[Disruptivebubbles]

Hey guys,
It's been awhile since I have even logged into just mommies ... I had my loss in April and well today I just got my period yet again ... In may my doctor gave us the okay to begin trying again and every month since then it just feels like a failure everytime I get my period and it just puts me right back into a depression. Any advice for me?

-vanessa

[JessP]

That is such a normal feeling. I am so sorry AF arrived again. I remember after my first loss it was like a slap in the face. Like going through the pain of the loss all over again. I am glad you came back to JM these ladies are so wonderful and so supportive. As for advice, I don't have much. For me the key was to focus on something else. After our second loss we stopped trying. I started working out like a mad woman and getting tattoos . The tattoos helped with the pain in a weird way since one was for my angels. Keeping busy seems to help many ladies. I hope you won't have to keep trying for long and get a beautiful rainbow baby soon.

[Disruptivebubbles]

Thanx lol I'm sure the tattoos are great I have three and I enjoy getting them, we got a kitten as an addition to our family so that was a distraction now there are 3 cats and two dogs and were also dogsitting another one so busy isn't a problem, I just don't feel like being social, and that's not good because I'm in charge of hiring where I work and I don't answer the phone I let it go to voicemail and I really just do not feel like being there or talking to people and there is one girl I work with she's a cashier and I swear after my m/c everyone got pregnant and this girl everytime I think she thinks it's a joke she has to run her belly everytime I'm near her or make stupid comments and i just want to stay home with my cat. I can't deal with it and I don't understand why my main focus in life is to have a family and kids and I can't accomplish that yet these girls who don't even know if their babys fathers going to stick around just get this great gift and just constantly complain about it. I think maybe I think too much =\

[pepper73]

Originally Posted by JessP

That is such a normal feeling. I am so sorry AF arrived again. I remember after my first loss it was like a slap in the face. Like going through the pain of the loss all over again.

Yes, that's exactly how it feels!

I'm sorry you are dealing with AF showing again. I know exactly how devastating and frustrating it is. Having people around you getting pregnant (and complaining about it) just makes it worse. That one girl who seems to be antagonizing you is just so incredibly rude. I would want to punch her!

Have you considered talking to a therapist? You could be suffering from depression and a loss can definitely trigger it. Talking to someone might help you sort through all of your emotions and help you work through this.

I hope things get better for you and you get your rainbow baby soon. We are all here for you!!

[.:Shortcake:.]

((HUGS)) I agree with the ladies. It was like reliving my m/c over and over again. I can tell you that staying busy helps and sometime writing down my feelings have helped me.

[*SamF*]

Just wanted to offer my hugs too. It's normal to feel that way towards pregnant women, They are most likely though oblivious to the fact that it bothers you. It's hard, but I'd just ignore them as much as you can.
Hope you get your BFP soon!

[lindsey2000k]

Im sorry... ((((HUGS)))))

[joanna26]

Sweetie I think that is totally normal. I went into a serious week-long tailspin when I got my period after our first cycle TTCAL, and I am just praying that the end of this cycle is better. HUGS! The only thing that makes me feel better is just to stay really busy.