Follow up doctor app. today (m/c mentioned)

kelbert · #1 September 12th, 2011, 10:14 AM

So I have an appointment today at the RE.. its a follow up from my u/s two weeks ago. That was the day I found out for sure that I was going to m/c. I was 7 weeks 4 days and only had a 5 week old gest. sac. One of the worst days of my life.

So for TWO weeks I have been waiting for something to happen. We had scheduled this appointment for this reason. Since nothing is happening then I will most likely do a D&C. I can't stand just sitting here waiting for something to naturally happen. Apparently my body didn't get the memo

I am sitting at work now just dreading the upcoming appointment because I know what is going to happen.

What I don't understand is how things stop progressing around 5 weeks 2 days.. and here I am at around 9 weeks 4 days and NOTHING happen. It just ain't right!

Leanne78 · #2 September 12th, 2011, 10:36 AM

Sorry you are going through this! I had a missed miscarriage in May and my body never did get the memo. I went 3 weeks after finding out that the pregnancy wasn't viable and finally had a D&C. It was awful just waiting for something to happen and then nothing happening. It's just not fair.

(((HUGS)))

Cait&AngelAbove · #3 September 12th, 2011, 11:21 AM

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this! Big giant hugs!!!

.:Shortcake:. · #4 September 12th, 2011, 03:55 PM

((HUGS)) I am so sorry your having to go through this hun

*SamF* · #5 September 12th, 2011, 04:00 PM

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I hope they can give you some answers today.

pepper73 · #6 September 12th, 2011, 04:01 PM

I'm so sorry!

kelbert · #7 September 12th, 2011, 04:40 PM

Thanks ladies.. going to schedule the D&C for this week. The u/s showed today that the gest. sac did grow a little bit, but there was no more yolk sac, just some debris.

Waiting two weeks wasn't fun, but now I know for sure that I am not making a mistake. I am just ready to move on.

Ana*Addey*OliveMommy · #8 September 12th, 2011, 05:13 PM

Sorry you are going through this.

humnck · #9 September 12th, 2011, 06:50 PM

I was 8w 3d when we saw everything was fine, I went until 11w 5d and had a minor spotting for which I saw the doc and found out that the baby had stopped growing at 8w 6d...for some reason, sometimes our bodies just don't get it. I hope you get your closure so you can move on. As sad and awful as the D&E was, it did help a bit to know that I could start over and try to move on from there. It really isn't fair!!

HUGS!!!

acchickpea · #10 September 13th, 2011, 12:15 PM

Sorry for your loss.... Hugs....

LindseyE117 · #11 September 13th, 2011, 06:33 PM

Kelli, I am so sorry. I wish I could make it all better.

Blue_fire · #12 September 14th, 2011, 04:50 AM

It's so frustrating to wait. I've done both, natural and multiple d&c's. I hope this helps you heal quickly, and I'm so sorry you have to do this at all.....

lindsey2000k · #13 September 14th, 2011, 06:03 AM

I am so sorry

I had a missed miscarriage at 8w 1d went in at 9 weeks to find out there was no heartbeat and baby stopped growing. I went in for a D&C the next morning.

I had another missed miscarriage at 8w 5d went in at 10 weeks for a regular appointment and they could not find the heartbeat and baby stopped growing. With this one I did the pills to force miscarriage after waiting 5 weeks and nothing happen. With my insurance my out of pocket pay for the D&C was $3500 ($12,000 before insurance). I would call the hospital and see what they charge for the OR and everything else because I was so shocked that they charged $11,000 for 20 minutes in the OR.

If you would rather try for natural miscarriage you can ask your DR to try the pill before going for a D&C.

kelbert · #14 September 14th, 2011, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by lindsey2000k

With this one I did the pills to force miscarriage after waiting 5 weeks and nothing happen. With my insurance my out of pocket pay for the D&C was $3500 ($12,000 before insurance). I would call the hospital and see what they charge for the OR and everything else because I was so shocked that they charged $11,000 for 20 minutes in the OR.

If you would rather try for natural miscarriage you can ask your DR to try the pill before going for a D&C.

First I want to say I am sorry you went through all that

Once is horrible and twice is just unimaginable and unfair!

And OMG! 11,000!? That is insane? Do these people not care what we are already going through? Then they have to squeeze every dime out of us on top of that!

I had definitely planned on calling. I tried yesterday but he was at jury duty. Apparently nobody else in the hospital handles the finance part of things? Pretty ridiculous.

lindsey2000k · #15 September 14th, 2011, 07:58 AM

Well acually I have had 4 losses now

1 miscarriage that happen on its own at 7.4 weeks, 2 missed miscarriages, & then an ectopic.
I have my siggy hidden right now because I am expecting again but dont want to hurt the ladies on here who have to look at my ticker.

I tired to get answers before hand on how much it was going to cost and they gave me the impression it would be about $1500.00 so I was thinking ok then my part would be about $300.00.
I do have a $2000.00 hospital deductable so I had to pay that and then a % of the rest.

With the second missed miscarriage if the cytotec did not work I even talked it over with my dr and I was going to go to the local clinic and have it done for only $500.00. The sitution would have sucked but they said they were going to put me right in to a private room and not have me in the waiting room because I was there for a different reason than most woman. I figured it could not be as hard as being at the hospital where the nurses keep asking why you are there instead of reading your chart first.... UGH.
My Dr even agreed to do my after care because he even thought the hospital bill was just crazy. I made the appointment and the night before I ended up passing the baby with the use of the pills.

But I wanted to make sure you knew about the pill option before going in for a surgery. Most DRs wont tell you about it you have to ask. Having to deal with a loss is so hard then when you have this extra crap to decide on makes things so much worse.

kelbert · #16 September 14th, 2011, 08:30 AM

Having a loss sucks. There is no other way to describe it. I will say a congrats to you though

T&Ps!

Right now i am waiting for a call back from the financial guy. I have already met my deductible for this year. I met it back in January with a knee surgery.. ha. And I am on my DH's insurance and its pretty good. So fingers crossed it will be affordable.

I knew you could get medication to help you m/c naturally I just really didn't want to have to do that. I am just not sure what to expect from it and it scares me. Is it painful?

lindsey2000k · #17 September 14th, 2011, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by kelbert

Having a loss sucks. There is no other way to describe it. I will say a congrats to you though

T&Ps!

Right now i am waiting for a call back from the financial guy. I have already met my deductible for this year. I met it back in January with a knee surgery.. ha. And I am on my DH's insurance and its pretty good. So fingers crossed it will be affordable.

I knew you could get medication to help you m/c naturally I just really didn't want to have to do that. I am just not sure what to expect from it and it scares me. Is it painful?

For me doing it the pill way was better then the D&C, but a lot of ladies on here will side with the D&C over pills. It all depends on your situation, how gental your DR is with the D&C ect.
I did not think the pain was to bad I had about 45 minutes of pretty much what I remember labor with DD felt like and then I passed a sac a little bigger than a base ball and after that I was pain free. But I was almost 9 weeks along so with your babys growth stopping in the 5th week you wont see anything like I did.
The only plus to the D&C (for me) was I had little to no bleeding but I had 2 weeks worth of cramping/bad gas type pains.
I think it is all what you can mentally handle some people would like to have a D&C so they just go in go to sleep and wake up and its all over. For me I wanted to see it and it gave me closure... but I am a little odd.

Since your deductable is meet then your bill will probably be nothing like mine was. I will be thinking about you KUP on what you choose and how it goes.

kelbert · #18 September 14th, 2011, 09:58 AM

Thank you for the info. Lindsey. I will probably just go with it if its affordable. At my last doc app. the sac had actually grown some more.. just nothing else with it.

I am one of those people that want to go to sleep.. wake up and it be over. I am just ready to move on ya know?

Also the doc said he would try and get some tissue for testing. We did IVF and already spend a lot of money, so it makes this that much harder. I just hope and pray the FET is successful.

lindsey2000k · #19 September 14th, 2011, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by kelbert

Thank you for the info. Lindsey. I will probably just go with it if its affordable. At my last doc app. the sac had actually grown some more.. just nothing else with it.

I am one of those people that want to go to sleep.. wake up and it be over. I am just ready to move on ya know?

Also the doc said he would try and get some tissue for testing. We did IVF and already spend a lot of money, so it makes this that much harder. I just hope and pray the FET is successful.

I understand. And if they are doing Tissue collection for testing then D&C is the best way to go.