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July 16th, 2011, 06:52 PM
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DH and I are most likely getting a divorce. This is the worst thing I have ever felt.
7/17- Well ladies I didnt really write much detail last night cause I was so upset... So I'll write just a tad more this afternoon...
For some reason, lately DH and I have been getting on each others nerves like crazy... Just little things over and over again and its so tense... I thought maybe we were both a little stressed and I thought it'd pass... As some of you know I am now 10 days late.... Well last night I went and bought a pregnancy test and it was negative.... I don't know if DH was just really stressed out but he FREAKED like way worse than he ever has... Calling me names, yelling in my ear, throwing stuff, bringing up stuff from the past and making the argument 50 times worse. It's always like he "snapped" he packed some stuff up... Told me he was going to file for a divorce and left.... I sat home all night just crying... I got a text from him this morning telling me that he's working at a different hospital today than normal cause there short and he's okay. But that's about it.
It really was the strangest thing.... I have never ever ever seen him like that... He's never treated me like that.... Who knows whats gonna happen.
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July 16th, 2011, 06:57 PM
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Why sweetie? What's going on? (((Hugs))) My divorce was really hard too.
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July 16th, 2011, 07:55 PM
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What is happening? It did not seem if anything was wrong. Then again, most people do not go off telling everyone their problems too. Was it just a huge fight (my hubby and I have had those a few times) or something lingering?
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July 16th, 2011, 08:38 PM
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I am so sorry. TTC and especially TTCAL can take a toll on a marriage. I hope that isn't the cause but just making an observation.
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July 16th, 2011, 10:44 PM
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Oh no! What is going on? I am so very sorry.
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July 17th, 2011, 05:28 AM
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I'm sorry!!! Was it just an argument? Hugs!!!
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July 17th, 2011, 05:30 AM
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I'm sorry! Was it an argument? Lord knows in the last 6 years of TTCAL DH and I have had some blowouts that I for sure thought were the end. Thinking of you! 
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July 17th, 2011, 07:40 AM
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HUGS honey 
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July 17th, 2011, 07:55 AM
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((HUGS)) We are here for you.
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July 17th, 2011, 10:04 AM
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I'm so sorry. I've been divorced and it's hard but you do get past it. While you're going through it, it feels like your world stops. After though you feel so free once the yuck has passed. I hope you are able to reconcile but if you can't take it from someone who's been through it, there's good waiting for you, I promise...
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July 17th, 2011, 01:12 PM
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Sounds like stress and you guys need to have a good talk. I wonder if TTC isn't taking a toll. Maybe a break is needed to get you guys back. If all you do is TTC you lose sight of what is important. I hope that you guys are able to work it out. So sorry that things are so crazy right now and you got a bfn on top of it.
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July 17th, 2011, 01:18 PM
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I agree with Jess. It sounds like your both stressed and you need a break. ((HUGS))
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July 17th, 2011, 02:00 PM
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Hugs!! Hope you guys can work it out. Maybe counciling?
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July 17th, 2011, 02:25 PM
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I'm so sorry things are so rough for you. I agree with the others that if the stress of TTC is a big contributor, it might be best for you both to step back and reconnect as husband and wife. I hope that you and he have been able to talk and that you can work it all out. Please keep us posted. We are all here for you!
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July 17th, 2011, 03:13 PM
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(((hUGS))) Keep us updated. I am sorry you guys got into such a bad fight.
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July 17th, 2011, 04:20 PM
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So sorry to hear about your troubles. I'm hoping you guys can sit down and talk things through and maybe take some time for yourselves to get your love back in shape. Perhaps you can get away for a weekend so you can both destress and figure things out without the big D. I hope you feel better soon. (hugs)
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July 17th, 2011, 07:25 PM
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Did he get upset because he thought you might be pregnant? Or was he upset that you weren't? I'm not sure where I get why he was so upset with you.
Either way, i'm sorry he acted like a jerk. I hope you both can work things out.
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July 17th, 2011, 08:15 PM
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Yes, 100% with the other ladies. Reconcile. Reconnect. Take a long break from TTC. As impossible as it this sounds, it is possible to forget about TTC when you're busy just loving each other and learning how to reconnect. You can do it. I would also, along with the other ladies, suggest council.
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July 17th, 2011, 08:50 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by sweet.hun
Did he get upset because he thought you might be pregnant? Or was he upset that you weren't? I'm not sure where I get why he was so upset with you.
Either way, i'm sorry he acted like a jerk. I hope you both can work things out.
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He's mad I wasn't.... But that was just the start.... Than he brought up more things from the past and it got ugly...
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July 17th, 2011, 10:49 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by SkyBaby
Yes, 100% with the other ladies. Reconcile. Reconnect. Take a long break from TTC. As impossible as it this sounds, it is possible to forget about TTC when you're busy just loving each other and learning how to reconnect. You can do it. I would also, along with the other ladies, suggest council.
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I totally agree with this. You have to put your marriage first. Get it back on track, seek counseling for the past issues that reared their ugly head as well as to help deal with the stress you have both endured TTC. Even if you can't bring yourself to take a break from TTC, you at least need to have some outside council. It sounds like he just let the stress of everything you've been through get the best of him. I really hope you are able to reconcile an get things back on track. Good luck!
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