[kaylakay]

So I usually delete people who are pregnant off of Facebook unless their family or a super close friend... Well when just friends or aquaintences end up pregnant I'll delete them so I can not kill over in jealously. Well once in a while I'll go back to those people's pages and like see how their doing and how their babies are progressing then I get really upset, get a giant lump in my throat (sometimes cry), and almost kill over in jealousy.


Why do I keep torturing myself? I think I have gone nuts. Hahaha

[.:Shortcake:.]

((HUGS)) It is hard but sometimes I try to look at it this way, You don't always know what they have been through in their TTC journey. They might have tried for a very long time, had losses or anything. So I try my best to be happy for them. The only ones that still really hurt are the ones that I know won't treat their kids well or didn't want their kids.

[~*Kel*~]

If you are anything like me you do it because you mean well, you want them to be happy and you honestly care how their family is doing even though it hurts you so much. It is a sucky situation to be in. I really hope that you get a sticky baby soon and can find some peace.

[humnck]

I know what you mean, but I think it's as the ppl above said, you truly want them to be happy, but it sucks that you can't be in the same boat. And I agree with Katie, you don't necessarily know what they have been through, perhaps something very similar to what anyone of us has been through - when I had my last loss, there were tons of people that came out of the woodwork with similar stories for me. Unfortunate that so many people go through it, but in a strange way, nice to know you aren't alone. That is why we are all here right? It still sucks though!

[*SamF*]

It's a fine line sometimes between being happy for someone and being overcome by jealousy about what they have. I agree though with Jatie, we usually font know what they have been through to get where they are. I know I have 0 people in real life who understand what I've been through with the multiple losses and so many failed cyes if MA.

[cheeky_monkey]

I agree with what you say. In a way I am in Kayla's postion. A person I used to believe was a friend of mine knew what we were going through but when she got pregnant it was a continuous stream of updates It hurt then and it still hurts today. As much as I try to be happy for her deep inside it hurts that she makes side comments which I know are aimed at me coz I never did anythingbut support her when she was trying to get pregnant

[kaylakay]

I know, I know. It isn't their fault I have fertility problems and they could as well. But I don't need to go look and make it worse for myself! Ha I'm trying to stop that. I just like to check back in and make sure they are okay. It just gets me upset... Which is understandable.