What keeps you sane/moving forward?

joanna26 · #1 July 6th, 2011, 01:27 PM

Maybe this is two questions, but for those of you who have been TTC for a while, what keeps you sane during the process and what keeps you motivated/moving forward versus just throwing in the towel and giving up?

We have been TTC #2 for over a year now with one early loss thrown in around Mother's Day. I am near the end of my first cycle post-miscarraige and got a BFN this morning. While I know I am not out until AF shows, I feel like I am out this month and I am just about to completely come undone. I had been holding tightly to the fact that my OB said that many women are very fertile right after having a m/c. If we don't have any luck next cycle my OB wants to do fertility testing. I don't know how many more BFNs I can take without completely losing my mind...

.:Shortcake:. · #2 July 6th, 2011, 02:55 PM

DH and I started TTC August 2008 and since then have had 7 losses with 8 angels. What keeps me moving forward is I know that I'm meant to be a mom and that some day some how I will be a mother. Also seeing all the ladies on the PAL board really helps me too. Never give up on your dream. It will happen it just might not happen when you want it to. ((HUGS))

StaceygirlPa · #3 July 7th, 2011, 05:47 AM

Dh and I have been trying for 3 years now. We have had 3 losses. We were told we wouldn't be able to conceive on our own. We proved the doctors wrong twice. I am going to prove the doctors wrong and we will be holding our rainbow baby in our arms. Dh will be such a good dad. I want dh to be a dad and I want to be a mom. Don't get me wrong there have been times I have wanted to give up. After our last lost when we lost pumpkin I was ready to give up. I know if I give up I will never hold our rainbow baby.

joanna26 · #4 July 7th, 2011, 06:14 AM

Thanks for the replies ladies. Your strength and perseverance amazes me and gives me hope. I feel better today. I think I am going to stop testing until I am actually late. For some reason seeing the BFNs is what really gets to me.

*SamF* · #5 July 7th, 2011, 06:59 AM

Before my son was born it was that overwhelming desire to be a mom. I just wouldn't give up on that dream. In the year since we started TTC #2, I just keep reminding myself I can do this, we can do this. I'm so lucky that I can look at my son and know that it is possible, and that he deserves a sibling.

missy123 · #6 July 7th, 2011, 07:38 AM

We TTC for 2.5 years with 4 losses. There are times when I did give up and took a month off from TTC just to get my bearings back. Even though the doctors said I would not have a baby without donor eggs I just kept pushing forward. In my heart I wanted to make my husband a daddy and to have a baby with the man I love so much.

It is a hard road you are on. ((hugs))

acchickpea · #7 July 7th, 2011, 07:56 AM

We hae bee TTC for about 3 yrs now... Within those times I did get overwhelmed and stopped trying for a month then tried again then took a few other breaks... I get so mad (and I shouldn't) at people who are so fertile.... But I get back on the saddle and keep on riding ;p (sorry..... tmi)
it's hard.... but everyone on here keeps me up and hopefull.....

LindseyE117 · #8 July 7th, 2011, 08:03 AM

What is sanity? I lost that a long time ago.

We have been TTC for over 3 years now with 1 loss together. What keeps me going is that I have 2 children from a previous relationship, so I know that my body can do it. It just drives me insane that it is not happening with my DH. We jumped onto the IVF train when we found out MFI was our main problem.

pepper73 · #9 July 7th, 2011, 11:00 AM

Having this board helps me a ton. I love having a place to go and vent to people who are in the same boat and I love seeing the success stories too. It gives me hope. Sometimes I do break down and give in to a cry day but I think that's a good thing to do now and then. TTC is hard and TTCAL is even harder. We will all get our rainbow babies though...I am sure of it.