[kaylakay]

So I have a really good friend at work and his wife just barely bad a new baby. It took them 6 years to get him and with their first it took 7 years with many miscarriages... Well here is this sweet guy telling me all of this and I just wanted to blurt out "I've had 3 consecutive miscarriages and people like you really give me hope" etc etc etc. But for some reason I can't seem to tell people... I don't want them to feel bad. I don't want to hear the "Im so sorry. Everything happens for a reason" speech... But I know deep down it'd be easier to be more open about it. I just cant seem to get the courage. Anyone else have this problem?

[JessP]

For me it depends on the situation. Its hard to open up and you should only do so if you feel comfortable doing so. As long as you are talking to someone even just here on JM it helps. I am sure he wouldn't be so insensitive to you as those who have never been through a loss. It takes time and healing. Give yourself time and don't be to hard on yourself.

[Ana*Addey*OliveMommy]

It all depends for me too. If I know they have gone through problems its easier for me. But I don't tell just anyone about how long it took us for DD1 or even about our recent loss.

[Micksbabe]

I totally understand where you ladeis are coming from, but I am one who will tell anyone, if it comes up in conversation. I actually have no problem talking aout it because I think if more women did then it wouldn't be such a taboo subject.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I used to. After my first loss I didn't want to talk about it, I didn't want to open up and admit it to anyone let alone myself. Now I openly talk about my angels. I see someone in my OB's office crying I can't help but talk to them. I will never forget my angels and I want to keep their memories alive.

[pepper73]

I also find that it is easier to talk freely about it. For one, it tends to make people avoid accidentally saying something insensitive and it is also a way to raise awareness that this happens way too often. Plus, it helps with healing. But I also agree that if you aren't comfortable doing so, then don't. Do what feels right to you.

[terajet]

I agree, although it is hard sometimes, it is good to talk openly about it. For some reason this topic seems to be something everyone keeps a secret but once you open up you will see that many other people have gone through similar situations to have their baby.