[Lindz253]

My docs office said I have to wait until after my next period to try again - they want to make sure all the preg hormone is gone. But she told me I was already at a 3 and they consider anything under 2 not pregnant so in my mind I will be at a 2 or less in no time. I mean I just started spotting/bleeding yesterday and already down to a 3 seems like that is fast? Or maybe not I don't know much about levels etc. Or they should be down more at least by the time I ovulate next, right???

Im never the one to go against doctor's orders but man I just don't want to wait. Im ready (emtionally) plus I don't want to get pregnant in December and have another September baby because I already have a daughter born in Sept and its also my birth month too. So that would mean waiting 2 more cycles. Ugh, Im just so frazzled and upset and confused and mad.

Did you all wait one cycle after your M/C's? Am I dumb for not wanting to?

[L-SBB]

i totally understand frustration of waiting...i'm not quite 1/2 way done with my doctor recommended wait period, and i'm anxious for it to be over!

With both losses I followed my Dr recommendations - partly b/c i have good relationship with her & respect her opinion...and partly b/c both times it made sense for me to wait.

I've seen people TTC immediately after suffering a loss...some had success, and some where they had subsequent m/c. I don't think you should let any of that influence your decision though....if you feel strongly about trying again immediately, why not have another convo with your doctor and ask for the reasons why they're recommending you wait? You can decide based on their individual assessment of your situation whether those reasons are compelling...or not...

Whatever you decide to do, wishing you the very best of luck when you TTC again!

[ninja_mommy]

No, you are not dumb! My OB recommended to wait 2 cycles after my m/c at 6 1/2 weeks. I think we are just doing the one to make sure everything was cleared out.
I would think that with chemicals there shouldn't be a problem with trying again right away, but I don't know much about trying after m/c.

[junie22]

Lindsey, I think it's a little strange that your doctor wants you to wait. It seems that what you experienced was more of a chemical pregnancy (like mine) than a miscarriage, since the hCG stayed so low. Perhaps it's because of your last loss, but those were totally different circumstances.

With an hCG level that low, I don't see the problem. Mine was at 8 the day I started bleeding heavily, and it was down to 0 within a few days. So I'm sure you're fine physically to try again this cycle. It's just up to you with how you feel emotionally.

I tried the cycle after my loss, and it didn't work out. But that doesn't mean it won't for you. If your body isn't ready, you won't get pregnant.

Good luck, and KUP on what you decide.

[roziecakes]

I've heard that OBs often recommend to wait a cycle because it's a standard thing that they do, but that it honestly isn't medically necessary usually. In my case, I started trying again right away! The first 6 weeks after M/C I didn't actually O or anything, so after my first AF, this is technically my first cycle trying since the M/C. But my doc told me that if I was ready then I could just try as soon as I wanted to! Hope that helps somewhat.

Maybe ask your doc why they suggested that you do that, what is the reasoning?

[firstxmommy]

Originally Posted by Lindz253

My docs office said I have to wait until after my next period to try again - they want to make sure all the preg hormone is gone. But she told me I was already at a 3 and they consider anything under 2 not pregnant so in my mind I will be at a 2 or less in no time. I mean I just started spotting/bleeding yesterday and already down to a 3 seems like that is fast? Or maybe not I don't know much about levels etc. Or they should be down more at least by the time I ovulate next, right???

Im never the one to go against doctor's orders but man I just don't want to wait. Im ready (emtionally) plus I don't want to get pregnant in December and have another September baby because I already have a daughter born in Sept and its also my birth month too. So that would mean waiting 2 more cycles. Ugh, Im just so frazzled and upset and confused and mad.

Did you all wait one cycle after your M/C's? Am I dumb for not wanting to?

I didn't miscarry, my daughter was delivered stillborn @ 23 weeks. I'm probably really dumb for not wanting to wait. I just delivered October 17th and want to start trying as soon as the 6 week wait is over. I am one to go against doctor's orders. I'm not bragging, just stating the truth. I do think it's dumb. They know what's in our best interest. . . that is, if you have a good doctor. I just think my doctor is taking it a little too far. He's suggesting I wait @ least 6 months. I had preeclampsia and hellp syndrome so I was really sick and am still bouncing back now. But, as soon as I get my blood pressure under control, I personally believe I'm ready. i am going to go against doctor's orders. I am smart enough to make sure everything is normal first though (e.g. liver enzymes, platelet count, blood pressure, and kidneys). I think if you are ready emotionally and physically there's no reason to not go for it. I can understand in my situation why doctor's are saying I should wait at least a few months but if you are ok physically, I don't see why you should wait. But, that's just me. . . stubborn and strong-willed Leasa. Lol. Good luck!

[Lindz253]

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[doremi]

We waited until our 3rd cycle after the 1st miscarriage. Mainly because I just felt like my body wasn't ready. Our second miscarriage, we didn't wait. That loss didn't take the same toll on my body that the first one did, and we just felt ready. My OB recommended we wait 3 cycles with each loss, because she said that our m/c rate goes up by 4% if we get pregnant sooner. However, she was also quick to say she completely understood if we chose to TTC sooner, that it was a personal decision, and she just wanted us to be aware of the added risk.

[K.A.T]

I just found out that mine wants me to wait too. I told him that it's too late for this cycle. He says I should have one normal cycle before I try. So I figure that if this cycle is a bust, I guess I can skip the month of Dec. and start fresh in the New Year. I don't want to though...

[Zoey1981]

My DH and I personally have not desided to wait. I m/c naturally just a week after AF was due to arrive this last month. I think it has more to do with how far along you were ANd if you needed help with the m/c (d&c or medications) and if your emotionally ready.

Here is an article I found and I so far have had two doctors think its not a big deal to TTC right away with one saying to wait.

Study: No Need to Delay Pregnancy After Miscarriage

[Zoey1981]

Originally Posted by K.A.T

I just found out that mine wants me to wait too. I told him that it's too late for this cycle. He says I should have one normal cycle before I try. So I figure that if this cycle is a bust, I guess I can skip the month of Dec. and start fresh in the New Year. I don't want to though...

But if you didn't get pg this cycle then wouldn't you then be able to try anyway next month because you would have had a "normal" cycle btwn.

[pepper73]

I don't blame you for not wanting to wait. In my personal opinion, if your levels are already at 3, you will reach 0 in no time and there shouldn't be any reason why you should wait. I agree that you might want to ask your doctor why she recommends that. If there's no medical reason, then I say just go with your heart and do what you feel is right for you. With my m/c, my doctor told me to wait 3 months. I waited until I got my first post-m/c AF and then started the next cycle. The only reason I did that was I wanted to make sure my cycle returned to normal before I TTC. A lot of times, doctors will advise you to wait a cycle for dating purposes if there's a new pregnancy. But, since your levels are so low and if you are charting with OPK's, temps, etc...then that wouldn't be an issue.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I also don't blame you for not wanting to wait. My doctor and I are on really good terms. After my losses she told me I *should* wait one cycle for dating purposes but other than that there was no medical reason to wait. She knew I wanted to try again right away and she respected that and actually just followed me more closely. Maybe if you explain to your doctor how you feel you guys can still stay on the same page.

[K.A.T]

Originally Posted by Zoey1981

But if you didn't get pg this cycle then wouldn't you then be able to try anyway next month because you would have had a "normal" cycle btwn.

You could very well be right...hmmmm

[sandiegomom]

I too, wanted to believe that an early m/c was not an issue with ttc right away. my dr. advised me otherwise. i did it anyways, because I thought I knew better....and had another m/c immediately. does it mean you will? nope, it doesn't. but, the dr. told me that the risk of m/c goes up quite a bit if you don't wait a full cycle, and he recommended 2 cycles. he said he does see some go on to have perfect pregnancies if they don't wait, but it is more often the other way around. he said that the uterine lining doesn't always build back up properly and that can be the reason for the increased risk of m/c, even if it is a normal pregnancy. so, i decided he probably knew better than me...or any advice I was getting off the internet and took his advice. you will have to make your own decisions, just make sure you think it out. I have read that the waiting is for "dating purposes" but my dr. said that was absolutely not the reason. i don't know. that is what I had read on here...and on the internet...and that was why I felt like i would be fine to try again so soon. I wish I would have just waited. but, whatever you choose to do, I hope you have a wonderful, healthy pregnancy soon!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Originally Posted by sandiegomom

I too, wanted to believe that an early m/c was not an issue with ttc right away. my dr. advised me otherwise. i did it anyways, because I thought I knew better....and had another m/c immediately. does it mean you will? nope, it doesn't. but, the dr. told me that the risk of m/c goes up quite a bit if you don't wait a full cycle, and he recommended 2 cycles. he said he does see some go on to have perfect pregnancies if they don't wait, but it is more often the other way around. he said that the uterine lining doesn't always build back up properly and that can be the reason for the increased risk of m/c, even if it is a normal pregnancy. so, i decided he probably knew better than me...or any advice I was getting off the internet and took his advice. you will have to make your own decisions, just make sure you think it out. I have read that the waiting is for "dating purposes" but my dr. said that was absolutely not the reason. i don't know. that is what I had read on here...and on the internet...and that was why I felt like i would be fine to try again so soon. I wish I would have just waited. but, whatever you choose to do, I hope you have a wonderful, healthy pregnancy soon!

I have to disagree on this one. Yes there is a chance you could have a loss right away if you try but you can also go on to have a healthy pregnancy. There is no scientific evidence showing your more likely to have a loss if you try right away but there is to the contrary. I posted an article here awhile back. I think each doctor is going to have their own opinions on this BUT bottom line is no matter if it's right away or a year from now your chances of having another loss are the same after having 1 m/c. I'm not trying to stir up anything here I just wanted to share this info

Women Can Safely Get Pregnant Right After Miscarriage, Study Shows – Health OMG!

[humnck]

After my 1st loss, we decided not to wait either, well, we waited until AF came and went 1x, we tried and had a successful pg. That isn't to say that it happens every time, but it happened for us. If, in your heart, you feel ready, go for it, knowing that, if your body isn't ready, it likely won't allow implantation, not in every case, but most. I would tend to agree with most others on here, talk to your doc, ask what the reasoning is - my doc said for my body to heal, but she also said, it's up to me. I am just really praying that I made the right decision, but sometimes that is all you can do, hope and pray!

[cheeky_monkey]

When I miscarried I was 11weeks 4 days and my OB knew that I wanted to try immediately but he told us to wait for 3 months. He said that after a m/c the lining needs some time to build up again and that most often the cycle immediately after the loss the body would have a weak lining. He said that he knew of cases who went on to have normal pregnancies but the majority ended up losing the second baby as well. Here they do not bother with dating coz with transvaginal's they can identify easily how far along you are. He knew I did not want to wait for 3 cycles so we reached an agreement for 2 cycles. The bereavement midwife told us the same thing.

My friend was one of those who tried again immediately and she did get pregnant only to lose it at 7 weeks, nearly 8. Now she has been sent for testing and has been told that they have to avoid pregnancy for 6 months. She has until February of next year before they can try again.

I guess it's your decision if you want to wait or not. Personally I would prefer to wait at least for one cycle though to give my body a chance to readjust itself - but that is only my 1c. Good luck for whatever decision you make take!

[Lindz253]

Thanks everyone for giving your input! I really appreciate it. I think Im going to go ahead and try if I O. It was so early this time it was only 5 or 6 days after my period would have started (don't know exactly b/c I have weird periods). I waited after my 16 week loss and that made sense to me but this time Im just gonna go for it! I just hope I O!

[junie22]

Originally Posted by Lindz253

I just hope I O!

I'm sure you'll O. Just keep in mind that your cycle could still be a little weird, like more CM and a different O date. But I bet everything else will be pretty normal.