[boysarebest]

So I know that most of the people that I meet dont know what it is like to have trouble conceiving but you would think that just maybe people would think before they speak. So last week I am at the park with my boys who are 4 1/2 years apart and this other mom with 2 daughters who are 13 months apart out of no where says to me "why would you wait so long in between to have your kids." I try to be a nice, caring person but I quickly snap at her "some of us arent as lucky or as fertile as you!" she sorta shoots me this glare like I am so mean and cruel. Then I see a friend of mine who lives in my neighborhood as well who tells me that this girl has told people how mean and jealous and bitter I am of her.

WTH, for real? I am now labeled as a mean person because this moron makes a totally inconsiderate comment and I put her in her place?

How do you guys deal with these people?

[humnck]

UGH, sometimes people really just don't think when they ask stupid questions. But, you do have to remember when people easily have children, they don't remember that others have a hard time. I don't know why she would say that you are mean, just because you said what you did, she probably felt badly about what she said and the only way to justify it was to tell someone that you are a mean person. I would ignore it, she is obviously uneducated about certain things and doesn't understand enough about others to realize that, unfortunately, people don't always choose to wait so long or choose not to have children of their own!

[Moldovandish]

I hate questions like this. And I have a really hard time with people that concieve easily. They have no clue what the rest of us go through.

[cheeky_monkey]

I wish I could tell you just ignore her - but I know that that is pretty difficult to do

All I can say is this: you did nothing wrong and if she wants to tell ppl that you are mean and jealous of her let her think that. Ppl who really know you know that that is not the truth. Ppl who do not know you and think that is she right; you do not need them in ur life coz to base their beliefs on what someone else would have said is pretty babyish to say the least.

[Shadeauxe]

The people that know you know that she's full of sh*t and the rest don't matter. You said the right thing, in my opinion.

[pepper73]

I agree with everything the others have said. I'm sorry you were put in that position. I think a lot of times we are expected to just grin and bear it when someone says something insensitive like that. I say you have every right to put someone in their place. Some people don't recognize boundaries and it really sucks.

[mommymayb]

i know how it feels to have someone think your jealous of them and honestly i am a little bit towards this girl. shes pregnant doesn't know who her babies daddy is there is a possibility its my mans (we have been together 6 months she is seven months alongno cheating going on. anyway her and i got into it the other night fighting about how she does everything around the house and thats a lie i do everything so i stood up for myself and she goes off with " i've had sex with your man for a week and got pregnant and how long have you been trying" she knows about the 3 previous miscarages i've had and knows i want to be a mommy the only reason she didn't get decked is because of that baby. but i know how it feels to have someone rubbing fertility in your face. it isn't a good feeling

[acchickpea]

that's awful... that would just bother me so much to hear that comment from someone else.... People just need to be more sensitive..... Hope you can get past it....

[cheeky_monkey]

mommymayb I can't believe that someone said that to you

[(Calebs_Momma)]

I'm sorry I know, it's hard. I don't think that your comment deserves you being called bitter now. -sigh- there will always be high school drama no matter how old you are, it's sad but true, just gotta try and ignore it.

[mommymayb]

Originally Posted by cheeky_monkey

mommymayb I can't believe that someone said that to you

yeah and she rubs it in my face all the time. but i have gotten somewhat used to it. because my boyfriend keeps telling me that when we do end up having our baby that i'm goingto be the best mommy ever so that puts some sunshine in my life