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October 25th, 2011, 08:36 AM
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So I'm at the stage of wanting to POAS to see if I would ever see a BFP... So far it's been BFN instead... My husband told me that he feels very depressed because we have tried for so long.... I feel awful that I can't make this a reality for him.....
It really doesn't help that everyone around us are having babies especially his brother and his wife who aren't financially or phisically ready for a baby is about to be due in two weeks.... (I really should be more excited for them.... But it's so hard....)
I want this waiting time to speed up so that I know what is going on with my body.... vent....
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October 25th, 2011, 10:34 AM
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I'm sorry...I think sometimes we forget that it's also hard on guys when they see a BFN month after month, they suppose to be able to get us pg and when they don't they get depress. Have you thought of maybe having the 2 of you go away for a romantic weekend, or have a romantic dinner somewhere where to get his head away from TTC.
Sorry about your brother in law, it's hard when you see people close to you have kids, when for one reason or another they shouldn't. You want to be happy for them, but part of you can't.
Sending you big HUGS
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October 25th, 2011, 11:02 AM
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I guess there's nothing I can really say, except from sending you lots of virtual hugs xxxx

Mine seems to deal with it by plonking in front of the tv and not talking to me :/
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October 25th, 2011, 11:06 AM
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I'm sorry sweetie! We do sometimes forget the toll it takes on the other half of the equation, even though they tend not to be verbal about it.
I hope you soon get that perfect

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October 25th, 2011, 11:21 AM
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I am sorry you are going through this. I finally stopped telling Dh anything about my cycles. That way he didn't know when I was going to test. It seemed to help a lot.
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October 25th, 2011, 05:51 PM
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I'm sorry sweetie HUGS!!!
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October 25th, 2011, 07:43 PM
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This must be tough, but it's awesome that you have such a caring husband.
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