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June 25th, 2011, 12:36 PM
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I've had time to come to terms with it. At this point I'm just kind of waiting for it all to start full-on, and I'm hoping it's soon. Like today please? I'll definitely be getting a new doc next time I get pregnant though, this one wasn't helpful at all. Will only do betas in one-week intervals, won't do progesterone numbers or give supplements unless it's for an IVF patient. Or IUI. One of those, or both, I can't remember... Everything I asked her she told me that it was something I should either talk to my psychiatrist about or the RE. She was super nice, she wasn't a ***** about anything, but she wouldn't do anything for me. She wasn't even going to do blood work but I managed to make that happen. She said that betas this early don't follow any particular pattern and that my 48-hour growth from 21 to 28 sounded fine, not to get worked up. I need a doc that understands why I'm an alarmist and works with me to ease my fears, and as nice as this lady is, that's not her.
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
Last edited by Erin84; June 26th, 2011 at 11:31 AM.
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June 25th, 2011, 12:47 PM
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I hope it's nothing, the spotting. Also, sounds like a good plan to get a new doc. So, she didn't do another beta on Friday?? Seems like she would just because you asked, whether that's her "normal procedure" or not. You've been through a lot, I would think any doctor worth their salt would want to reassure you.
Hope the spotting is nothing serious. Either way, good luck!!
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June 25th, 2011, 01:09 PM
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My appointment was Friday and we did a beta then, but only because I wouldn't let it go. The issue is that she's making me wait until the following Friday for the repeat blood draw, when it really should be Monday =\ I'm really okay with the spotting. My tests were NOT getting dark as quickly and intensely as they should have, my numbers were only going up 33% in 48 hours, it's okay. I'd rather just go ahead and have it happen so I can stop wondering if my insides are going to explode =\
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
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June 25th, 2011, 01:18 PM
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June 25th, 2011, 01:29 PM
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I wish this wasn't happening to you. I wish, for once, something could be easy for you. I'm thinking of you constantly.  I hope this is just normal spotting, but if it's not I hope that everything is quick, complete, and as painless as possible. 
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June 25th, 2011, 02:14 PM
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I have been thinking of you and salking you on here and facebook looking for updates. Getting a new doctor sounds like a good plan. I hope it's just spotting you have.
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June 25th, 2011, 03:03 PM
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Yeah....you need a new doctor for sure. I hope it happens quickly for you  the ectopic thing is so scary.
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June 25th, 2011, 04:53 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Erin84
She said that betas this early don't follow any particular pattern and that my 48-hour growth from 21 to 28 sounded fine, not to get worked up.
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What? I can hardly believe this! A different doc is definitely in order. Nice or not, she just seems misinformed. I am so sorry you are going through this.
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June 25th, 2011, 05:15 PM
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HUGS! I hope that for a miracle most of all...but, if that isnt to be, I hope that it is over soon so that you can begin the process of healing and moving on...
PS-Your DR might be nice, but she is an idiot...please find someone who does what you ask - you've been through enough that you deserve at least that much when it comes to this, when it comes to bloodwork, they dont even have to DO anything, they just have to approve it...my OB (who is awesome) lets me get a progesterone draw every cycle, because she knows that it is what I need...
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June 25th, 2011, 05:22 PM
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ugh... sorry the doctor wasn't more accommodating. I'm hoping that the next draw brings good news for you!
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June 25th, 2011, 05:28 PM
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Erin I am so sorry your having to go through this most of all but then a doctor who is incompetent makes it worse. We love you and you know if you ever need to talk I'm here.
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June 25th, 2011, 07:16 PM
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I'm sorry you didn't have a more supportive doctor this time around. Thinking of you, and wishing things could be different than it appears they probably are with this pregnancy
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June 26th, 2011, 07:38 AM
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OMG what a ****** DR. I am so sorry, I have delt with a few of my own. When I was pregnant with my daughter right after my first miscarriage I was asking questins and she rolled her eyes at me and huffed saying everything is going to be fine and that I worry to much. So I went on to DR number 3.
Did you get your numbers back Friday?
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June 26th, 2011, 08:03 AM
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Im sorry about the doctor. Nice or not doesn't matter unless they see that you need more from them as far as understanding and meeting the "bedside" manner. There are some doctors that do not have the social skills on how to deal with patients in anyway other than seeing as a patient number. Anyway I hope that the bleeding is just spotting.
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June 26th, 2011, 10:01 AM
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I agree that finding a new doctor is a good idea.
I am sorry you are going through this. I wish it wasn't happening. (((hugs)))
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June 26th, 2011, 10:06 AM
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Waiting for a miscarriage to happen is torture. I am so sorry, I hope that your body recovers quickly.
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June 26th, 2011, 11:31 AM
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Thanks everybody. I couldn't believe the misinformation this doc was spouting. I'm hoping to get referred to a perinatologist for my next pregnancy. There was SO MUCH going on with Drew, and then this, so I'm pretty sure that I can eventually find a doc who'd be willing to refer me to one. My general doc, a sports med doc, is within the same system, and even though I only met her once she said to let me know if there is ever anything she can do to help. I'm hoping that means she'd approve me for a peri.
Anyway, as of yesterday, my body made its decision. Don't worry about being sad for me. I actually accepted this as a loss before I even went to that appointment, so really, I'm okay. I'm just ready to move forward.
The lab is next-day results, but that's business days, so since I had my blood drawn Friday, I won't have the results till Monday. Not that it matters, but I'll still be curious.
We're still going to keep trying. I'm nowhere near ready to give up yet. DH said he doesn't want to do the cycle monitoring and timed BDing and stuff anymore, but let's be real, I'm going to keep using OPKs and just go about my thing. He wants to get pregnant again, he just doesn't want to be stressed out about it, so I figure me doing things in secret isn't a huge betrayal or anything. I'm just really awful at keeping secrets, so I'll need to make sure I can keep my trap shut.
Thanks again for all your love and support. You guys are truly amazing.
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
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June 26th, 2011, 11:40 AM
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I am glad you seem to be in a ok place about this. I think I the way you are feeling is how I felt about the ectopic. I just knew something was not right so I did not let my self get super excited about it. I was just going through the motions with a tiny bit of hope.
I personaly dont think its a horrible thing to not tell DH about opks and temping. From months of knowing you on here and storys about how he can get a little crazy around O time maybe its just best to not let him know so he is not stressed out and maybe it might help you get pregnant again faster.
You can come here and be crazy about your opks and temps all you want with us
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June 26th, 2011, 12:14 PM
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*hugs* I am sorry...
I agree, I don't think there is any harm in continuing to do your thing with OPKs and whatnot - I do, I just tell DH when I need his "manly services" lol
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June 26th, 2011, 12:40 PM
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Erin DH and I have an agreement... I can do my OPK's and cycle monitoring as long as I don't tell him  And it works for us. I'm sorry that you had to go through another loss. I love you hun and I'm praying for you.
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