Wanted to say 'Hello'. Hope it's okay if I join a little early.

FL Mama · #1 October 25th, 2011, 06:34 PM

So, I just had a loss/miscarriage/stillbirth on 10/18 just shy of 17wks along, and though my heart is so very broken I am looking forward to TTC again and getting a baby to keep and to love. Obviously, I am not cleared to TTC yet, but I plan on talking to my doc at my loss-follow-up appointment in another week or so because I want to start ASAP. Anyway, I'm hoping you all will be okay with me joining a little early even though I'm not technically TTC yet. I need to get back into charting and temping and all that stuff. Plus, the loss boards are a little slow and I need people to talk to.

So, let me introduce myself. My name is Heather. My hubby's name is Joe, and on 12/5 we will celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary. WOW! LOL! We have two boys - Noah (8) and Jonah (6). After Jonah we kind of thought we were done, but things changed earlier this year. I told DH I wanted to have one more, and he hesitated, but not for long. We started TTC in May and conceived on 7/10. I wanted a girl so badly, and I was almost positive the baby I just lost was her. Everything about this pregnancy was so different than my boys' - who were weirdly identical. So, I want to try again. I still want a girl so badly, but really I'll just be happy to deliver a baby that I can actually take home.

Feel free to ask me any questions you might have. I'm an open book.

L-SBB · #2 October 25th, 2011, 06:38 PM

hi Heather...welcome to TTCAL. I am so very sorry for your loss

Definitely hang out here...i joined TTCAL first time around 3 years ago while i was still recovering from 1st loss, and now i'm hanging out here again WTTC until Jan after current loss. This is a fantastic group of ladies and a great place to find support! HUGS

FL Mama · #3 October 25th, 2011, 06:45 PM

Oh, wow. Yours is very fresh, too. So sorry for your loss.

L-SBB · #4 October 25th, 2011, 06:55 PM

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Oh, wow. Yours is very fresh, too. So sorry for your loss.

thanks...mine seems new, but we had 3 weeks prior of being in limbo, bleeding & multiple betas & u/s...lots of hoping but ultimately the loss was not surprising. I had so much time to mentally prepare for this loss that it wasn't as traumatic for me as the first where I had no symptoms and then suddenly the hb was gone.

Feel free to lean on us as you grieve your loss...I find focusing on TTC helpful, but it can be difficult at times especially when you want to be able to try again quickly and Drs recommend not (which is my situation too). We can commiserate...I hope you're cleared to try again as soon as you're ready to.

FL Mama · #5 October 25th, 2011, 07:09 PM

Thanks. I hope I don't have to wait long either, but I fear I will have to. I believe after my first loss I had to wait 6-8wks - can't totally remember. But this time I was almost halfway through the pregnancy, yk? I don't want to wait, but I know it's best. I'm just anxious to talk to my doc about it, but I can't even get the scheduling nurse to call me back to make an appt.! Frustrating!

junie22 · #6 October 25th, 2011, 07:27 PM

Welcome to the board, though I wish you didn't have to join.

I can't imagine how difficult your loss must have been, yet your attitude is so inspirational. I hope you heal quickly.

I look forward to getting to know you. (I'm Adrienne, BTW, TTC #1.)

pepper73 · #7 October 25th, 2011, 08:30 PM

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I can't imagine how difficult your loss must have been, yet your attitude is so inspirational.

I was thinking the same thing!

Of course you can join this board! I am so sorry for your losses. My loss was early at 6 weeks and that was devastating. I can't imagine what a loss so far along would feel like. I hope that your doctor gives you the green light soon and you can get started TTC right away. For me, TTC did help me survive the loss. It has been a rough road, full of disappointments but I still try to give myself new hope every cycle. It will happen for all of us! I hope that you find this board as supportive as I have. It is like a family here and we are all cheerleaders for everyone else!

To introduce myself...my name is Sarah and I'm 38 years old TTC our first. My BF has a DD from a previous relationship and we would love to give her a sibling or two. When I got pregnant, it was a surprise but we instantly realized that this is what we wanted. Understandably, the loss was devastating for us both. We're now on our 7th cycle trying and waiting.

Please keep us updated on how you are doing!

TnPhotoMama81 · #8 October 25th, 2011, 09:23 PM

Heather I am still so sorry you had to leave our ddc

I think you will like this group. They really helped me after each of my losses. T&P that the next time you are pregnant, everything will go smoothly.

*hugs*

FL Mama · #9 October 25th, 2011, 10:29 PM

Adrienne - Thanks so much. You aren't the first person to tell me that I am inspirational. I am sad and lost and angry and all that stuff, but at the same time I know that no matter what I do or how I feel, nothing is going to change. I can cry for the next four months, but I still won't have my baby home with me. I will cry, I will be angry, I will be confused, but nothing is going to change, yk? I HAVE to move on, and that is what I am doing best. I am sorry, so sorry, that you are here and still trying to have your first baby. I have no idea what that must feel like, but at the same time I am glad you are here to welcome and comfort me. Thank you for that.

Melissa, Thank you so much. I miss our DDC a lot. I actually still lurk every few days. It's weird, but I still want to be there with you all. When I had my first loss in '04 I was on some message boards that had a TTCAL board and it did help me a lot. I'm not sure if you hid your siggy for me or if you do it for this whole board, but I want you to know that you don't have to do that for me. I am still so very happy for you, and still hope that everything goes smoothly for you. It's nice to see a familiar face here, but there's no need to coddle me. Does that make sense?

pepper73 · #10 October 25th, 2011, 10:55 PM

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I promise I was not ignoring you. I could swear your post was not there last night when I responded to the others. So sorry. Kinda weird.

Anyway, thanks for your kind words. It's nice to "meet" you, and I'm totally rooting for you!

LOL! No worries! My post wasn't there last night. I posted that this morning. There has been something funky going on with post orders and time stamping. Posts are going all over the place and the times are definitely not accurate.

I am rooting for you too!!!

FL Mama · #11 October 26th, 2011, 06:16 AM

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Originally Posted by pepper73

I was thinking the same thing!

Of course you can join this board! I am so sorry for your losses. My loss was early at 6 weeks and that was devastating. I can't imagine what a loss so far along would feel like. I hope that your doctor gives you the green light soon and you can get started TTC right away. For me, TTC did help me survive the loss. It has been a rough road, full of disappointments but I still try to give myself new hope every cycle. It will happen for all of us! I hope that you find this board as supportive as I have. It is like a family here and we are all cheerleaders for everyone else!

To introduce myself...my name is Sarah and I'm 38 years old TTC our first. My BF has a DD from a previous relationship and we would love to give her a sibling or two. When I got pregnant, it was a surprise but we instantly realized that this is what we wanted. Understandably, the loss was devastating for us both. We're now on our 7th cycle trying and waiting.

Please keep us updated on how you are doing!

I promise I was not ignoring you. I could swear your post was not there last night when I responded to the others. So sorry. Kinda weird.

Anyway, thanks for your kind words. It's nice to "meet" you, and I'm totally rooting for you!

luvmykids623 · #12 October 26th, 2011, 02:14 PM

Heather, I'm so sorry for your loss, and that you had to leave us. My heart just breaks for you. I think of you all the time. The ladies here are sooooo amazing, and helped me more than I could ever express. They are one of the only reasons I stayed sane this last year. I hope you are able to find some comfort here. Melissa and I (and others) have our siggies turned off, because it's hard for some of the ladies on the board to see the pregnancy tickers. Usually you'll only see them in the posts where a bfp or pregnancy is mentioned.

junie22 · #13 October 26th, 2011, 02:17 PM

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Adrienne - Thanks so much. You aren't the first person to tell me that I am inspirational. I am sad and lost and angry and all that stuff, but at the same time I know that no matter what I do or how I feel, nothing is going to change. I can cry for the next four months, but I still won't have my baby home with me. I will cry, I will be angry, I will be confused, but nothing is going to change, yk? I HAVE to move on, and that is what I am doing best. I am sorry, so sorry, that you are here and still trying to have your first baby. I have no idea what that must feel like, but at the same time I am glad you are here to welcome and comfort me. Thank you for that.

I love you! I can tell I'm going to enjoy having you on this board... though I hope both of us won't linger here too long.

ninja_mommy · #14 October 26th, 2011, 02:21 PM

Sorry for your losses and welcome. I am Nena, we are TTC #2 with a loss almost 3 weeks ago at 6 1/2 weeks. I hope you heal quickly and can get back to TTC again soon!

roziecakes · #15 October 26th, 2011, 04:52 PM

Oh no Heather!!!! I'm so sorry to hear it! We were in the same DDC

Oh, I'm so so sad for you. This is a really supportive part of the forum, it has really been a wonderful place to be able to come and get advice, and just have listening ears and nice ladies. I sincerely wish you the best. Hugs!

sandiegomom · #16 October 26th, 2011, 05:18 PM

Heather....I was in the april ddc with you too. but, i left pretty early on in the game. I am soooooo sorry to see you have to join over here, but hope that your stay is short. I hope you get the answers you need from your doctor soon and just know that we are all here for support. I haven't been on here a lot lately because we are holding off of TTC until April due to my husband's deployment schedule...but i check in regularly and lurk around and respond randomly

anyways, please feel free to message me if you need anything.

FL Mama · #17 October 26th, 2011, 05:22 PM

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I love you! I can tell I'm going to enjoy having you on this board... though I hope both of us won't linger here too long.

Thanks, and me too!

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Sorry for your losses and welcome. I am Nena, we are TTC #2 with a loss almost 3 weeks ago at 6 1/2 weeks. I hope you heal quickly and can get back to TTC again soon!

Hi, Nena. Thanks so much.

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Oh no Heather!!!! I'm so sorry to hear it! We were in the same DDC Oh, I'm so so sad for you. This is a really supportive part of the forum, it has really been a wonderful place to be able to come and get advice, and just have listening ears and nice ladies. I sincerely wish you the best. Hugs!

Yes, I remember you. Thanks for the warm welcome.

Thanks to you all.

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Heather....I was in the april ddc with you too. but, i left pretty early on in the game. I am soooooo sorry to see you have to join over here, but hope that your stay is short. I hope you get the answers you need from your doctor soon and just know that we are all here for support. I haven't been on here a lot lately because we are holding off of TTC until April due to my husband's deployment schedule...but i check in regularly and lurk around and respond randomly

anyways, please feel free to message me if you need anything.

Hi, Heather. I hope you are doing well. Thanks for the welcome.

MillerMom2b · #18 October 26th, 2011, 06:10 PM

Hi Heather...so sorry for your loss... your positive attitude is inspiring...
I only just joined this group, but already they have been so kind, and supportive. My name is Ashley, I had my M/C at 11 wks back in March. We just got married in July..now we are TTC #1! Happy Anniversary!

FL Mama · #19 October 26th, 2011, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by MillerMom2b

Hi Heather...so sorry for your loss... your positive attitude is inspiring...
I only just joined this group, but already they have been so kind, and supportive. My name is Ashley, I had my M/C at 11 wks back in March. We just got married in July..now we are TTC #1! Happy Anniversary!

Hi, Ashley. Thank you.

FL Mama · #20 October 26th, 2011, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by MillerMom2b

Hi Heather...so sorry for your loss... your positive attitude is inspiring...
I only just joined this group, but already they have been so kind, and supportive. My name is Ashley, I had my M/C at 11 wks back in March. We just got married in July..now we are TTC #1! Happy Anniversary!

Hi, Ashley. Thank you.