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July 26th, 2011, 08:18 AM
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Wookie's Girl
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So I just got a call from our clinic. None of our 4 remaining embryos survived the freezing process. None. We have no other chance than this one that we just did. I am scared to death. I know I am supposed to remain calm, otherwise it can go against us, but I am scared half to death now. We no longer have our 2nd chance is this one does not work. I am devestated.
Keep praying that this one sticks ladies.
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July 26th, 2011, 08:22 AM
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POAS Queen
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Please remember that fretting or being sad or angry will do nothing to help your situation. You can't do anything to change this terrible news, so try and just breathe through it. Sometimes it helps if I make a deal with yourself -- like, I'll let myself be sad when I can afford to be sad. (That's what I did with Drew, "Just hold it together at the NICU and you can fall apart once you get home.") It worked for me, maybe it will work for you, too? "If AF shows, I'll give myself a couple of well-deserved misery days, but until then, I have to stay strong for these babies, because I'm their mom." I will absolutely keep thinking of you and hoping things turn out wonderfully.
So do you find yourself hoping for twins now...? 
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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July 26th, 2011, 08:28 AM
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Veteran
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I am sorry about this news. I hope you get twins out of this cycle. I will be praying for you!! Try to relax. I know that is much easier said than done.
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July 26th, 2011, 08:29 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm sorry.
But please try to be calm to give the ones you did get to use a fighting chance.
I hope your get your bfp, then deliver a health baby and the fact that they did not make the freeze won't even matter.
I'm praying hard for you right now.
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July 26th, 2011, 08:38 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm sorry about the news. I like the idea of just putting off being sad about it till you can afford to be sad about it.
Praying for a healthy sticky bean(s) for you!
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July 26th, 2011, 09:01 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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((HUGS)) hopefully you get twins out of this cycle  Try to stay positive hun. We love you and are here for you
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July 26th, 2011, 09:02 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Lots of prayers for your bfp to come this cylce!! Stay strong, and know we are all pulling for you!
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July 26th, 2011, 09:06 AM
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Veteran
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I'm sorry, that must be terribly disappointing  . BUT, this cycle has a vey good chance of working, you said they put in two very good embryos right? Focus on that. I can't imagine how hard this tww is on you, the regular tww is torture for me so I definitely feel for you. I found this website recently, it's called circle & bloom. You can buy meditation CDs for fertility on them. I thought it couldn't hurt because I am such a stress case sometimes. I got the natural cycle series and it is really good, it really has helped me relax! I think they have meditations for medicated cycles and ivf, maybe something like that would help. I hope to hear really good news from you soon  .
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July 26th, 2011, 09:31 AM
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Waiting for our Miracle.
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I am sorry the other ones didn't make it. I know it is easier said then done. Try to relax. Try doing something to keep your mind busy. I like Erin's idea about letting yourself be sad at another time. I hope this round works for you and you get your bfp. Hopefully you will get twins.
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July 26th, 2011, 09:33 AM
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Wookie's Girl
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Ladies, I am just so depressed. Out of 16 eggs, only 2 survived. That says it all about the quality of my eggs. I do not expect these 2 to survive also. I should give up now and listen to my family. I was not meant to have any more children. I am going to go and try to take a nap.
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July 26th, 2011, 09:39 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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It is TOO SOON to be throwing in the towel!!! Focus on the fact that two perfect, healthy embryos were transferred into your uterus. I know this probably sounds cheesy, but you owe it to those little embies to stay positive and give them the best possible chance to stick! It ain't over 'til it's over! Praying that you get a healthy baby out of this!
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July 26th, 2011, 09:45 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm sorry I will send you prayers that you won't have to worry about another IVF because you will be pregnant. HUGS
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July 26th, 2011, 10:04 AM
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Forever missing Kaiya Rae
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Sending you prayers and BFP vibes ~~~~
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July 26th, 2011, 10:14 AM
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Veteran
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I am so sorry that you are feeling depressed. Please don't give up yet! The good thing is that the embryos that were transferred did survive all of that so far, so I think they got the good eggs!! that is better than just dropping a random egg and hoping for the best! honestly, i think that is a great sign that they were doing well! I hope that you get your BFP very soon! FX'd
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Oh..can't forget my furbabies, Maggie and Milo.
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July 26th, 2011, 10:15 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I'm so sorry you got that news. I know you didn't need to hear that on top of everything else you've gone through. BUT, I totally agree with Erin about telling yourself to be sad later if you need to and focusing on taking care of yourself and your embryos now. It is definitely too soon to give up. I'm thinking of you and sending big hugs your way!
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July 26th, 2011, 10:18 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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These two will stick....these two will stick....these two will stick...I will get my BFP...I will get my BFP
Positive thoughts only....like others said. You can be negative and sad if and only if the time comes.
FX's for you girl.
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July 26th, 2011, 10:19 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Location: new jersey
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I know it's hard but don't give up! You still have two eggies and stay positive for those two...
I'm crying with you...
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July 26th, 2011, 12:18 PM
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Wookie's Girl
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Sorry ladies for being so hormonal and depressed. I am completely out of my mind right now with all the hormones that I am taking. I don't want to bring any of you ladies down with me. I am so sorry for that. I know I need to stay positive. I just seem to get one devestating news after the other. I hope this is the light at the end of my tunnel though.
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July 26th, 2011, 01:40 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Tennessee
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I am so sorry about the ones that didn't make it. I am praying that the two that did will turn into beautiful babies for you. Keeping my fingers crossed for a BF for you
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July 26th, 2011, 02:33 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Praying hard for you sweetie! Keep your head up 
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