To try to make a long story short...yeah right
I will sort of start from the beginning of the issue - DH was really struggling with self esteem issues, job related issues, etc. He never finished college and his family was never really good at not shoving that in his face - still aren't! He had a pretty decent job making decent money even though he didn't have a degree, but he didn't like the job. He started to get depressed, but never said anything and it was hard for me to see at first. Anyways, he started to drink to self medicate (again, I didn't notice, it's hard, drinkers are REALLY good at hiding it, as any other addict is). He ended up getting into a car accident (thank God he was the only one involved) and then in turn ended up losing his job because of the disability/drinking issues. He was lucky enough to land another job a couple of months later with my company and was happy again for a little while. I moved on to a different job, making much better money and in a much better environment (he was contracted out to a refinery where he was doing asbestos supervising/monitoring) and started to get depressed again - this time I caught it. I caught him red handed in fact (DD was about 1 month old) and the hormonal witch came out and I yelled, screamed, cried and told him if he didn't get himself together we were gone! I was mostly concerned about his health and what would eventually happen to us, because my dad was an alcoholic and I did not want my daughter to go through that. He stopped drinking for 3 months, then slowly started up again, got laid off (not from drinking, but the economy), had a part time job, got another full time job, so quit his part time job only to go into a deep depression again (nighttime work, we never saw each other and it was not a job he cared for again). He ended up getting let go, but they said they wanted to help him, at the time he didn't think he needed help, but I talked to him, he tried to get me to help him, but I said, look, it didn't work last time, I can't help you, you have to help yourself. He slept on it for a couple of days and then his brother had a huge blow out/issue with his wife (he struggled worse than DH with alcohol) and my DH realized he didn't want it to get that far and when his brother went in for treatment, so did he.
He has been sober for 5 months today! And he is so proud of himself, feels so much better about himself (of course it's a struggle for him at times, but he has his support group/people that can help him, that have been through it). Not only that, but he has also finally realized that he is smart (he thinks because he doesn't have a degree he isn't, but I am pretty sure he is smarter than me, even though I have 2...). He decided to go back to school to get his teaching degree, which is what he has always wanted to do. I couldn't be prouder and I know this will help him with his self esteem.
Ok, enough of my life story, I just needed to post about how proud I am of him, since I can't really talk about most of that stuff with ppl I know in person, because many of them don't know.
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