Update on me and your thoughts please (m/c mentioned)

cdukes2010 · #1 December 6th, 2011, 07:42 AM

If you were following my previous post you know that my body has been acting a bit wonky.

Thursday- Positive OPKs
Friday-Positive OPKs and a positive HPT
Saturday- Full day of bleeding not just spotting
Sunday- No bleeding at all or spotting, temp spike leading me to believe that I was in fact O'ing
Monday-Temp drop, spotting in the evening, HCG blood draw still shows 52.5

So here I am 7 weeks out from our loss and I still have hcg in my system. The nurse wants me to come in tomorrow for another lab to rule out the numbers going up. As I said before this is 99.9% unlikely that I would be pg again. She said if they rule out another pregnancy which they WILL I will probably need to schedule a D&C. My insurance deductible ends Jan 1st and hardly anything has been covered thus far so I'm freaking out, both about the fact that this procedure is expensive and for the fact that I feel like I have to relive the whole process again. To make matters worse I will be meeting my pregnant SIL for the first time this month and at this rate it's not going to be easy at all. I really thought I was getting to a point where I could handle it but with all of this I feel like it's a major setback.

Sorry for my rant, DH is busy at work and my best friend is not responding to my emails and I just need to talk to someone.

Has anyone experienced a similar situation?

1InSummerland · #2 December 6th, 2011, 09:42 AM

I don't any helpful information to offer you, but I wanted to send you lots of

. I know how hard it is to feel like you're reliving the whole loss. I found out at the end of January that Angel wasn't going to make it. It wasn't until the end of February that we found out that she was gone. It was the beginning of March when I had my D&C. I know it isn't quite the same but I do understand and I am so sorry that you have to go through this.

Lindz253 · #3 December 6th, 2011, 10:43 AM

You poor thing. Its so unfair to have a loss in the first place but its double unfair that it is dragging on like this for you. I will say a big prayer that somehow you are in fact pregnant with a sticky bean.
Lots of HUGS! and please KUP on your next appt.

ericswife11 · #4 December 6th, 2011, 12:46 PM

Im so sorry that you are having to go through this. I know what you mean about the dealing w pg women u met someone at work the other day with my may dd and it was heart breaking. And as far as insurance goes could you check with your hospital to see if they offer any financial help. Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way!

ninja_mommy · #5 December 6th, 2011, 01:17 PM

I'm so sorry this is being so drawn out for you. Julie has went through this too. You might want to talk with her. We are here to listen

joanna26 · #6 December 6th, 2011, 02:40 PM

I'm so sorry this has drawn out this way sweetie

Sending prayers your way for a resolution so that you can move forward.

junie22 · #7 December 6th, 2011, 02:47 PM

Rant anytime. I've not experienced a similar situation, but I did want to offer you hugs.

cdukes2010 · #8 December 6th, 2011, 05:41 PM

Thank you ladies, I'm so thankful I have you all to talk to because no one around me really seems to get it. I know it will get better...I just need to survive the part in between completely craptastic and better.

JulieMc · #9 December 6th, 2011, 06:02 PM

My m/c started Sept. 19. Bleed for 10 or so days. Went for routine hcg check to make sure it was going down, it went up. So I kept having to go back once or twice a week. It continued going up. I was referred by my midwife to an OB, who said I had an ectopic pregnancy and needed to get methotrexate shot. I refused. He threatened me and told me I'd die. The midwife then referred me to another OB, who recommended d&c. I refused, saying I wanted to try cytotec first. He didn't want to let me do that, so I didn't do anything. Then when I went for a follow-up he did another u/s and saw I was about to start bleeding again....I did the next day - October 27. I did not stop bleeding for two weeks, and it was towards the end of the two weeks that the placenta passed. That flushed out everything and hcg dropped immediately. I wholeheartedly believe that our bodies know what to do, some just take a little longer...like mine did. But I guess at some point...you have to wonder.....is it worth waiting and waiting, or would you rather just get it done with and have a d&c? That's a decision only you can make.... for me, the risks were not worth it.