[Cartersmommy08]

get through a baby shower after loss I work with about 500 woman, no exaggeration. The majority between 22-40, so lots of BFP's. It's always a joke their are 3 preggers at one time in the office. I was one of three....the other two are due a week before and a week after I was. I am truly very happy for them, but I won't like, it stings a bit.

Today I have a baby shower, and I am so very happy for this couple, but seeing all this baby stuff has made me feel worse all over again. It doesn't help that I'm still testing BFP nearly 4 weeks after the fact.

I don't want to be a jealous person, it's such a horrible feeling. But I can't help it, I'm jealous of everyone with a healthy happy baby, a round tummy, etc.

I don't know if you just notice it more after a loss but last night I went grocery shopping, and I ALWAYS go at night to avoid a billion people, and I swear it was pregnant shopping night!

[.:Shortcake:.]

((HUGS)) I avoided baby showers for awhile. And even now I go but it still hurts. I can tell you with time it gets easier but I won't lie the pain has never fully gone away for me. If they know you had a loss you could always send a gift with a note telling them your not comfortable going yet as your loss is still new.

[luvmykids623]

Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.

((HUGS)) I avoided baby showers for awhile. And even now I go but it still hurts. I can tell you with time it gets easier but I won't lie the pain has never fully gone away for me. If they know you had a loss you could always send a gift with a note telling them your not comfortable going yet as your loss is still new.

It has never gone away for me either. I've always done baby showers on a case by case basis depending on where I was mentally and emotionally. If you feel strong enough to go then I would. If not anyone who truly cares about you would understand you just sending a gift and card.

[*SamF*]

I've avoided them too when I'm not in a mental place that I can handle them. I'd make an excuse, send a gift and skip it. You don't need to put yourself through it

[joanna26]

I haven't been to one and am not sure I could handle it right now. I seem to do fine with newborns but even walking through the baby section of BRU is tough for some reason. HUGS sweetie! I think bowing out with a card and gift is perfectly appropriate for quite a while