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October 11th, 2011, 03:43 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Okay ladies I know there are some of you out there lurking! We would love to hear from you. Please tell us about yourself and come out of lurking.
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October 11th, 2011, 04:15 AM
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Weiner Dogs Rock!
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I always lurk in this room...ocassionally I will post something if I feel drawn to a topic. But I don't quite "fit" in this room at this stage...but still like to check on the ladies in here and jump for joy when it happens for them
I'll be back in a year or so...
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October 11th, 2011, 04:58 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Ashlee I can't believe Kieran is already 3 weeks old! Ahhhh  Time is moving too quickly
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October 11th, 2011, 06:46 AM
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Praying 4 a miracle
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I'm still in lurk mode. Tested this week and it was a bfn but af is still not here so I don't know what's going to happen.
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October 11th, 2011, 06:58 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Quote:
Originally Posted by cheeky_monkey
I'm still in lurk mode. Tested this week and it was a bfn but af is still not here so I don't know what's going to happen.
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Come out come out! We miss you
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October 11th, 2011, 07:00 AM
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Praying 4 a miracle
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Join Date: Jun 2011
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Quote:
Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.
Come out come out! We miss you 
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I miss you too, a lot, but I'm still not wearing my big girlie panties and it's becoming tougher to see others moving on. I feel like I'm stuck here with super glue
I'm happy for all of them don't get me wrong but I want so much to say I'm pregnant as well
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October 11th, 2011, 07:39 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Quote:
Originally Posted by cheeky_monkey
I miss you too, a lot, but I'm still not wearing my big girlie panties and it's becoming tougher to see others moving on. I feel like I'm stuck here with super glue
I'm happy for all of them don't get me wrong but I want so much to say I'm pregnant as well 
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I wish I could help you hun I really do. I've been here over 3 years now. I can say I'm at the point I'm truly happy when I see ladies graduate. It does sting when I see them leave after only a short time but I push past it. Your turn with come hun
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October 11th, 2011, 07:45 AM
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Praying 4 a miracle
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I know and I would love you see you announce your bfp as soon as possible.
I'm starting to give up Katie :'(
I have a lot of maybe questions;
maybe it is not meant to be, maybe I would be an aweful mum so that's why God doesn't want to give me any kids, maybe I don't deserve to have kids, maybe I would not love them enough..
It will be soon 2.5 years of trying now and I feel like I'm still on step one - only now I'm not as naive as I was back them. All my friends right now either have children, or have a new born or are expecting. I'm the odd one out and I feel sooooooooooooo jealous. Not even after the m/c was so hard to deal with an 'I'm pregnant' news
Bleh I wish I could knock some sense in me at times.
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October 11th, 2011, 07:49 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm here. I always lurk from time to time, but I'm not wearing my big girl panties either, so I don't post. Signature explains it all.
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October 11th, 2011, 07:59 AM
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Veteran
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: South Florida
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I am guilty of lurking. After my loss this summer we discovered I had a thyroid issue that I am currently dealing with. I can't start ttc until at least March, so I just lurk and send good thoughts everyone's way.
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October 11th, 2011, 08:00 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Quote:
Originally Posted by cheeky_monkey
I know and I would love you see you announce your bfp as soon as possible.
I'm starting to give up Katie :'(
I have a lot of maybe questions;
maybe it is not meant to be, maybe I would be an aweful mum so that's why God doesn't want to give me any kids, maybe I don't deserve to have kids, maybe I would not love them enough..
It will be soon 2.5 years of trying now and I feel like I'm still on step one - only now I'm not as naive as I was back them. All my friends right now either have children, or have a new born or are expecting. I'm the odd one out and I feel sooooooooooooo jealous. Not even after the m/c was so hard to deal with an 'I'm pregnant' news
Bleh I wish I could knock some sense in me at times.
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About a year after my first loss I was at that point. I wanted to just give up and say we weren't meant to have a child... but I can't give up on this dream. I will be a mom some day. It might not be when I want it to be, it might not be how I want it to be but I feel in my heart and soul that it will happen and I'm not going to give up without a fight. I know with my PCOS and Endo I have a long road ahead of me but if I give up I'd be more depressed than I am right now. I am here if you ever need to talk. ((HUGS))
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Originally Posted by MountainMomma
I'm here. I always lurk from time to time, but I'm not wearing my big girl panties either, so I don't post. Signature explains it all.
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Stephanie I am so sorry for all that you have been through. It's not fair and I wish I could take you pain away. The pain and loss you have had to endure is unthinkable. Please know that I'm here for you as well. ((HUGS))
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Originally Posted by JennS83
I am guilty of lurking. After my loss this summer we discovered I had a thyroid issue that I am currently dealing with. I can't start ttc until at least March, so I just lurk and send good thoughts everyone's way.
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I'm sorry you can't try until March. Hopefully when you try now that your thyroid issue will be taken care of you will get your BFP. Please feel free to post until then too
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October 11th, 2011, 08:08 AM
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Praying 4 a miracle
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I know how hard it is for you as well. I have endo and pcos as well, plus diabetes and high bp. At times I feel like a ticking time bomb about to go off.
I'm not giving up, even though it hurts, but I want to have a baby too much. It's just too hard dealing with ppl getting pregnant easily and me being in the same place all the time. Next time it will be a year that we made our little fulinu (little bean)
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October 11th, 2011, 04:20 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I lurk! I come over frequently to check on everyone.
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October 11th, 2011, 05:21 PM
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Veteran
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I'm Mia, and I'm a lurker. I'm technically not TTC yet since I'm still waiting for my body to process the latest loss.
A brief history... When I was 36.5, we started TTC. 2.5 years later, I conceived my daughter. In the interim, I had three losses. First pregnancy, we saw a weak heart beat, but a week later it was gone (missed ab). Gave my body several weeks to realize the loss, but eventually took cytotec vaginally. Second time, all we saw was a yolk sac (blighted ovum). Again, my body didn't clue in after several weeks so I took cytotec. Third time around, I was waiting for my period to start so I could take clomid. It was way late. They brought me in. Positive pregnancy blood test, but I bled a few days later (chemical pg). Went on metformin for insulin resistance, started walking nightly, lost 25 lb, eventually got pregnant with my daughter. She's an awesome 2-year-old. In June, I finally convinced hubby to try for one more kidlet. I'm 41 so our window is small. I was lucky enough to conceive on my third cycle. Turned out to be a blighted ovum. I'm spotting now, but haven't bled significantly. I'm hoping my body will figure out what it needs to do soon.
I'm not really feeling that sad right now. I'm mostly just feeling impatient. I want my body to get back to baseline so we can try again.
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October 11th, 2011, 09:21 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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My name is Kira and I lurk on here quite a lot keeping up with all you wonderful ladies. I comment some still, as well. I spent all my time on JM on this board when I lost my first in July of 2009. It took us nearly 2 years to conceive our miracle. She's still growing and happy and healthy.
Don't lose hope ladies! Everyone here will have their happy healthy rainbow babies. It's just a matter of time. <3
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October 12th, 2011, 03:42 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Quote:
Originally Posted by mbsn
I'm Mia, and I'm a lurker. I'm technically not TTC yet since I'm still waiting for my body to process the latest loss.
A brief history... When I was 36.5, we started TTC. 2.5 years later, I conceived my daughter. In the interim, I had three losses. First pregnancy, we saw a weak heart beat, but a week later it was gone (missed ab). Gave my body several weeks to realize the loss, but eventually took cytotec vaginally. Second time, all we saw was a yolk sac (blighted ovum). Again, my body didn't clue in after several weeks so I took cytotec. Third time around, I was waiting for my period to start so I could take clomid. It was way late. They brought me in. Positive pregnancy blood test, but I bled a few days later (chemical pg). Went on metformin for insulin resistance, started walking nightly, lost 25 lb, eventually got pregnant with my daughter. She's an awesome 2-year-old. In June, I finally convinced hubby to try for one more kidlet. I'm 41 so our window is small. I was lucky enough to conceive on my third cycle. Turned out to be a blighted ovum. I'm spotting now, but haven't bled significantly. I'm hoping my body will figure out what it needs to do soon.
I'm not really feeling that sad right now. I'm mostly just feeling impatient. I want my body to get back to baseline so we can try again.
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((HUGS)) I am so very sorry for your losses. Please feel free to jump right in with us. It helps talking to others going through what we ourselves are going through. I hope that your body does this naturally.
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October 12th, 2011, 09:47 AM
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Veteran
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im a lurker
my first loss was nearly 15yrs ago when my sweet dd was born sleeping then i had a chemical in april of this year. I think im lucky having my 3 rainbow babies but it doesnt make it any easier with the losses.
i love to lurk here to see all you ladies get your long awaited bfp's and sticky beans
I hope you dont mind
Good luck to you all
Kerry anne
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October 12th, 2011, 01:00 PM
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Surprise! We're Pregnant!
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I'm lurking. But mostly because I'm *trying* to chill out this month and take it easy. LOL. I can't stay away from JM though!
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October 12th, 2011, 01:26 PM
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Expecting #1
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I've been posting here and there in the last week, just because I have such a new loss, but I've mainly been lurking. I almost feel guilty because my loss happened very early in my pregnancy, and I know that so many of you ladies have had much more significant losses. Just reading your posts, though, has helped me a lot.
I guess I could officially introduce myself. I'm Adrienne (32), and DH is William (31). We've been TTC #1 since July. We succeeded on our third cycle, but I had an early m/c on 10/4 (at 4 weeks, 4 days). I'm so grateful that it was early, but my emotions have definitely spanned the gamut from grief-stricken to just plain angry. I'm feeling pretty good about everything right now, especially since I had my follow-up appointment with my doctor yesterday. I should know later today if my hCG is back down to 0 and if I'm in the clear to TTC again. My level was only 8 last Tuesday, so we figure I'll be okay.
Just wanted to say hello and thank everyone for their advice.
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October 12th, 2011, 01:33 PM
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Praying 4 a miracle
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[QUOTE=junie22;25006087] I almost feel guilty because my loss happened very early in my pregnancy, and I know that so many of you ladies have had much more significant losses. QUOTE]
You shouldn't feel guilty coz no matter when the m/c happens you would still have loved ur little baby with all ur heart and soul.
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