[pepper73]

If I hear one more of my friends complain about their pregnancy!!! OMG, it drives me nuts!!! I can understand it when someone doesn't know about my loss or that I'm TTC. But when it's coming from friends who know and know how hard it is...that really upsets me! I have mentioned to them how I would give anything to be feeling what they are feeling, but it doesn't stop them.

What do you ladies do when this happens to you?

[lindsey2000k]

It drives me nuts too. One of mine was complaining about how bad their pregnancy heartburn is this morning and I wanted to comment.....Trade You! I will take your heart burn and you can have my heart ache.

I really irks me when it's JM grads right from this room doing it.

[luvmykids623]

It drives me insane! I've actually called a few friends on it and told them that I would trade them. I have a friend who lost her infant daughter and then had a m/c. After baby was born every.single.facebook post was about her not getting sleep or getting spit up on, or never leaving the house. Are you kidding me??? I get venting occasionally, but constantly? She knows better!

Originally Posted by lindsey2000k

I really irks me when it's JM grads right from this room doing it.

Yes!

[pepper73]

I haven't tried the "trade you" thing, but maybe I'll start. Lori, I can't believe that about your friend! I had a friend (and granted, some of it was due to her crazy hormones and sleep deprivation) who advised me to rethink having kids. I was furious!

[StaceygirlPa]

I hate when I hear my friends or people complain about being pg. One good thing about being a house wife right now I don't have to be around anyone.

[momof6lopez]

Originally Posted by lindsey2000k

It drives me nuts too. One of mine was complaining about how bad their pregnancy heartburn is this morning and I wanted to comment.....Trade You! I will take your heart burn and you can have my heart ache.

I really irks me when it's JM grads right from this room doing it.

It really saddens me that grads from this room would post on this board about their pg symptoms (complaints that is). I know in PAL we find it our safe haven to post some things like that, because we all have in common that even though were complaining, we would not trade it for the world. But to post openly in TTCAL, about any complaints, is like puting salt on an open cut. I would just like to say sorry for any comments like that here, your right....its just plain heart breaking.

[lindsey2000k]

Originally Posted by momof5lopez

It really saddens me that grads from this room would post on this board about their pg symptoms (complaints that is). I know in PAL we find it our safe haven to post some things like that, because we all have in common that even though were complaining, we would not trade it for the world. But to post openly in TTCAL, about any complaints, is like puting salt on an open cut. I would just like to say sorry for any comments like that here, your right....its just plain heart breaking.

No I was not saying they come in here and post complaints. I was talking about ladies who are grads from here on Facebook complaining about their kids or pregnancies. You would think after such a great loss or losses they would just be happy to be pregnant or the the baby did not sleep all night. I honestly can't wait to be sick again or have my feet swollen because it would mean things are probably going good.

[luvmykids623]

Originally Posted by pepper73

I haven't tried the "trade you" thing, but maybe I'll start. Lori, I can't believe that about your friend! I had a friend (and granted, some of it was due to her crazy hormones and sleep deprivation) who advised me to rethink having kids. I was furious!

Yeah, we were in the April 11 DDC together. So the anger is a combo of "I would trade you in a heartbeat to have a baby that's not sleeping or puking on me. You got to keep your April baby!!!" and the fact that she knows first hand what loss is like it drives me batty.

I've had to delete some grads from TTCAL from Facebook, because of the incessant complaints. Neither one of them post here anymore.

[momof6lopez]

Originally Posted by lindsey2000k

No I was not saying they come in here and post complaints. I was talking about ladies who are grads from here on Facebook complaining about their kids or pregnancies. You would think after such a great loss or losses they would just be happy to be pregnant or the the baby did not sleep all night. I honestly can't wait to be sick again or have my feet swollen because it would mean things are probably going good.

O, the lovely world of facebook, lol.....sorry, I dont have a facebook and dont know anything about them, but I can say I even have a hard time posting complaints in PAL......LET ALONE TO THE WORLD! Im sorry for all the ladies having to read facebook friends posts about pg complaints, that would just tare me up inside to have to see that on a daily basis. Praying for your feet to be like elephant feet and so sick your head is in the toilet on a daily basis for weeks to come...(in a good way, lol) ...I know how I wanted that too more than anything...thats why I can barely complain to my dh about any of that, Im so very grateful.

[nala139]

I really can't stand it either when people complain about their pregnancies! I always tell DH when I get pregnant again I will never complain about symptoms, bring on the morning sickness!

[EJsMommy]

Originally Posted by nala139

I really can't stand it either when people complain about their pregnancies! I always tell DH when I get pregnant again I will never complain about symptoms, bring on the morning sickness!

Ditto this.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Here is how I look at it, I know we all would give anything to be going through it, however there is going to be a point where we are all pregnant and yes pregnancy takes a toll on your body so I understand when they complain here and there (that's normal no matter what you go through) but to complain constantly that's another story.

[pepper73]

For me, it's my good friends on Facebook and on IM who are like sisters to me. They know what a struggle it is...they have had losses...they know how long I've tried for a baby of my own. I love them, I truly do...and I am so happy that they are pregnant. But, I am so sick of them throwing their complaints in my face. I don't want to hear that the baby is so big that you are wiped out after going grocery shopping. I don't want to hear that you keep throwing up. You have a healthy baby who will be born healthy! I had a loss and am struggling to even have a chance at a child. Show some sensitivity! And yes, the complaints I hear are constant. And it kills me every time I hear another one. It wouldn't bother me as much coming from people who don't know better. But from my friends who know how much I'm hurting and trying...it practically sends me over the edge.

[Shadeauxe]

I thought this was going to be a post about ice cream. How disappointing.

Now I'll have to go mutter to myself or something.

[kaylakay]

Originally Posted by nala139

I really can't stand it either when people complain about their pregnancies! I always tell DH when I get pregnant again I will never complain about symptoms, bring on the morning sickness!

I LOVE this!

Bring on the morning sickness! Sore boobies! Heartburn! Back aches! Stretch marks! Labor pains! Tears! No sleep! Getting peed on! And everything else you can think of.



After 3 losses... I'd go through all of that complaint free just to be a mommy.

[pepper73]

Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

I thought this was going to be a post about ice cream. How disappointing.

Now I'll have to go mutter to myself or something.

LOL! If it makes you feel better, my bosses' daughter sent them back to the office yesterday with a sample of her homemade ice cream for me. It was probably the best ice cream I've ever had! Oh great...now I want more

[missy123]

Originally Posted by kaylakay

Bring on the morning sickness! Sore boobies! Heartburn! Back aches! Stretch marks! Labor pains! Tears! No sleep! Getting peed on! And everything else you can think of.
After 3 losses... I'd go through all of that complaint free just to be a mommy.

I used to feel the same way as you all do. Bring on the morning sickness, bring on the aches and pains... after 4 losses; 2 D&C's; infertility treatments; hopes and dreams smashed over and over again that is all I wanted. I wanted to be pregnant so bad that every single day I cried and wished and hoped. All my birthday wishes were that I would be pregnant and DH would rub my belly and feel a baby in there instead of them dying inside of me while my heart died right with them. That the depression I was feeling would somehow be lifted and I would feel life again instead of pain. That I could look at pregnant women in the supermarket without having to hide tears while pangs of jealousy ran rapid through every vein in my body. How I wished to be them. Please god, let me be them, I will never complain. How dare they complain about anything when I want what they have? What makes them so special and me so doomed that I sit and suffer in pain daily while they get to go on and have their babies? Why me? How dare They? If I could trade places with them I would... it is my dream. Oh god take me out of this darkness and let me have the baby I dream of with my husband...

Those are just a few of the feelings I felt during my time TTC (I wrote this pretty fast). The reality is this: I don't know if it is just harder to be pregnant at an older age or what but I do struggle everyday with this pregnancy and it is so bad that I can not even walk straight most of the time anymore as there are nerves being pinched in my back; I still have morning sickness at least a few days a week and these are just all a part of the pain that may go along with pregnancy. And while I may complain at times, I promise you it is never an intention to hurt anyone else. I doubt any of those girls that are hurting you by complaining even realize the pain they are causing you.

I pray everyday for all of you... It is one of the reasons I stay on this board. To keep up with your journeys and celebrate with you when it is time. You are all so special and unique and I am so deeply sorry that we have dealt with such sorrow.

xoxoxoxoxo

[pepper73]

Originally Posted by missy123

I used to feel the same way as you all do. Bring on the morning sickness, bring on the aches and pains... after 4 losses; 2 D&C's; infertility treatments; hopes and dreams smashed over and over again that is all I wanted. I wanted to be pregnant so bad that every single day I cried and wished and hoped. All my birthday wishes were that I would be pregnant and DH would rub my belly and feel a baby in there instead of them dying inside of me while my heart died right with them. That the depression I was feeling would somehow be lifted and I would feel life again instead of pain. That I could look at pregnant women in the supermarket without having to hide tears while pangs of jealousy ran rapid through every vein in my body. How I wished to be them. Please god, let me be them, I will never complain. How dare they complain about anything when I want what they have? What makes them so special and me so doomed that I sit and suffer in pain daily while they get to go on and have their babies? Why me? How dare They? If I could trade places with them I would... it is my dream. Oh god take me out of this darkness and let me have the baby I dream of with my husband...

Those are just a few of the feelings I felt during my time TTC (I wrote this pretty fast). The reality is this: I don't know if it is just harder to be pregnant at an older age or what but I do struggle everyday with this pregnancy and it is so bad that I can not even walk straight most of the time anymore as there are nerves being pinched in my back; I still have morning sickness at least a few days a week and these are just all a part of the pain that may go along with pregnancy. And while I may complain at times, I promise you it is never an intention to hurt anyone else. I doubt any of those girls that are hurting you by complaining even realize the pain they are causing you.

I pray everyday for all of you... It is one of the reasons I stay on this board. To keep up with your journeys and celebrate with you when it is time. You are all so special and unique and I am so deeply sorry that we have dealt with such sorrow.

xoxoxoxoxo

Missy, your wishes and heartache are exactly what I (and I'm sure most if not all of us on TTCAL) are feeling right now. And I have never heard of one complaint that you may have about pregnancy. All I've ever seen from you on here are positive messages and I think of you as a cheerleader for the rest of us. I'm sure you are right...once it happens, we will all have our own share of ups & downs with our pregnancies. One thing for sure...even after we all leave TTCAL..we will still always be there and we will be there to support the new ones who (unfortunately) join.

[missy123]

Originally Posted by pepper73

I'm sure you are right...once it happens, we will all have our own share of ups & downs with our pregnancies. One thing for sure...even after we all leave TTCAL..we will still always be there and we will be there to support the new ones who (unfortunately) join.

And I can't wait to be there right by your side to celebrate every ache and pain right with you!!

In the meantime it just really hurts huh? Believe it or not that pain doesn't magically go away. (unfortunately) I still check the TP every time.

Enough of my blubbering nonsense - get busy girls - It is time to get out of here!!

[cheeky_monkey]

Aaarghh I know what you mean!!! I have gotten the 'you don't know what your're doing; having kids is like killing your social life'or 'Oh I'm sorry I don't have any free time now, you know always busy with the kids'

They just make me want to scream my lungs out. I would have to puke every.single.day, to change dirty nappies, to being peed on, even to have a baby poop in my hands. I would pay just to look into the eyes of a newborn and know that that baby is ours.

to make it even worse (if it can get any worse than that) the ppl who know about my infertility keep on telling me to relax, that it will happen! what the heck???!!!!????? relaxing (if there is any such thing) will not give me back my ovulations!!!!!! and it will not get rid of the endo. they think that taking clomid used to be a breeze for me and now that I have to take Follistim is going to be easy (btw no one battled an eye lid when they got to know that I was at risk of permanent damage coz of clomid).

In a way I understand where they are coming from. just doing it once and getting pregnant must take you millions of miles away from knowing the heartache of wanting a baby (something that should be easy to do since we're all equipped with a womb, right?) but not being able to have that one thing which would make ur heart miss more than a beat and you would not give any thought about it