Really!?!?

bluebawler · #1 July 15th, 2011, 09:17 AM

Ok I was on Facebook a few minutes ago and I was looking at my cousins profile. She is taller than me is incredibly overweight like 250lbs at least and with PCOS. Well to get to the point I seen where she writes that she's pregnant! Its great but it stinks at the same time. Here all the doctors are telling me to lose weight and eat healthy when she it double my weight and gets pregnant. I'm only 175lbs and a little on the short side so why can't I get pregnant and stay pregnant? She's like 9 weeks already. Sorry had to get that off my chest.

melissalaw · #2 July 15th, 2011, 09:28 AM

I am so sorry. I know sometime after a loss it is hard to be happy for others who are pregnant. I would think why them and why not me. Sorry you are having to go through this. Katie just started a TTCAL Weightloss subforum for losing weight and getting in shape. Check it out, maybe it will help and you can get your BFP and healthy rainbow baby.

acchickpea · #3 July 15th, 2011, 10:28 AM

That's just a slap in the face.... so sorry... Big Bear Hugs to you....
I feel like 9 weeks is still to early to announce a pregnancy especially on facebook. Even at 12 weeks you are never too sure if you would have a sticky bean. All I can imput is that she is a person and you are your own. Whatever the dr told you to do is for the better for your future baby. Take care of yourself and let her have her moment.... It's hard... myself and by reading other JM ladies post that we have a slightly different but similar story in more ways then one.

bluebawler · #4 July 15th, 2011, 10:41 AM

Thanks ladies. I probably shouldn't have blown up about that. Its not very christian of me. But we all mess up so. But ya I'm going to look into that TTCAL weight loss forum and check it out.

LindseyE117 · #5 July 15th, 2011, 10:55 AM

I feel for you. I just had a friend annouce her pregnancy at 7 weeks on Facebook and another at 7 weeks also. I don't know if I could annouce mine that early, even with a heartbeat. I am so scared of another loss. I am sorry. I feel your pain.

acchickpea · #6 July 15th, 2011, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by bluebawler

Thanks ladies. I probably shouldn't have blown up about that. Its not very christian of me. But we all mess up so. But ya I'm going to look into that TTCAL weight loss forum and check it out.

Are you kidding? It's only natural to feel that... I have... and still somewhat bitter but trying to look to the positive... I find this board great to let out all of your thoughts and feelings....
Hugs

.:Shortcake:. · #7 July 15th, 2011, 01:20 PM

((HUGS)) It's normal to feel that way. I have had many times that I felt like I should just give up and keep pushing forward. Try to keep pushing forward and know we are here for you.

JessP · #8 July 15th, 2011, 02:16 PM

What you are feeling is normal. I got that way a lot after my losses.

sandel07 · #9 July 18th, 2011, 11:59 AM

This past week I found out my ex (father of my sons) and his wife are expecting baby #2 and my 23 yr old cousin are both expecting in January.....Im jealous and and keep thinking why cant i have it that easy.

AMiner86 · #10 July 18th, 2011, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by LindseyE117

I feel for you. I just had a friend annouce her pregnancy at 7 weeks on Facebook and another at 7 weeks also. I don't know if I could annouce mine that early, even with a heartbeat. I am so scared of another loss. I am sorry. I feel your pain.

I agree. I would never announce that early, especially after losing our angel at 6 wks. The day that we heard the heartbeat is the same day that I m/c'd so even hearing a heartbeat isn't a sign of being "safe" and start making announcements, IMO. Hopefully none of these ladies have to experiece the loss that we have and I would give anything to go back to that naive state of mind that I used to have of "we can get excited as soon as we hear the heartbeat".

BeckyBozeman · #11 July 18th, 2011, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by AMiner86

I agree. I would never announce that early, especially after losing our angel at 6 wks. The day that we heard the heartbeat is the same day that I m/c'd so even hearing a heartbeat isn't a sign of being "safe" and start making announcements, IMO. Hopefully none of these ladies have to experiece the loss that we have and I would give anything to go back to that naive state of mind that I used to have of "we can get excited as soon as we hear the heartbeat".

Ditto...

This pregnancy was my first and we were so excited that we told everyone really early... we heard a nice strong heartbeat at 6.5 weeks and I thought that we were pretty much in the clear. I don't regret telling everyone - the support for us since the loss has been unbelievable and I want to share our joy. But I think that I'll be more hesitant about announcing next time (please god that there's a need) just because I'll be holding my breath...

I went to the mall today and walked by 4 pregnant women. I had to leave and broke down in the car.

lindsey2000k · #12 July 18th, 2011, 05:43 PM

Im sorry

I think DR's use weight as an excuse because they really dont know the reason or do not want to test so they just blame it on weight.

I am one of the bad ones who announces my pregnancies early on FB. I have kept a couple a secret but then I end up telling everyone about my miscarriage anyway so I do not see the difference.

AMiner86 · #13 July 18th, 2011, 07:21 PM

IMO, you are not a "bad one" for announcing early, to each their own. I personally don't want to make any early announcements because I kept my miscarriage fairly private, minus JM but to me that's different because this is talking to a group of women in a similar position.

Also, I'm a little more cynical this time around and I would feel like I would be jinxing myself by making early announcments.