I wasn't a regular poster when you were but I still wanted to respond. lol
Sorry to hear about your divorce, but I know what you mean when you talk about things not being meant to be. I've never been married, but I dated and lived with a guy for almost 3 years. We started dating when I was still 18, so it was my first "adult" relationship and when we split it was more of a relief than it was a sadness. Looking back, I can see that we were never meant for each other and I was completely miserable most of the time. Now I am more than happy with my current BF.
Good luck with your new guy! Hopefully this time you get the happiness that you deserve!