[LindseyE117]

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[luvmykids623]

I think that is fabulous advice!! I'm no help on the writing a letter and not getting angry part though. I have a REALLY hard time when I'm hurt deeply and angry to the core not letting it show in words or actions. I hope one of the other ladies can help you with that part.

[LindseyE117]

Me too! I cannot get past "To Whom it May Concern." Lol. Everything I write I erase.

[luvmykids623]

That would be me! I'm so angry with them for what they did to you, even if I was writing it for you I wouldn't be able to get past that point.

[pepper73]

I suggest that you go ahead and write the letter as you are feeling it now...emotional, angry...etc. Then sleep on it (figuratively, not literally...although you can if you really want to, lol). The next day, go back to the letter and edit it. This way, you'd be able to get your emotions out, but also have a foundation for the letter with the facts and requests in it.

Good luck! I really hope you get some results!!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Here is what I would do. I would write out exactly how you are feeling. Read over it a few times then sit it aside. Then try to right a "non-emotional" one. I deal a lot with angry customers at my job. A lot of time I have to type and mail them letters explaining things to them and it sometimes takes me awhile to get it where I need it to be. If you need any help you can message me with it and I can look it over

[EJsMommy]

Originally Posted by pepper73

I suggest that you go ahead and write the letter as you are feeling it now...emotional, angry...etc. Then sleep on it (figuratively, not literally...although you can if you really want to, lol). The next day, go back to the letter and edit it. This way, you'd be able to get your emotions out, but also have a foundation for the letter with the facts and requests in it.

Good luck! I really hope you get some results!!

I agree with this. Write down what you need to say with the emotions involved so that you clear them out somewhat. Then set that letter aside and come back to it the next day and you will have a clearer head to edit the letter and take the emotion out of it.

I hope this helps. I would feel and do the same as you in that situation. I really hope you get favorable results out of this.

[JessP]

I agree with the ladies. You need a base to start with. So write everything out. You need to wait for your records to finish the letter anyway. But you can tweek certain parts over the next couple days to be less emotional while you wait. You need to have a jumping off point.
That was very nice of the other poster to offer such great advice. Hopefully this will help.

[L-SBB]

Definitely do a venting letter or just a stream of consciousness type of vent even to get all of the anger & emotions out. With the anger out, now focus on what you want to accomplish with the letter....are you looking for an apology? a refund? a change in approach so future patients aren't treated similarly? I don't know the details of what happened to you, but you should also decide whether you're walking away from the doctor/practice group or staying (if you haven't already moved to new Dr).

And then start new, and pretend that's not your file, not your experience, but someone elses entirely and approach your letter & the info in the file as dispassionately as you're able to. I personally like the approach of outlining the "why" first, the underlying issue that's led you to write them...then lay out the facts as non-confrontationally as possible, and close with what you'd like to see happen or what you're asking for their support in resolving.

I personally think it helps to acknowledge if there were things you could have also done differently (if applicable) to demonstrate that managed care is a Dr-patient joint responsibility...and if your Dr ultimately made a mistake in how they handled your care, pointing it out in a manner that doesn't immediately raise alarms to them that you might be seeking to litigate is a good idea....Drs are so concerned about liability where a mistake may have been made that if they think your letter is an attempt to start documenting for litigation they may not respond in a productive/helpful way.

Good luck to you - I hope you get the resolution you want from your Dr ultimately.

[.:Shortcake:.]

How are you doing Lindsey?

[StaceygirlPa]

I am no help at writting letters. I hope you were able to write your letter. I hope they do something to help make up what you went through.

[terajet]

The other girls gave you some great advice. I also suggest writing it earlier in the day before you get tired or stressed by something else. I am always better at doing those kinds of things in the earlier part of my day.

[LindseyE117]

Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.

How are you doing Lindsey?

I am ok. I have not really done anything today because I have so many things to do around here. Plus, I want to wait until I have my medical records which will cost us $50. We get paid tomorrow so that shouldn't be long.

I am still very bitter, and I might be that way for a while. I really hate TTC. I feel like I keep getting left behind in the dust.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Originally Posted by LindseyE117

I am ok. I have not really done anything today because I have so many things to do around here. Plus, I want to wait until I have my medical records which will cost us $50. We get paid tomorrow so that shouldn't be long.

I am still very bitter, and I might be that way for a while. I really hate TTC. I feel like I keep getting left behind in the dust.

((HUGS)) I know that feeling all to well I'm sorry and I hope you get your natural BFP.

[LindseyE117]

Katie, I emailed my first draft of my letter to you. I hope the email that you have on Facebook is still good.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Originally Posted by LindseyE117

Katie, I emailed my first draft of my letter to you. I hope the email that you have on Facebook is still good.

Lindsey I got your email I will look over it and email you back.