First couple of mornings after m/c (loss mentioned)

Servilia · #1 July 5th, 2011, 06:30 PM

These mornings are the worst. In my half-asleep half-awake state I don't remember that I've had bad news or that I've miscarried and for a minute or two I'm still happy, thinking I'm still pregnant. And then reality sets in and it's the worst realization. This happened to me with each of my m/c and really sucks. Sorry to vent here. Anyone else have this happen?

missy123 · #2 July 5th, 2011, 07:21 PM

Yup... and it still happens sometimes. I wake up sobbing.

It happened almost everyday for the first couple of weeks after each of my losses. Now it just happens once in a while.

I am so sorry

JessP · #3 July 5th, 2011, 08:57 PM

Totally happened to me. I would wake up thinking maybe it had all been a bad dream. Then I would spend 10-15 mins in the shower just sobbing. I hate it. You are always welcome on the pregnancy loss board if you want to post how you are feeling there as well.

cheeky_monkey · #4 July 5th, 2011, 11:02 PM

I know the feeling. It used to take me about 4 hours to get out of the bed after it woud have struck back that the baby was gone

Sometimes I still wonder from where did I manage to get all those tears

.:Shortcake:. · #5 July 6th, 2011, 03:17 AM

I agree it happened with me as well and actually still does

((HUGS))

luvmykids623 · #6 July 6th, 2011, 05:18 AM

I've done that too. It's a heart crusher!

*SamF* · #7 July 6th, 2011, 07:23 AM

Yep, been there. {hugs}

momof6lopez · #8 July 6th, 2011, 07:23 AM

Me too, any time I layed down and woke up, for minutes it would hit me like it was the first time finding out.....this lasted for like 2wks with all my loss's. I dont think I ever talked about that during my loss's, its nice that you brought it up as Im sure this happens more frequently than anyone knows. Again, Im so sorry for yet another loss......praying for you.

StaceygirlPa · #9 July 6th, 2011, 08:16 AM

That has happened me with all of my losses.

nala139 · #10 July 6th, 2011, 08:19 AM

Yeah, when I finally got pregnant I felt like it was too good to be true, I would keep telling my DH, I can't believe we finally did it, is this really my life? I was SO happy. I had just really started getting excited that we were going to make it through the first trimester when I found out I was miscarrying. I still had dreams about pregnancy and it took awhile to go away so I would wake up and have to remember the depressing reality of what was going on

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melissalaw · #11 July 6th, 2011, 09:03 AM

I am so sorry about your losses. It has only be a little over 4 weeks since my loss and I still do this most mornings. I always wake up like it has all been a bad dream and I am still pregnant. Spend most mornings crying in the shower. It is getting a bit easier every morning but the loss is just so hard.

joanna26 · #12 July 6th, 2011, 11:17 AM

It didn't hit me in the mornings necessarily but at random times during the day I would catch myself thinking like I was still pg (how to plan around a December due date for Christmas, picking Sprite instead of Coke, catching a glimpse of the OPK sticks under the counter and thanking God that I didn't have to use them anymore) and then reality hits like a ton of bricks. But the absolutely worst was that I had changed all my passwords at work to Baby1211 because I was due in December. The way our systems work I couldn't change the password until is expired so I nearly cried every morning for weeks when I had to type it in over and over again. HUGS sweetie!

agriffin · #13 July 6th, 2011, 12:51 PM

Count me in. It happened many times, not just in the mornings, for about 3 weeks or so. I remember being at the whole foods counter sampling cheeses and I told the girl I didn't want anything unpasturized because I was pregnant.

And as soon as I said it I realized what I had said. And of course she was congratulatory and I didn't want to correct it because how crazy I would have looked.

I'd walk by the baby stuff in target and think, oh I should see if they have anything good on clearance that I can get the baby. And then realize I wasn't pregnant anymore.

Anywho...yes. I'm with you. Hugs to you all.

TnPhotoMama81 · #14 July 6th, 2011, 01:44 PM

girl you definitely are not alone....it happened to me every time too. It is awful.

sweet.hun · #15 July 6th, 2011, 03:59 PM

Yep for a good month after both of my miscarriages I would wake up, touch my stomach, and then start bawling.

Celena · #16 July 6th, 2011, 05:33 PM

That perfectly describes my mornings lately too. Idk what to feel.

Logically I know my numbers aren't rising, but physically I haven't been bleeding and my symptoms are still present.

I do too wake up in that confused stupor, and then the sadness of the reality sets in for me too.