[ninja_mommy]

Well, I knew seeing SIL (pg with twins) would bother me this Thanksgiving, but it didn't help that every other minute she was complaining about being sick, not being able to eat and on and on! I mean, she said she knew how bad it hurt to have a loss (vanishing twin) so don't you think she would remember to be somewhat thoughtful of her comments?
Don't get me wrong, I love her and am very happy for their family, but this loss is still so fresh and her million comments didn't help
thanks for listening

[junie22]

Nena. That's really insensitive of her. I'm sure she didn't mean anything by it, but she should have thought about how she was acting/what she was saying before doing so. I'm so thankful I'm not spending Thanksgiving with family because I have a pregnant SIL who I know for a fact would have gotten on my nerves.

Hope you're back home and will be feeling better soon.

[TKbunny]

I agree, with Adrienne hun. I'm sure she didn't mean to be insensitive, but sometimes we don't think about what we say, that it might have more impact on someone then we might think it would. But sometimes I think (and sorry if this offends anyone, not trying to, just my opinion) people play the 'poor me' card with things like this because they want a little more attention. There are people in my family like that. They say they hate this or that but they keep drawing attention to it. It can get on my nerves. I feel you, I really do. Hang in there hun. We're here for you any time, vent when you need to.

[mummy4]

That is pretty upsetting for you hun, I do feel for you ((hugs))

Me and my sil were pg at the same time, we told my parents a day apart, when she went onto misscarry I was very careful not to mention my pregnancy when her or my brother were there and only talked bout it if they brought it up. Now she got a ds a year younger than my ds.

I wish you all the best hun a loss is hard, it's a good job we don't have to live with ppl like that XX

[K.A.T]

I'm so sorry. It sucks when people forget that others aren't as fortunate as they are at the moment.

[Doodle_Jr.]

I'm sorry. I would have been crying for sure.

[ninja_mommy]

Thanks ladies I know she didn't mean to do it purposefully, but I was hoping she would take a hint at my silence. She does tend to be a drama queen at times, so, none of this surprised me I guess! On the upside at least my next LO won't have to be sharing a birthday with 3 other cousins (literally!)

[Lindz253]

Sorry your SIL wasn't a little more careful with her words. I know EXACTLY how you felt - a week after my 16 week loss I asked a bunch of girls to go get margaritas and eat dinner. One friend who was there lost her son at 24 weeks and had been having struggles to even get pregnant again. My pregnant friend came in complaining of so many things and I just sat there thinking I would give anything to be feeling those "pains" you are right now and I know my other friend would too.

At least this experience has opened our eyes so that if someone else is in our shoes we know how to act, what to say and what not to say. Im glad I won't be ignorant anymore and be the one saying something insensitive to hurt anyone's feelings.

So glad you are looking at the upside that your next LO will have their own b-day and not have to share!