What did you do on your due date?

cheeky_monkey · #1 August 18th, 2011, 03:50 AM

Mine's next Tuesday and I am already dreading the day. I don't want to spend it moping around the house, I doubt that at the rate I am going with the house cleaning there will be anything else to clean.

Any ideas pls? I cried enough - no more than enough actually - these past months. I do not want to cry anymore

Shadeauxe · #2 August 18th, 2011, 04:58 AM

I didn't do anything different. I think I knew it was coming up and at some point I knew it had passed, but I didn't dwell on it or even remember it on the actual day. You'll find that I am the odd one though.

pepper73 · #3 August 18th, 2011, 05:15 AM

I haven't reached mine yet...it is October 15 (which I think is also miscarriage awareness day or something similar). I am dreading it but I think I'd like to do something special to remember my angel. I'm just not sure yet.

3Sapphires · #4 August 18th, 2011, 05:17 AM

I don't think I did anything out of the ordinary.

We were preparing for my DH to take a new job in a different state and him moving away from us for undetermined amount of time till we had a place to move to. So my mind was elsewhere.

I want to offer you some hugs - I hope you can get through your day without too many tears.

.:Shortcake:. · #5 August 18th, 2011, 05:32 AM

I always let balloons go on my EDD's and Angelversaries. I write to my angels and let them go for them. Everyone likes to handle things differently. I also have a bad habit. December 15th is when I lost my first angel, my baby boy Noah. The 1st angelversary for him I got a tattoo in remembrance of him. The second year... I got my belly button pierced. DH is worried about what I'm going to do this year

But what I wanted to explain to you is we all handle and grieve differently. Some people like to treat it like any other day, some like to do something in memory of their angel and neither thing is right or wrong it's what you want.

Cait&AngelAbove · #6 August 18th, 2011, 05:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

I didn't do anything different. I think I knew it was coming up and at some point I knew it had passed, but I didn't dwell on it or even remember it on the actual day. You'll find that I am the odd one though.

Courtney I did the same thing. I knew it was coming up and we were busy getting ready for our anniversary trip so I stopped looking at a calendar because I knew I would be useless that day if I dwelled on it. I realized the following day that I had passed my due date so I said a lil prayer to my sweet angel, cried a little bit, and just kept going. It was all I could do.

*SamF* · #7 August 18th, 2011, 06:03 AM

On the majority of them I try to ignore them. On Spuds, it was harder, because he was so much more real to me. I looked at his u/s pics, and lit a candle for him.

cheeky_monkey · #8 August 18th, 2011, 09:41 AM

thanks Ami!

I doubt that I will be able to pass the day like it is a 'normal' day. I'm just hoping that on Monday I'll have some good news so that maybe Tuesday will be less bleak

JessP · #9 August 18th, 2011, 05:22 PM

I do more for my loss dates than I do for my EDD. I knew it was here (one of them was yesterday) but I didn't do anything. Emotionally last week was harder for me. The week before is usually harder. Everyone is different.

SillyKitty · #10 August 21st, 2011, 11:33 AM

The EDD of my second loss is coming up on Thursday. I will be working a busy day, so I don't have anything special planned. Maybe I'll go out to the backyard where we buried our baby and say a little something. For my first loss, the EDD happened to be the same day as my dad's birthday, so we didn't do anything special and just celebrated with my dad instead.

cheeky_monkey · #11 August 21st, 2011, 06:17 PM

Yesterday (it's 03.12am here) a 'friend' of mine had her baby. It stung to tell the truth that she managed to keep hers while i lost mine.During the whole pregnancy as soon as she saw me she kept on rubbing her belly. I simply couldn't take it anymore - thankfully summer holidays started and I sort of got 'rid' of her.

Still the thing is that she now has a wonderful baby boy to take home with her and here I am wishing that maybe this month will be our month and that I will be finally pregnant again - and this time around with a sticky baby.

Tomorrow is my EDD. I still don't know what I'm going to do yet. I know that I am going to have a long 'chat' with my baby. In a way with eaach day that passes I know that it is one less day until I'll meet my little bubba in heaven, but having to deal with not having him/her here with us this week is still making me feel more broken and useless right now.

TheOtherMichelle · #12 August 22nd, 2011, 05:12 AM

Mine's coming up in November. I don't know if I'll do anything, since so far I haven't wanted to do anything in memory, really. Kind of stupid, but the other day I was at the store and went to buy something and the expiration date was my due date and I got ticked off and put it back.

cheeky_monkey · #13 August 22nd, 2011, 05:19 AM

we've decided! DH is going to take me to the beach. Then we'll come home and in the afternoon I'm going back to the beach with my parents. I don't want to stay at home crying all the day long