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So, there is this bar close to my house....it's a co-op bar. I would love to go and have a couple hand crafted pints.....but for some reason the hipsters who can breed bring thier infants and toddlers.... To the bar!
I just want to drink and not be reminded about babies. Who brings thier kids to a bar anyway? I mean it must have been get a $1 off your beer with every kid you bring night. Ugh!!! I feel so mad that I can't even escape at the pub. I swear if my eyes were lasers they would have all burst into flames.
I feel guilty for feeling this way, am I allowed to be this angry?
You absolutely have the right to be angry. It's totally normal and natural and also part of the grieving process. There are no wrong emotions when dealing with a loss. I don't blame you for wanting to escape and the fact that your retreat was full of babies must have been even more heartbreaking for you. I also don't understand why people would take their babies/children to a bar...unless it's also a place that serves food.
I'm sorry! You have every right to be angry, it's part of the process, and your feelings are your feelings.
The food is how it's legal, if they are classified as a restaurant, kids are allowed. Someplaces do have laws about kids sitting at the bar itself, but bar/restaurants allow kids- in some places it's the only restaurant.
I would have been angry about seeing people bring babies and kids to the Pub and drinking Pints (and subsequently probably driving kids home after drinking?) regardless of losing Kaiya! Not appropriate! You have every right to be extra sensitive about it after a loss for sure. For a long time, and something still, it was hard for me to see anyone out with kids, at the store or a restaurant. It made me very jealous and sad that I should have my little girl with me too, but can't now!
I don't take it out on them, and have never uttered a word to any one with a kid..... But I have had the dagger eyes..... I can't deny that. These people though, and I know don't know thier story....but I would never take my kid to a bar even for one drink much less getting snockered with my toddler.....