ALright ladies, can you help me out?

Lindz253 · #1 November 14th, 2011, 01:37 PM

I am over my pity party and decided to be nothing but positive. I am heading to the gym (even though I dispise working out with a pad on) Oh wait ...can I use a tampon? Hmmm, never asked that. Anyway, I plan to eat healthy and get fit as much as I can before getting pregnant again.

I need help knowing how to use OPK's. I bought internet cheapies a while ago but never used them. Even if I decide not to try this cycle I still think I should chart to learn what is going on.

Also, is there any recommendations to do when I do get pregnant to help make this bean stick?

Thanks!!!! And I can't wait to enjoy a HUGE glass of red wine tonight!!!

3Sapphires · #2 November 14th, 2011, 01:54 PM

I would think no on the tampon. how far along were you?

my m/c was 6weeks gestation, but didn't pass till 9weeks. the day it started I thought I felt ok - so we took the kids to the park - I really over did it and wiped myself out. Then the real bleeding started.

anyway, don't over do it -

.:Shortcake:. · #3 November 14th, 2011, 03:34 PM

As far as the tampon goes you shouldn't (increased risk of infection). Glass of wine... Go for it

As far as OPK's if your not sure when your ovulating I suggest using them starting CD 8- whenever you get a positive and then an negative. Charting is good as well. As far as getting ready for a pregnancy make sure you taking your prenatal vitamin as well as extra folic acid. Sounds like your in a good mindset but please make sure you take the time for yourself and allow yourself to grieve your loss.

junie22 · #4 November 14th, 2011, 03:47 PM

Lindsey, you sound a lot like me. My loss was early, too, and I was devastated for a while, but I just felt like I had to dust myself off quickly. I admit that I did not work out for a few days afterward, but you should do what you need to help relieve the stress. I didn't use a tampon with the bleeding. I took it easy while the bleeding was heavy and just made sure I was near a bathroom. (I absolutely hate pads!) Mine ended up being heavier than a normal period but only lasted about as long as a typical one. So I hope yours is the same way.

OPKs - since it's your first cycle using them, I recommend you start after all your bleeding and spotting has stopped. I personally use them once per day (usually in the early evening). When I start getting fertile CM, I pick that up to twice per day (morning and evening). You're probably fine just testing once per day, but I think for the first cycle, it's nice to see how long your surge actually lasts and get a feel for it all.

Keep in mind, too, that this cycle will probably be weird. I had a lot more CM throughout my cycle following the loss, including 9 days of watery/EWCM leading up to O, which is unheard of for me. It's just something to keep in mind.

Charting would be a great idea. It's how I learned that I have a short LP, which was most likely the reason for the loss. So using OPKs and at least charting temps will really help you understand your body better. If you end up having an LP issue, I'd be happy to answer any questions you have about that.

You might also, if you're not already doing so, take a baby aspirin every day. It promotes blood flow to your uterus, which can help both with conception and with preventing clots around the placenta if you do conceive.

Good luck, Lindsey. But also definitely take the time to grieve. We're here for you.

Lindz253 · #5 November 14th, 2011, 05:32 PM

Darn, I hate pads but oh well.

I hope this isn't taken the wrong way or hurt anyone's feelings because this is just my feelings from my experiences but with this loss being so early it was so much easier for me to be ok with it. I just thank God it wasn't 16 weeks like last time. I feel totally emtionally ready. I was shocked yesterday and upset when I started to really bleed but by the time they called me today with my blood results I already knew what was happening.

I think I am going to use OPK's to see if/when I ovulate and just give it a try. If it doesn't happen then I will see if we want another Sept baby or wait a month.

Thank you for all the advice and tips! I will start with the OPK's once I stop bleeding. I have a ton.

Man this wine is good....

junie22 · #6 November 14th, 2011, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Lindz253

I hope this isn't taken the wrong way or hurt anyone's feelings because this is just my feelings from my experiences but with this loss being so early it was so much easier for me to be ok with it.

I totally understand. I can't imagine going through a loss at 16 weeks. Mine made me very sad, but it was much easier to get over than a later loss. You'll decide what's best for you, and I'm sure you'll get your sticky BFP soon.

Enjoy that wine! I know I did last week.

ninja_mommy · #7 November 14th, 2011, 08:00 PM

The ladies already gave some great advice. So hear are my

I do want to warn though that it's not easy seeing fertile CM and getting a positive OPK and sitting out that cycle if that's what you decide. We prevented this cycle and the only reason we didn't try was because DH stuck to his guns and said no. Was probably the best in the long run. And post OPK's for us, I know I love to analyze them!