[ericswife11]

Well I am currently still bleeding. I hate going to the bathroom but I have to so that is what it is. This m/c for some reason hasn't hit me as hard as my last. I think because last time it didn't even occur to me that I would or could miscarry and I think this time I felt it was a very real possibility. But then again I feel like I have wrapped myself up in the idea of trying again and still buying baby things and watching pregnancy vlogs. SO I dont really know if I have numbed myself to it and one day Im just going to break down or what. All I can think about is when I am going to TTC and how long I should wait. Really I don't want to wait at all but I know its best emotionally and physically to wait. sorry im ranting but I cant say any of this out loud to anyone because they just don't get it. Thank you for letting me vent and I guess my question is for those of you who have had multiple M/Cs how long do you wait?

[ninja_mommy]

I've only had one, but I think everyone is different, even after multiple losses. I have a friend who has had 9 losses and she would still try every time.

[Zoey1981]

I have had a couple m/c this year and the first one we didn't continue to keep trying. We started back up again in Aug. I got pg btwn Sept-Oct and m/c again. We did ttc this last month but didn't catch the egg (cycle following m/c) but now we know I have low/fluctuating progesterone levels so praying like crazy this cycle is it. So I guess long story short first time we waited like 5 months and still m/c and this time we aren't waiting at all. BUT my body seems to recover fast and mine was an early m/c (I was at 5 weeks). My O came just one day later and AF came about 2 days later.

Its really up to you and your DH. I strongely believe it will happen when its meant to happen.

[Lcoleman]

Hi. I think we were in the same DDC. Just miscarried Monday night. I feel the same as you. I am ready to try again right away. Hate this waiting game, while I continue to bleed and am reminded every day that I lost my bean.

[Lindz253]

Going to the bathroom and being reminded just plain sucks. After my first loss at 16 weeks I waited 2 cycles to be emotionally ready. I got pg in October and ended up losing it at 4.5 weeks so to me there was no right time to wait so I decided to try immediately after this past loss. I hope you can figure out what you are ready to do. Good luck with your decision.

[BeckyBozeman]

I'm so sorry about your loss... I understand how frustrating it is, and how it hurts you over again every time you go to the bathroom and there is blood.

I just had my second loss as well... My first lasted until 11w,2d and this one was 9w,3d... but both babies stopped growing at about 8 weeks. The first couple of days after this second loss I thought I was doing great, that it was going to be easier this time. I was wrong and I broke down and have been really struggling with depression this time. I hope it's different for you...

I just saw a new doctor and I'm planning to wait a couple of months. After the first loss we got pregnant on the third cycle trying. I want to give my body a couple of months to recuperate, but then that's me and my doc today said that there's so much conflicting information that she just plain old doesn't know what's best. I really believe that it's mostly important to wait until you're emotionally ready, because being pregnant after a loss is stressful. I just think that our bodies won't get pregnant until they're ready...

There's my two cents... HUGS

[BabyLover]

I'm sorry for your loss. I was also in your DDC. I guess right now DH and I aren't exactly sure when we'll start TTC again. Probably the beginning of the year we'll at least do NTNP. I'm still bleeding a bit also.

[humnck]

Originally Posted by BeckyBozeman

I just think that our bodies won't get pregnant until they're ready...

I totally agree with Becky's 2 cents! I think when our bodies aren't ready, it won't happen, unless there is an underlying reason that may be unknown. For me, the 2nd loss hit me harder than the first, mostly because I had seen a hb and then walked around for 3 weeks telling people and thinking all was dandy, until I had an u/s at almost 12 weeks and found that the baby had stopped growing only 3 days after the other u/s and the hb had stopped. I think it really depends on you and how you handle the situation, for me, I knew I needed to jump right back on the band wagon, so that I would feel better about it, even if I didn't get pg right away, at least I knew it was going to happen eventually and I will eventually get my rainbow baby.

I am so sorry that you have to go through this, it just plain sucks that anyone does! HUGS and I hope you get your sticky BFP when you are ready!!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Rant away! We understand here and this is a safe place. As for trying I have tried right away after all my losses. My doctor originally told me to wait 1 cycle for dating purposes but she knows me and also said there was no "medical" reason to wait. If your body is not ready it won't happen. Just make sure you are emotionally ready as well. For me it helps knowing I'm working towards my rainbow baby and not just sitting around dwelling... others need time for closure first. I hope that helps hun.

[ericswife11]

Hi ladies Thank you for all your kind words and opinions. i whent to the doctor today and while I trust him and his opinion I disagree with him that i should wait for 3 months. My question is Why? Why should i wait? I can understand 1 cycle but what is the magic number of 3? I am def waiting fo one cycle but i fully intend to baby buy until then and stay in constant baby mode. It will keep me sain but i just realised I have been pregnant for almost 4 months except for all of 2 weeks and now when most would be finding out the gender of their beautiful babies, i am grieving for the second time. Ugh. I stupidly just popped into my may ddc and saw where those lucky women are doing just that and its rough seeing that. Don't get me wrong im happy for them. I am so so happy for them but I'm still very jealous. Is that wrong. I would never wish this on anyone else but I do wish I was still pregnant and having my baby in May or July. I just loved them both so much.