am i wrong? (M/C mentioned)

ericswife11 · #1 December 4th, 2011, 07:37 AM

So I have realized I have literally been pregnant for 4 months with two different babies and I have lost both. I just want to be pregnant now. I just want to have a baby in my arms in the near future. MY SIL thinks she may be pregnant and to be honest I hope she is. But I want to be preg too. Hubby and everyone around me thinks we need to wait a couple of months at least until we have a couple normal cycles. My brain knows that is whats right to do but my heart just want a normal happy pregnancy right now. DH and DTD last night. For the first time in a long time and im wondering if that could have done it. We have no trouble getting PG. My mom and I joke that the women in our family are so fertile that you can look at us and we get pregnant but with my past losses I am also terrified. IDK what to do. But am I wrong to not want to wait 3 months to get PG? I am going to start taking prenatals now and of course eating right. FXd for a HHPG with in thhe next couple months

Zoey1981 · #2 December 4th, 2011, 10:56 AM

Have you had your progesterone levles checked? I have had two successful pregnancies and just this past year my DH and I are trying to concieve again (this time we are praying for a little girl) and it turns out I have low or fluctuating progesterone levels. So now after I O about 2-3 days after I need to take suppliments for it. (Oh btw I have had two consecutive m/c this year.)

Lindz253 · #3 December 4th, 2011, 11:52 AM

You arn't wrong in feeling you want to be pregnant again. I have the same feelings. I hope you figure out what you want to do (keep trying this cycle or wait). Its also hard when a family member or friend says they are pregnant, it brings those feelings right back up. Good luck in making your decision.

ninja_mommy · #4 December 4th, 2011, 12:42 PM

No, you are not wrong. I do want to caution though I am trying to relax with having the "want to be pregnant right now" obsession. I was getting pretty deep into it and how I wasn't pregnant anymore. If I continued that way I'm sure I could have easily slipped into depression. Currently I am trying to practice my patience. Easier said than done.
I am focusing on staying healthy, rebuilding vitamins, lining and healing. It really sucks to have the "it will happen when it happens" attitude, but that's what I'm rolling with right now since that is keeping my sanity.

cdukes2010 · #5 December 4th, 2011, 01:37 PM

I don't think you are wrong at all for feeling that way. I really really miss being pregnant, in fact I feel so guilty for taking it for granted and not enjoying it. I think we all go through the feelings of desperately wanting to be pregnant after a loss. You should do what you feel is right and of course what your doctor suggests. I had to think to myself..ok if we try now there is a very good chance I might have to go through all of this again but if I wait until I have a normal cycle maybe it will work out.

humnck · #6 December 5th, 2011, 08:29 AM

You are not wrong at all, but at the same time, you and DH have to agree on when the right time is. You have to remember that he went through it too and although it may not have been as hard on him, because his body didn't experience everything, his emotions are still involved. Talk to him about why he thinks you should wait, maybe you can come to a compromise? Or maybe after talking about it, you two will both be on the same page either way...

Sometimes waiting is best for health reasons, sometimes it really doesn't make a difference. If your body isn't ready, it won't get pg, if your lining isn't thick enough, it likely won't allow for implantation. It's so hard to wait, I know, I decided not to after my first loss, because I felt what was best for me was to get right back into TTC. I went on to have a beautiful healthy baby, but I know I am lucky and it doesn't always happen that way.

I really hope you get your BFP when you are good and ready!! GL!!

.:Shortcake:. · #7 December 5th, 2011, 09:30 AM

It's not wrong to want to feel that way. But putting pressure on yourself for it to happen right away does not help. I agree with the others about having your progesterone. And as for waiting why don't you just try the "not trying, not preventing" and see if it takes the stress off of you Having losses back to back are always really hard on me. If you ever need to talk I'm here.