Talk me down from the ledge!

ninja_mommy · #1 October 26th, 2011, 09:35 PM

So, my numbers came back from Monday's draw as having negative HCG in my blood, which I guess I never understand how it can be negative. Anyways, I have been getting some EWCM lately, I doubt I am even close to ovulating as the OPK's are super light.
So, seeing the EWCM is tempting me to jump back into TTC even though I haven't had one full cycle yet. The physician's assistant said they generally recommend 2 full cycles before trying again. We have decided to see what next AF is like and if things go smoothly and look "ok" then we will TTC next cycle. And if things don't seem right we will wait another cycle.
I've never gone through this before, so I can only gather info from google...which I have spent WAY too much time on to see what other people's outcomes have been.
I just feel that we had an early loss and the m/c was relatively "quick & not as bad as it could have been."
Just talk me out of TTC right now. My brain says no, but my heart says yes. But, you know, this heart gets me into trouble sometimes.

.:Shortcake:. · #2 October 27th, 2011, 03:50 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. As far as TTC again right away usually most doctors say to wait 1 full cycle and that is mainly for dating purposes. My doctor told me if your body is not ready you will not get pregnant. Make sure you are not just physically ready but emotionally ready as well. That is one of the reasons some doctors tell you to wait. So what I will say is follow your heart. If you and your DH feel ready to try again then go for it, but if your not emotionally ready yet then hold off until you are. Hope that helps

*SamF* · #3 October 27th, 2011, 06:11 AM

to Katie.
TO me it sounds like you are teetering on being emotionally ready, but maybe not quite there. Just follow what sounds right and comfy for you.

junie22 · #4 October 27th, 2011, 06:16 AM

Nena, that's such a tough decision, knowing your situation so well. I'm sure you and DH will decide what's best. My loss was a couple of week before yours, so I jumped right back into trying. Only time will tell if that was a good or bad decision.

I hope you come to a decision that makes you comfortable. I'm so very glad, though, that you are healing so quickly. Yay!

pepper73 · #5 October 27th, 2011, 06:47 AM

I totally agree with the others. If you are emotionally ready now and are tracking your cycle through temps, OPK's, etc...then the dating thing wouldn't be an issue since you'd know when you ovulated. It really comes down to what you are ready for in your heart and mind. Please keep us posted and let us know how you are doing!

ninja_mommy · #6 October 27th, 2011, 08:37 AM

I am ready, but I don't think DH is quite yet because he wants to go with whatever the doctors say. But, he's not really making an "informed" decision. It just sucks being in limbo!

.:Shortcake:. · #7 October 27th, 2011, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by ninja_mommy

I am ready, but I don't think DH is quite yet because he wants to go with whatever the doctors say. But, he's not really making an "informed" decision. It just sucks being in limbo!

Sometimes if you sit down and write out how your feeling to your DH it is easier for them to understand. I know some of DH and I's best conversations are via email because he has a hard time expressing how he is feeling in person. So by writing it down he can tell me and I can tell him and it just really works out that you can think about how you want to say things