Just when I feel better my husband gets worse....

acchickpea · #1 November 9th, 2011, 08:21 AM

I semi have grips on my acceptance of my SIL being pregnant but after meeting with the in laws last night but my husband just was not himself. He told me that it's getting harder for him to deal with the fact that people who have issues are pregnant and the ones that are ready can not. That was how I felt a few month back but I am now trying to not have someone elses life affect mine. I'm trying to tell him that he should not let it effect you and to focus on us. I feel so horrible because that feeling was taking over my soul.... and I just couldn't let myself be a sour person... I never was... It's in reverse... I felt bitter in the begining and he was fine then I'm getting better and he's getting bittter... I just need to get pregnant and this would just wash away!

ninja_mommy · #2 November 9th, 2011, 07:06 PM

I am still struggling with feelings of bitterness to those who are pregnant around my old DD. I mean, I'm still happy for them, but you can't help but to think "Why did this happen to ME?" Poor DH, he just needs his time to grieve too

.:Shortcake:. · #3 November 10th, 2011, 03:28 AM

everyone has to deal with it in their own time and way. The best thing you can do is be there for your DH and tell him how you felt that way too. Let him deal with it in his own way though.

pepper73 · #4 November 10th, 2011, 05:09 AM

I'm so sorry. It's really a hard thing to deal with. I agree to offer him support and let him grieve. I hope that you get your BFP soon so you and he can celebrate!

acchickpea · #5 November 10th, 2011, 06:33 AM

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Originally Posted by ninja_mommy

I am still struggling with feelings of bitterness to those who are pregnant around my old DD. I mean, I'm still happy for them, but you can't help but to think "Why did this happen to ME?" Poor DH, he just needs his time to grieve too

Exactly...... I'm fortunate to have you ladies to vent and let out my feelings but DH just kept it internally until recently... I feel horrible and wish I could be supportive too but it's like the blind leading the blind.... You know? How can I give the support he needs if I'm not fully over it.... ugh....