[Lindz253]

I have only had 1 person not know I had a M/C and it was uncomfortable explaining what happened but that was about 2 weeks after it happened.

Friday night I went to a Holiday Market at the Country Club we belong to and a girl there who knows my friend was in town from California. She came over to introduce herself (never met her) and she asked when I had my third and I had to tell her I lost the baby. She felt so bad and then I felt bad - that whole thing.

Saturday morning I went to the YMCA to work out and a girl I graduated with, who I hadn't seen in a long time said - now didn't you have a third kid? So I had to explain what happened again.

Then TONIGHT (Sunday) I was at the Country Club again for a children's Christmas puppet show and my SIL's friend asked Trevor when we had our third. I didn't hear the interaction but I learned that it happened because she came over to say she had no idea I lost the baby and said how sorry she was.

I just can't believe I havn't had to deal with these questions and then bam...3 days in a row! Weird.

[LittleMomma09]

I'm sorry sweetie. To me it seems easier to talk about my MC on here than with friends who have never went through it, most people don't know what to say and most make it worse. I had a friend who didn't know about mine make things worse by telling me God didn't want me to have a baby so he took it. I could have smacked her. Also I hate that you have had it brought up 3days in a row. Hopefully someone wont make tomorrow day number 4.

[ninja_mommy]

I couldn't talk to a lot of my family about it in person for awhile because it just hurt to say those words.

[ericswife11]

Im so sorry! hugs hugs hugs! Its always awkward explaining what happened. At least they were sorry and understanding. Most of the people i tell act like its no big deal.

[cdukes2010]

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I also have a hard time talking to people about it. And how uncomfortable for someone to approach you about it in a public setting.

[joanna26]

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that

[.:Shortcake:.]

For me at the point I'm at now I can easily talk about my angels, my m/c and the heartache. But when the pain was raw and fresh simple things tipped me off and that would have sent me bawling. Stay strong hun! We are here for you!

[humnck]

After my loss, people that knew would check on me and say I am so sorry, I would talk about it and sometimes that made me feel better, to know that I was talking about my baby and not forgetting how life can change so quickly and unexpectedly. I had some people ask me when I was due who didn't know I had lost the baby and then felt awful for asking when I told them. I honestly found it (after some time had passed) better when I did talk about it, I also found a lot more people IRL that have been through the same thing and are very empathetic. It is hard though, there were times when I wanted to cry, but had to put on a "I'm okay" face, because I didn't want people to "feel sorry" for me. I hope your weekend got better and you didn't have to deal with another person asking about it!

[Lindz253]

Thanks for the comforting words everyone

I definitely don't have a problem talking about it, I like to actually. I just hate the ackwardness when someone doesn't know it happened and I have to explain and I hate seeing how guilty they feel for not have knowing.

Plus it was just so weird being 3 days in a row!