[Doodle_Jr.]

Do you have pregnant friends whom you don't talk to? I have a girlfriend who is due in November. I was due in December. She announced her pregnancy on FB the day my m/c was confirmed (May 21st) and I have yet to say congratulations. I feel absolutely horrible about it and I know I need to phone her. I had a really hard time coping plus things get busy with everyday life and now I find myself in October and I haven't talked to her. I don't want to make her feel bad by telling her what happened but I feel like I owe her an explanation as to why she hasn't heard from me. I guess I just needed to get this out to people who understand and maybe now I'll be more accountable.

[ninja_mommy]

It is very hard. I have a lot of friends who are pregnant right now. There are about 5 people who are due within a week or two of my DD. One of which who is my sister in law and she's having twins.
I hadn't really told family we were expecting since it was so early and I had to tell her like a day after I miscarried what had happened. I explained to her that when I found out she was pregnant I just wanted to jump and up and down and scream because we were going to be due so close together. I didn't say anything and a few days later I started spotting. So, like I said I pretty much told her what happened and apologized if I didn't seem as happy as I should be. I did tell her how happy I was for them.
I just think if I hadn't told her she would be so confused as to why I was acting weird or didn't seem happy about her pregnancy.

[missy123]

A true friend will understand why you are being distant weather they have had a pregnancy loss or not. Don't put pressure on yourself right now to try to feel happy for others. The loss of a child is the most heartbreaking thing to go through - weather you are pregnant for 5 minutes for or your child is 25.

I know... I TTC'ed for 2.5 years with 4 losses. During this time it was so hard for me to watch everyone around me in real life and here on the boards go on to have their babies. Inside I was really happy for them and bought them presents but at the same time I was sinking further into a sadness over my own situation. My pitty party had to win out sometimes just to stay sane.

And as the clouds lifted a little and I was able to come back into the social scene I realized that I did not lose any of my friends. They were right there waiting for me and completely understood.

xoxoxoxo - I know what you are going through.

[roziecakes]

I have a lot of friends who are pregnant right now, but they are very understanding. I was invited to a baby shower yesterday, and I just couldn't go. My friend understood. Thank goodness!!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Ditto what Missy said. My friend is actually about to have her little boy within the next month and I can tell you that in the beginning it was one of the hardest things I ever did to be around her and try to accept that she is pregnant and I am not. But I love her and we have been best friends forever so we just worked at it and I'm fine now. It still stings but I can cope with it now and she understands.

[acchickpea]

I think that it clears the mind if you were to talk to her and tell her what you were going through. If nothing is said that thought would still be lingering in your mind stressing you... (I should take my own advice)
SIL is due in early Nov and she announced her pregnancy two weeks of her knowing I had miscarried.. The way they announced it was just a big stab in the heart... yet I don't think she thought about what she did... I can't take away her joy of pregnancy (or I should really say lack of excitement)... oh boy I can go on and on.... sorry.....

[cheeky_monkey]

most of my friends are pregnant ATM and I am still finding it hard to talk to most of them, so I have ended up mostly on my own. Without you ladies I guess I could say that I am lacking a bit friends right now. They all know that I am very happy for them but I need time to stay on my own away from them. I know it's not 'fair' on them, but I need to look after my mental health first and foremost