sad to be joining this forum (m/c mentioned)

sandiegomom · #1 July 10th, 2011, 10:49 AM

Hi ladies... I could really use some emotional support right now. I lost my pregnancy at 5 wks, 5 days early this morning. I was devastated when I saw the u/s. I think the hardest thing is that my husband just left to go out to sea, so I was alone. I have been crying all morning. At least I was able to talk to him since his ship is in Hawaii, but I just need him here to console me! This was our first pregnancy together and i have 2 daughters that are 12 and 16 from my previous marriage. Trying to find comfort in the idea that something was likely to be wrong, but it isn't really making me feel any better. My husband was so excited for this pregnancy, that I feel guilty to him. Not that it is my fault obviously....but I still feel guilt. Also, the u/s showed a possible cyst on my ovary....not sure if that is something I should be worried about or not, and I hope it is nothing. Anyways....thanks for listening

Erin84 · #2 July 10th, 2011, 11:30 AM

Heather,

I used to post here a lot, but have withdrawn lately because I recently had a mc during my 5th week. It's been hard. I live in San Diego, I'm not sure how new you are to the area or what your network is like out here, but if you'd like to go get coffee sometime, we can talk. My schedule is CRAZY (I work odd hours, volunteer at a hospital, and am working on an online course), but I can make time <3 Let me know. What part of San Diego are you in? We're in UTC (near La Jolla).

lindsey2000k · #3 July 10th, 2011, 11:59 AM

I am so sorry for your loss.

sandiegomom · #4 July 10th, 2011, 12:13 PM

Thank you ladies... I appreciate it. Erin, I sent you a private message via email so I don't know if that is an email that you still check, but let me know if you got it. I would totally be up for a coffee...especially after I had quit "cold turkey" after finding out I was pregnant. Again, thank you guys.

tulip75 · #5 July 10th, 2011, 01:07 PM

I understand how you are feeling. I felt very guilty about my husband when I found out the news. Of course, he was just worried about me and my feelings and health.

It breaks my heart that you don't have him there with you. ((Hugs))

outnumberedX3 · #6 July 10th, 2011, 01:08 PM

I'm SO sorry for your loss, hon. When will your DH be back from deployment??

sandiegomom · #7 July 10th, 2011, 01:30 PM

Thank you again ladies...it does suck not having him home. He will be back in September since he doesn't have to finish the whole deployment since he is up for new orders and transferring to another ship...which luckily is supposed to be home for a little while. Does anyone know when your cycle is to resume? Do you typically resume when you normally would have?

.:fearless:. · #8 July 10th, 2011, 01:42 PM

Hi hun. I think we were in the same DDC, I recognize your username. I know your pain, I started the full mc at 6 wks 2 days. This was mine and DBF first together as well, and I too feel guilty to him. I am not sure how to deal with this either, I think I am doing well and each time I go to the bathroom its a smack in the face again.
From what I understand once you start bleeding count it as your regular cycle. I started bleeding yesterday, so 10 days from there I will start using the OPKs again. Big hugs to you and hopefully we can both have another H&H 9 mths soon as well as the other ladies on this board!

sandiegomom · #9 July 10th, 2011, 01:49 PM

Thank you so much Amanda. Yeah, I remember your posts from the DDC too. the weird thing is...I kept seeing people leave the DDC and I kept feeling like I would be next. I think our bodies know well before we do. I didn't know why I couldn't shake the feeling that something would go wrong. I had never felt that way with previous 2 pregnancies. It does feel good to talk to others feeling the same thing. I agree with you, it is a smack in the face each time I go to the bathroom too...I start crying again.

Good luck to you and everyone else on here, on our journey for that special miracle!

robbinsbaby1 · #10 July 10th, 2011, 01:56 PM

I am so sorry for you loss and not having your hubby with you. We are here for you anytime and know exactly what you are feeling. I had a m/c a month ago and my bleeding lasted 2 weeks, so its been 2 weeks since I stopped bleeding so I guess I am just waiting to see whats next. Best wishes

.:fearless:. · #11 July 10th, 2011, 01:57 PM

I felt the same way! I just never felt "right" I was worried, and I never worried during my other 3 pregnancies. To be honest, I had rush of emotions when I got that final call friday from the dr with my hcg levels. It had been an up and down roller coaster for over a week, and I could officialy know it was going the way I feared it would. Then I waited for the cramping and bleeding...then it was a whole new set of emotions. It just plain out sucks.

sandiegomom · #12 July 10th, 2011, 02:36 PM

wow, it lasted 2 weeks. that must have been tough on you. that is such an ugly reminder, you know? I sure hope it just goes quickly. Good luck to you this cycle! amanda..if you want to message me, feel free if you feel like you need to talk. i feel like being on this site is helping me feel better already just talking to people who understand your pain...and don't just give the, "it wasn't meant to be" scenario. which....I already try and tell myself, but it doesn't make me feel better. anyways....good luck to ALL of us ladies on here. I am glad to have found such an awesome bunch of women to chat with.

nala139 · #13 July 10th, 2011, 02:36 PM

I think I knew something was wrong with my pregnancy too before I miscarried

. It is weird how you just feel like something is wrong before a m/c actually happens. I am very sorry for your loss.

doremi · #14 July 10th, 2011, 02:45 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. I had my m/c at 5wks, the beginning of May. My OB said to expect that AF would not return for 4-8 weeks. My initial bleeding lasted about 8 days. For me, it made it less emotional to use a tampon instead of a pad, because it wasn't a "constant" reminder all through the day of what was going on... I know that seems silly, but it helped me. My first two AF's since the m/c have been extremely heavy. My last one was 12 days long. My OB said to expect that the first several cycles will not be totally normal. My heart goes out to you... I can't imagine how much harder a m/c would be if your husband was away. I'm glad you found this board. We are here for you!

melissalaw · #15 July 10th, 2011, 02:52 PM

I am so sorry for you loss and so sorry that you are going through this without your husband. Just know that we are here for you to listen.

sandiegomom · #16 July 10th, 2011, 03:42 PM

Thank you girls. It means so much to me to hear your condolences. Thank you for listening.

.:Shortcake:. · #17 July 11th, 2011, 05:31 AM

((HUGS)) I am so sorry for your loss. The ladies here are amazing and I hope we can give you the support you need. That has to be so hard doing it with your husband away.