pg!" for their first post, and then their next post a day or two later they were announcing a BFP... Those hurt. That's actually a big part of the reason I quit coming around, I couldn't handle seeing that. Even newbies who established themselves and got pregnant quickly, I was okay with, but it was those who only posted once or twice that made it too hard for me. I know your time is going to come soon, you get pregnant so easily. I can't wait to see your "preg ment" post |
Yea those are the posts I was talking about. I have thought about taking a break from here but just cant do it. I feel more alone. Even when I am pregnant I stalk this board more than my DDC.
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June 15th, 2011, 12:17 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Originally Posted by Servilia
I hope I'm not one of the people with BFPs that made you upset. Even though I don't post every single day, I've been around for over a year and have provided support and info when I can. I only posted my BFP so I can also share the info about ureaplasma. I hope I didn't make you upset ((HUGS)) Good luck I hope you all have your sticky BFPs soon.
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No I am not upset its the total opposite I am so excited to see someone/s other than a newbie thats never posted here get BFP's. For the last couple months it seemed as thought only people we never have seen post before were popping in to tell us about bfp. I think it was starting to wear on some of us myself included and it was a great uplift to my spirits to see the 3 of you get your BFP's in the last week or so.
Each and everyone one of you who got your BFP's have been nothing but total support for me and some here as long or longer than me so I am so happy to see you get your turn.
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June 15th, 2011, 12:18 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I am sorry you are upset. I also felt guilty posting my BFP message but it too us so long to conceive that I was hoping to give others hope as well.
You ladies are all so great and I keep looking everyday to see what's new. You will all be great moms one day and I have faith that it will happen.
Good luck to you all.
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June 15th, 2011, 05:19 PM
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Hopes To Be A Mommy
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This is going to sound so rude, but I totally agree. I always thinking like this like when I have read someone's journey and you know they have been through so much reoccurent miscarriage, loss, tons of testing and broken hearts and they get a BFP... I am so happy for them. I'm always thinking "they earned it and totally deserve that baby" and I love even more when it's their rainbow baby.
But this is the rude part, when people have like 6 kids and only 1 miscarriage (or something like that) and they post their BFP. I do feel like there kinda rubbing it in our face. I understand any loss is hard and I wouldn't wish it on anyone but reocurrent miscarriage and loss of an infant are in my opinion very emotionally taxing. So when they get their rainbow baby I'm so happy for them.... I'm MORE happy for them.
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